This ceremomy was held after
- Engagement ceremony
- “Mehendi” ceremony
- “Supari” ceremony
- “Swayambar” ceremony
- Bride side Reception
As soon as the Janti left the wedding venue, it started raining. And it was raining very heavily by the time we reached the AS’s house. The wedding car stopped in front of the house where most of the groom’s family members had gathered
When I got off the car, my mother in law along with other female members of the family were at the door to welcome me. They performed some Puja and put Tika on my and AS’s foreheads. It was followed by some rituals as per the priest’s instructions.
Then I entered the house holding one end of a special key (symbolising the key of the house) and the other side was held my AS’s eldest aunt. At this point the Groom has to hold the Bride’s shawl and follow her into the house. This is a tradition in Newari / Nepali wedding.
At the main door, there were ten of AS’s cousin sisters standing blocking the door, with other family members watching. They demanded money before they would allow us to proceed into the house. Everyone was having a lot of fun. They negotiated on how much they wanted and this time AS had to shell out RS 10,000. Once they let us in, I continue following his aunt to the prayer room in the house. There we prayed for a while and left the key there.
Now, we sat for the Supari ceremony. In this ceremony, AS would introduce me to his family members and I have to give them the Suapri and touch their feet (if they are older than me). They would then give me money or jewellery as a welcome present.
As AS has a big family, this ceremony took quite a while. It started with his grandma, parents, brothers then continued with his uncles, aunts and cousins.
It was followed by some more ritual Puja and “Thaa Bu” eating as in the Kanyadan ritual.
Then we started the Sagun ceremony. Sagun typically consists of a boiled egg, smoked fish, a “bara” (deep-fried black lentil patties), haku chhoila” (smoked buffalo meat) and “aila” (wine) and ends with “dhau” (yogurt).
All the close member of groom’s family bring Sagun along with gifts for the newly wed. Sagun is also given to the groom’s parents .
Finally all the rituals were over and I was asked to go and rest in our room. When I entered our room, I was really happy as it was decorated with flowers everywhere. On the door, they had garlands of chrysanthemums, and on the walls, there were lots of roses. The Dressing table and the coffee tables were also decorated with flowers and there were lots of rose petals scattered on the bed.
This was going to be my room for the rest of the time I would be in Nepal.
This ceremony was followed by