Last weekend we went for a weekend away with a family who have a small baby boy. Chhori was so gentle and engaged with the baby that we wondered if she is ok to have a little sibling.
I and AS have always thought we will have 2 babies but once Chhori was born we were so busy that we didn’t have time to think about it much.
We did have the conversation a few times this year but we always ended up saying we are not ready. Initially, we thought Chhori is too small but now as she is a bit bigger, we don’t know if we need to think about it again.
At times, we imagine that having another baby will be so hard and busy, maybe we are OK to stop at one. Then I see Chhori with other kids and wish she has a sibling to play with as well.
It’s like a constant battle of yes and no in our heads that I thought I will get the opinion and ideas of people who have already been on this boat.
I really want to ask everyone out there who is a parent this questions
If you have one baby, why did you stop at one? If given a choice, would you like another one?
Parents of more than one kids, when did you know that you were ready to have no 2.
Seriously, is anyone ready for a baby at all, in general, let alone more than one baby? 🙂
No offense to anyone who have more babies. I just wonder how you mange kids, home, work and life in general.
Please do share your thoughts.
M from nepaliaustralian
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I don’t have a baby yet so I am not sure. But I think I would like to have a kid once I am strong enough both financially and mentally. My sister has a daughter too and I don’t think she wants another one, my chuchu is enough, in her words. haha
PS> Your daughter is a beauty.
I completely understand the choice and I hope we can make up our mind soon hahaha 🙂😁😆
We have two. I can tell you we were no more prepared for a second than we were for the first! But somehow, you know, it all works out fine. My advice is, if you’d like a second baby then just do it – don’t worry about whether or not it’s the right time or whatever. It will always seem the wrong time before but the perfect time after!
Thank you so much for your advice. We definitely want one more, just thinking of a right time. I guess time is right when you have them 😃
Not sure if I can help much , it is ultimately when you are ready to be parents again . For us here in Sydney , everyone has siblings and big families is the norm . So my daughter started talking about her friends’ brothers and sisters and we realised that she is probably ready as well . The convincing bit was with me and hubby being ready . Took a few months of yes and no and may be ,but finally it was worth it 🙂 good luck with whatever you decide !
Looks like we just need to make a decision and stick with it 🙂
Happened to come across your blog and read your entire Story, A very detailed and romantic description of everything you both have together…
About 2nd babies, we always wanted 2 babies , I wanted a difference of atleast 4 yrs so the older one is a little bit independent, also when family around you have siblings my boy also started asking for a baby.
2nd babies are so much fun, we had it so easy with my younger one, maybe because I already knew what to expect this time and don’t freak out on everything. Have one more, you will njoy them
Thank you for reading my post and Our Story. Just sharing my personal experience in this blog about life in general. Going to catch up your blog now 🙂
You make it sound so easy regarding baby no 2 and hope I could say that one day too. My daughter started being interested in other babies hence we are thinking about it 🙂
Interesting question. For me, I just feel like we’re gonna have two, but not sure when the second one will come. (so far just a 6 week old).
Just enjoy your little one as they grow old in no time. Enjoy motherhood.
I HAD to comment on this blog post. My husband and I have one daughter and we are staying at one (she is almost 9 so we are ultra sure and confident about the decision). We both came into our marriage thinking more than one (my husband even thought three at one point), but after we had our daughter, we KNEW that we would just not be able to cope – financially, mentally, physically. We wanted to have a lifestyle where we would be able to travel and take vacations and it is a lot more expensive with two children than it is with one- at least where we live in California.
We also have no help from family and even though my mother stayed with us for a year after our daughter was born we still handled the primary responsibilities and it was tough.
We were also DONE with the sleepless nights and the diapers and the illnesses the first year of daycare. We love our daughter but we also love our sanity and we decided to stop at one and we are very happy with that decision.
You wrote exactly what we are thinking. Those are all the reasons we couldn’t make the decision. Looking at my daughter, I want her to have a sibling but then I think about how it is going to effect our life and worry about it.
How is your daughter being a single child?. Has she ever asked for a sibling? As she grew older, have you ever felt need to add another child to the family.
We’re still at the point of asking if we’re ready for baby #1. Before that, we were asking if we’re ready to get married. I’m baffled by how my parents’ generation raised several children when I already find it daunting to have even just one. While I firmly believe that decisions that have the potential to change your life in a major way (marriage, kids, etc) should only be made after serious contemplation, I also think that in some cases you can never be truly and completely ready and you just go ahead and do it anyway. It happens sometimes, right, that life puts you in a situation you were unprepared for, and that you didn’t think you’d be able to make it but you did?
That is so true about adjusting to the situation you had. With our first one, we had few to do list before baby which we did and planned. We were scared but kind of ready and glad it worked out so well. With the second one, the main issue will be time management so just thinking out loud about the possibilities.
I am in the exact point right now. I would love another baby but than again I think can I do it? Can I cope with sleepless nights again? I don’t know. Got no advice here. If you find the answer let me know cause definitely I need one 🙂
I am hoping people can shed some light on this topic but again looks like many are on the same boat.
I’m am inclining to say yes to another baby. But I do have those crazy moments when I think of the sleepless nights and messy eating and potty training (still haven’t started with Ruby)