Happy 4th  Anniversary

Today is our wedding anniversary. Like every anniversary, I am writing a letter to my dear hubby.

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My dearest AS,

Happy 4th Anniversary my darling.

I want to let you know that every passing year, my love has only deepened because it always gives me more opportunities to appreciate how amazing you are. I believe now that a love that has endured this earthly test can never end and I swore to love you for time and all eternity.

The way you love me, the way you have come into my life, I wish the journey shall never be end till I die. Thanks for making the day special in my life. Happy Anniversary A, you are my soul mate and I was incomplete without you.

Thank you for always being there and helping me to be all that I can be. Also thank you for the biggest gift of my life, our daughter Chhori.

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All my love, Now and always!

Yours M

XOXO

M from nepaliaustralian

P.S: We are going to dinner with family tonight so update you more later. Till then take care.

Rush to Emergency

I had read somewhere that bad moments don’t make bad mammas but now I have my doubts.

As a new mum, I doubt myself lots of times; I am not sure whether I am the doing right things; whether I am taking care of my baby properly, whether my way of feeding is correct, whether I am changing her correctly and similarly there are many more doubts in my head when I am looking after my daughter. I worry that what I am doing will affect her later in her life.

Most of the time when Chhori smiles or holds onto me it makes me feel great and I forget about all the doubts. But then something happens that breaks that momentary illusion and make me again thing that I’m not as good a mum as I should be and that is one of the worst feelings to have.

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A few weeks ago, I was home with my mum as usual. We were in our living room, mum was watching a movie and I was checking something on the laptop and Chhori was just lying on the ottoman. This was typical of my afternoons. The ottoman was next to me and from time to time I was talking to and playing with Chhori.

Then suddenly from the corner of my eyes I saw Chhori sliding off the ottoman and she fell on the carpeted floor even as I rushed to pick her up. It felt as if my heart leapt out of my body at that moment. The next second she started crying loudly like never before.

That was the first time Chhori rolled onto her side and we were not expecting it at all. I didn’t know what to do. I just tried to console her and checked her to make sure she was not hurt. I was almost crying myself and my mum was trying to help me calm Chhori down.

To make sure that she calmed down I fed her for a few minutes until she stopped crying. After that my mum took Chhori from me and felt her head, hands, legs to see if Chhori would cry when any specific part of the body was felt. Thankfully Chhori did not cry and we hoped that nothing was injured  In that mean time I called our local GP to take her there but as it was Friday and our normal GP was fully booked and suggested I take the baby to emergency instead.

I called AS and told him what happened. I assured him that there was no injury so he wouldn’t freak out.  But I still asked him to meet me at the hospital just in case.

My mother and I took Chhori to the emergency and waited for the doctor. By then Chhori was already her normal self, smiling and looking about with interest. I was kind of sure she was alright but still wanted to be 100% sure.

After a few minutes wait, it was our turn. The doctor did some normal check and told us that she was OK. He also told me that it is normal for kids to fall and they have many cases like that every day. He assured me that I am a good mum and accidents do happen sometimes so not to feel as if I let Chhori down.

He still wanted us to remain at the hospital for 4 hours for observation. He wanted to make sure that there was no brain injury from the fall. It was the longest 4 hours of my life as I was worried. I was praying that everything was OK with Chhori. She looked happy and was playing with her daddy and grandma.

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Finally the 4 hours were over and Chhori was officially fine. She got the all clear from the doctor. We were all so relieved.

It was one of the scariest experiences I have had after having Chhori. I hope not to have to visit the emergency department ever with Chhori.

I am sure I am not the only mum who has been in such situations so please share your story and make me feel a bit better.

Hope you had a great weekend and take care, everyone.

 from nepaliaustralian

XOXO

Getting back to a healthier happier me

I am not sure if it is normal or not but I normally look at my old photos and realise that I had a better body pre-pregnancy.

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During pregnancy I put on 18 kilos in total which was 3 kg more than the recommended weight. I have to admit that most of the weight was around my tummy. My weight gain was normal for the first 6 months but  I was hungry a lot during the last few months of the pregnancy and I was munching on lots of junk food too.

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I continued with my walking and swimming routine but still managed to put on a good amount of weight. The last month was the worst with swollen hands and legs. Summer heat of Sydney didn’t help at all.

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Then my beautiful angle arrived on this earth; healthy and happy which made everything I did seem worth it.

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I thought my tummy would go down straight after the birth of Chhori but I looked like I was still 5 months pregnant when I came home from the hospital.

The weight kept dropping every day after that as I was breastfeeding. Even though  the doctor gave me an all clear to exercise after 6 weeks, I didn’t do much for the first 3 months as I was too busy looking after Chhori and catching up on sleep whenever I had any spare time.

Traditionally in Nepal new mums are given 3-4 meals of rice with jwano ko jhol, minced chicken, lots of ghee (clarified butter) and chaku (molasses). So my mum had similar ideas in her mind for me. For the first month, I was eating everything my mum cooked minus chaku (molasses) without complaining. I was eating rices 2-3 times a day and also consuming chocolate muffins and other junk food.

But after a month I reduced my intake of rice and slowly tried to go back to my normal pre-pregnancy diet but it was a bit difficult at times. I felt so hungry due to breast feeding that it was hard not to eat junk lying around.

I have lost 13 kg so far and so have 5 kg remaining. In order to help me lose the rest and regain my exercise routine, I joined a gym as soon as Chhori turned 3 months.

The first few sessions almost seemed to kill me with the pains and aches but things are getting better now. I am going twice a week these days which should get me into my normal routine slowly and I hope to lose those remaining kilos too.

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I have started to fit into most of my clothes now and hope to fit into everything soon.

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Wish me luck everyone, I will keep you posted on how I go.

Have a great week.

from nepaliaustralian

XOXO

Jwano ko Jhol (Thyme Seeds Soup)

As I mentioned in my previous post, Jwano ko Jhol is a traditional Nepali soup which is given to new mums to increase their supply of milk. I wasn’t very sure about it before but I now swear by it.

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Initially when I started drinking it, I had an over supply of milk so I needed to decrease the amount I drank. Then after a while when I stopped drinking it completely, I could feel the supply of my milk went low as well. So I started drinking it in again but in small amount.

Jwana ko jhol is also believed to have lots of health benefits like helping to heal the wounds, relieve body aches and help with cold and cough. Thyme also has potassium, iron, calcium, manganese, magnesium, and selenium for the well-being of our body.

The soup is very easy to make.

Ingredients for 2 cups of soup

  • 2 tea spoon Jwano (Thyme seed)
  • 1/8 teaspoon of turmeric powder
  • 1 tea spoon of fresh ginger garlic paste
  • ½ tea spoon cumin powder
  • ½ teaspoon ghee (clarified butter)
  • Salt as per taste
  • 2 ½ cups water

Method

  • Heat a saucepan over medium heat and add ghee when hot.
  • When ghee is melted, add jwano, turmeric powder, cumin powder, ginger garlic paste and salt and stir them together.

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  • After about a minute once you smell the ginger garlic flavour add water and let it boil for a few minutes.

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  • Jwana ko jhol is now ready to serve
  • Enjoy!

Take care everyone till next post.

from nepaliaustralian

XOXO

Breasting feeding is an art

Being a new mum, everything is new and every day is a learning experience. Before having a baby, I had never even taken a minute to think about breastfeeding but after having the baby it is my whole world.

Before Chhori was born, we went to Antenatal classes where we learned a lot to help prepare for labour, birth and parenthood. During one of the sessions, I learnt the importance of the mother’s breast milk to a newborn. Breast milk contains the right balance of nutrients for the baby. It is easier to digest than commercial formulas and the antibodies in breast milk boost the baby’s immune system.

So I decided that I would do my best to exclusively breastfeed Chhori. Though I soon realised that reading about breastfeeding is one thing but doing it yourself is something else entirely.

Having Chhori delivered via C section, it was hard for me to do anything for the first few days. It was so frustrating at times when I would see her cry and couldn’t run to pick her up instead I had to buzz the midwife and wait for them to give the baby to me. Most of the midwives at the hospital were really nice but it was still really frustrating at times.

To top things off, as the baby was just a few days old, she didn’t know how to latch properly on my breast and it was painful to watch her cry for milk. There was help available for sure. The maternity nurses do offer breast-feeding tips, starting with how to position the baby and make sure she is latching on correctly. But it is not as easy as it seems.

To make matters worse, on the fourth day I was still in the hospital when I woke up in the middle of the night soaked with my own sweat. It felt as if my breast had increased several cup sizes and it was very painful. I felt so unwell that I buzzed for the midwife straightaway.

She came and touched my forehead and went to get the doctor straight away. I had fever and the doctor told me it was normal as my body was starting to produce milk. I was in so much pain that I started to cry.  I know it sounds silly now but at that time I couldn’t control myself. The doctor gave me some medicine and took Chhori to the nursery for the next 4 hours so I could rest.

It took a few days and numerous tries and lots of help from the midwives for me to be confident to breastfeed the baby on my own and by then Chhori also learnt to latch properly.

The first week was the hardest. I remember crying from the pain when Chhori could not latch properly but now it is a lot better. It is true that mum and baby find their rhythm eventually.

I also learnt that breastfeeding made me very thirsty so I make sure I drink plenty of water during and after breastfeeding.

I am so happy that I have a good supply of milk and until now Chhori is on breast milk only and I will love to continue that until her pasni when she will be ready to start her solids.

There are lots of things one can do to help increase the supply of milk and one of them is drinking a special Nepali soup called, Jwano ko Jhol (Thyme Seed Soup). I will post the recipe soon. I swear it worked so well for me that I had to reduce the amount I was drinking as I was producing excess milk.

Apart from breast milk giving your child the best start in life, it also helps moms lose weight. I am surprised but overjoyed that I have lost most of the weight I gained during pregnancy and a huge credit goes to breastfeeding.

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I know it is not easy at times but if possible breastfeeding is one of the greatest gifts we can give to our new born child. I am so happy that I am learning this special art we women are privileged to give our children.

Take care everyone,

from nepaliaustralian

XOXO

Experience of 3 months old mum

They say time flies when you are having fun and it is fun at times being a mum apart from being busy feeding, cleaning and entertaining the baby. Chhori is over 3 months old now and so here are a few things I have learnt as a new mum.

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  • Having the baby is one of the best things you can do in life, you will never love anyone more that your baby.
  • Breastfeeding is an art which takes a while to master.
  • I had no idea that such a small baby poos so much, 15-20 nappy changes in 24 hours is normal.
  • Be careful if you use baby wipes on a newborn as they can easily get rashes and it breaks your heart when they cry with pain
  • I am still figuring out the difference between a hunger cry, change nappy cry and pain cry.
  • Breastfeeding makes you very hungry and thirsty.
  • Baby do grow very fast, my Choori has already put on a few kilos and a few centimetres. I really don’t want her to grow up so fast.
  • Talking about growing, Choori has already outgrown 0000 and 000 clothes and is now into 00 which means she won’t be able to wear a lot of cute dresses/outfits the she got as gifts.
  • The best gift a new mum /baby can get is nappies so if you are going to visit a newborn take a box of nappies instead of flowers.
  • Listen to everyone but do what you believe in regarding your baby. Always remember happy mum means happy baby.
  • Babies always seem to cry when you are about to eat so learn to break the world record as the fastest eater.

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  • If you are the only one looking after the baby, you need to even have a plan to go to the toilet and the when and how long depends on the baby.
  • Sometimes I spend an hour getting the baby to sleep and then I wake her up two minutes later just to make sure she is still breathing.

Chhori (2)I am sure there are a lot more to learn in the coming days and I will definitely share them with you.

Do share your tips for a new mum and any magic you have to get the baby settled quickly and to make her go to sleep.

Take care everyone till next post.

from nepaliaustralian

XOXO

From labour to birth – My experience

They say every pregnancy and every birth is different and I believe it 100%. You can never know what will happen with your pregnancy until you give birth. You can never plan your pregnancy and birth and that is exactly what happened with me.

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To prepare for the birth of Chhori, I planned to take off from work two weeks before the due date. I knew that I might have the baby a few days before or after the due date. As my due date was 4 March ,I decided to make 19 Feb my last day at work. That day my boss and my colleagues had planned a farewell for me and it was going to be a nice send off for me.

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They made this sign :)

I was already having some contractions from a few days before and when I googled it ,all seemed to be normal. It was just my body getting ready to give birth.

So on the morning of 19 Feb, I drove to work as normal. I was experiencing some contractions and when I timed it at work, it was coming in at around a 10 minute intervals or more.

I was a bit concerned so I called the midwife and she told me that it is normal before the birth and I might even be around a week from giving birth. She suggested to keep recording the contractions but go on with my normal life. The contractions were painful but after talking to the midwife I felt better. I kept working and wrapping things up as it was the last day for me at work for a whole year.

Because of the pain it was getting hard at times for me to stay clam but I tried my best to stay normal and complete the day. The farewell stared in the afternoon and I loved the special cupcakes and food we had. I was also given a nice gift for the baby and I had a great time with my colleagues and it was a fun day.

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By the time I said goodbye to everyone at work, it was 5 pm and my contractions were getting stronger. I just wanted to go home and rest but we were invited to another dahi chiura at one of my friend’s place.

So I drove there, had the ceremony and was home around 11pm. I was really tired and the contractions were making it worse. I went to bed straight away hoping the pain of contraction would go away. I was glad that from the next day I would be home resting before the baby’s arrival.

But God had a different plan for me. I couldn’t fall asleep as the contractions were getting stronger and coming quicker. AS was also awake supporting me through my pain. We kept timing the contractions and around 1 am they were 7 minutes apart and very painful. We decided that it would be wise to call the hospital and let them know what was happening. The nurse on the line gave us the option to either wait till the contraction were 5 minutes apart then calling back or to come in for and observation. We chose the latter.

It was the middle of the night so the drive to the hospital was quick. I was admitted for observation and the nurse told me that the baby was doing fine but recommended me to stay the night as my legs were very swollen and due to the contractions I was not able to feel the baby kick. In the morning they would be able to recommend how to proceed.

Because I was in pain, I couldn’t sleep so the nurse recommended that I take some morphine. At first I refused as I didn’t want to take unnecessary drugs but she reminded me that I would need all my energy for the labour so it would be better for both me and baby to have some rest.

I am glad I listened to her as I fell asleep with of the help of the morphine. I still felt the pain but I was able to sleep. AS slept next to me in a chair.

Around 6 am the next morning I was woken up by the noise of people talking. When I opened my eyes, there was a doctor and nurse talking about my condition and what would happen next. They did a few tests and there were people going in and out of the room for the next few hours checking up on me. Then the doctor came back and told me that I would be going to go home with the baby.

I was not at all prepared because I had just finished work the day before and was expecting at least a week before the baby’s arrival. I had plans to pamper myself and rest but all the plans went out the window.

They assured me that I was doing well and so was the baby but because my contraction intervals were not consistent they decided to induce me. If the pain I had before was not bad enough, once the chemical started to work, it was worse. I asked the midwife if I could have epidural as I had heard that it is nearly a miracle drug for pain but she told me I can’t as I was not dilated enough. Instead she gave me the laughing gas. I was in so much of pain that I was happy to take anything to feel better.

Once I started taking the gas, I slowly lost control of my body and at the end I was so out that I had to lean on AS fully for support. It was still painful with every contraction but I was too drugged up to do anything.

After what felt like forever, finally I was dilated enough to take the epidural. An epidural is a painkilling drug which is passed into the small of your back via a fine tube. It is called a regional anaesthetic, which means the drug is injected around the nerves that carry signals from the part of your body that feels pain when you’re in labour. The result  is that your belly feels numb, giving you very effective pain relief.

Once the drug started to work, I was in heaven as I didn’t feel any pain. I didn’t even feel like I was in labour. After more than 4 hours of severe pain, I was pain free at last.

The midwife told me that I was doing well and the labour was going well.  The process continued for another few hours and I was very near to giving birth when suddenly the midwife called the doctor as the baby was refusing to come out and she was head bridged.

No matter how hard we tried, she refused to come out and her heart rate was started to fluctuate.

The doctor decided that it was risky to wait so they decided to perform and emergency cesarean. They explained to us that it would be riskier the longer we waited to perform the cesarean and asked me to fill a consent form. I had no choice but to sign whatever paperwork they gave me.

Suddenly there were more than 10 people around me doing different things. They transfered me from the bed to a stretcher and I was rushed to the operation theatre. They told AS to wait outside until they prepared me for the operation.

After they were prepared, AS was allowed to sit next to me and hold my hand while they cut open my body and after a while I could hear the baby cry. That was one of the best moments of my life.chhori (4)

AS cut the cord and brought the baby next to me. When I saw Chhori for the first time, I couldn’t help but cry. Everyone got worried because they didn’t know why I was crying. They asked me to confirm if it was a happy tear or I if was in pain. I seriously couldn’t feel anything so I was not in pain.

I was so happy when I saw my Chhori for the first time that I got too emotional. We also decided we were going to call her little M right there in the operating theater.

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Finally after more than 17 hours in the hospital, we were the proud parents of a beautiful girl who would call us mum and dad.

I will write more about being mum soon ,till  then take care everyone,

from nepaliaustralian

XOXO