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Travelling with toddler

First of all sorry for disappearing for so long, I think I have never not blogged for this long since I started blogging.

We went on a holiday to Malaysia and Nepal and somehow I was so busy that even though I drafted a few posts, didn’t have time to publish them. But now that I am back, I will write all about our trip and Chhori’s special birthday celebration in Nepal.

But let me first share my experience in general about our travel with Chhori. As I have mentioned in my posts before, I was bit nervous about such a long flight with Chhori. Even though Chhori has been on a plane before, the longest she has travelled is around 4 hours and she was great on that but it is a different story when it came to travelling to Nepal. First of all, we had to be on two different planes with a total time of 14+ hours and on top of that as she was under 2 years old and we didn’t have a separate seat for her.

We flew from Sydney to Malaysia during the day and that 9 hour flight was the worst of the entire trip. As it was day time, Chhori slept for only an hour and the rest of the time we had to entertain her. We had a tablet full of movies and rhymes for her and also a lot of snacks but it was a very hard job. She was OK for the first few hours and then she started getting bored. She would move from my seat to AS’s and we had to try our best to make sure she was busy so she wouldn’t cry.

At one stage, she wanted the whole seat to herself so she evicted me from my seat and I ended up on the floor in from of the seat.

AS couldn’t stop laughing and luckily as we were allocated seats with good leg room I had room to sit on the floor.

Chhori also played peekaboo with a couple behind our seat. She would stand up and say “boo” and sit down again. I hope they were amused and not annoyed.

In Malaysia, she was great as we went to different tourist spots every day and she enjoyed the new environment. She loved the fact that she didn’t have to sit on a baby seat in the car anymore and she enjoyed the freedom. Above all she enjoyed the fact that mummy and daddy were with her 24/7.

The flight from KL to Kathmandu was better as it was only 4 hours and she was OK most of the way. The worst part was when we landed and we had to wait for immigration and customs and the airport was bit chaotic.

Chhori is only 2 years old but I know for sure that she loved Nepal. In Kathmandu, we spent most of our time in AS’s home and she loved it there as she had her grandparents, uncles and aunt and cousin to play with her.

Every morning when she woke up, she wanted to go to the living area straight away because she knew there will be someone to play with her. She really enjoyed the company of her relatives and was really happy to play with her cousin.

We took Chhori to visit many of our relatives and she did really well. She was social and affectionate and very well behaved most of the time. She really made us very proud.

I am sure she would have been very happy to stay longer in Kathmandu but our holiday ended shortly after we celebrated her birthday and it was time for us to come back.

I was a bit worried about our flight back but luckily for us, it was better than the journey to Nepal.

On our flight from Kathmandu to Malaysia, we had an empty seat next to us so Chhori was happy to have her own seat. It did make our journey less stressful. From Malaysia to Sydney, we got a bassinet for her and she slept most of the flight even though she was a bit big for it. I was happy to have a peacefully sleeping baby which allowed me to rest and eat my meal without worrying too much.

I was so happy when we landed in Sydney because even though I loved our trip, the flight there and back was bit tough. I think if a child is over a year old and it is a long flight, it is a good idea to buy an extra seat for the child as it will be really helpful and gives you a bit more flexibility.

Take care everyone.

from nepaliaustralian

XOXO

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And then she (Chhori) cried…

I wrote recently how Chhori has started childcare and how she was been great. It is sad to see that, she no longer runs to the toys or forgets about us as soon as we go inside the childcare.

I think slowly she has started to realise that, she needs to go to the childcare regularly and her reaction started changing.

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Normally AS goes to drop her off so I can start work early and I pick her up a bit early.

In the last few weeks, Chhori’s reaction to childcare has slowly changed from no tears to lots of tears.

The first few days, she refused to let go of AS when they got inside the childcare. Then she started to cry once inside the childcare and now she refuses to eat her breakfast and starts crying as soon as she is in front of childcare.

I was really happy when we had no tears initially but that period is over now. It really breaks my heart that she has to go through this.

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I know it is a natural stage of development and every parent has to go through this journey but this makes me feel so guilty and question our decision to do it in the first place. She is not even 2 years old and doesn’t communicate that well which makes it even harder.

I am glad I am not the one who has to drop her off regularly because I would have cried with her every time there is a drop off. Just checking with AS every day and knowing that she cried makes feel me so sad.

I feel so helpless; don’t know what to do to make it easier for Chhori. All the parents out there who have been through this please give me some advice/suggestions.

Take care everyone.

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XOXO

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Accident and lucky escape

I want to believe that we are very relaxed parents especially at our own place as we know the house is baby proof.

Chhori has learned the climbing skill so she keeps on discovering new things to climb on but our place is mostly safe so we let her play without being very worried.

Last week, we went to visit one of our friends. We have been to this friend’s house multiple times and Chhori loves to explore their living room. She was climbing on a coffee table early in the evening.

Anyway we were all watching a movie and Chhori was playing nearby.

Suddenly, she decided that she would climb their shoe rack. Unfortunately, the shoe rack is the one from Ikea which was recommended to be hooked to the wall but it wasn’t.

We were really luck that AS was just near her and caught the rack so it didn’t fall on her. All of us were shocked for a while but Chhori was as cool as a banana. She didn’t scream or cry but was just surprise when I screamed when I saw what was happening. Within a minute, she stared to play with other things in the room as if nothing had happened.

But for us, we learned a good lesson to be near her all the time when we are out and about. As she is getting older, she has become more curious so we need to be very careful and watch what she is doing all the time.

I am more worried about our visit to Nepal. I can’t even imagine how things will work out there.

Do share your own experience and if you know how could we can prevent things like this happening in future.

Take care everyone,

M from nepaliaustralian

XOXO

Weaning Chhori off breastfeeding

I know breastfeeding is good for the baby and it is recommended to breastfeed as long as possible up to age 2. Chhori is 18 months now and we have decided to wean her off breastfeeding.

As I have written in my previous post, we had wean her off night feed for a while now and I am so grateful to have a husband who helped me to do that. I am sure I couldn’t have handled it by myself. I felt like a zombie some days when I used to feed her at night and have a full time job.

But I thought she was old enough to have cow milk now so I decided to wean her off breastfeeding altogether. I knew it was not going to be an easy task but me and AS made the decision that it was a good time to do it.

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Lately, I have realised that Chhori wanted to be breastfed when she is bored, not when she is hungry. She is doing well with solid food so it was our motivation to go ahead with the weaning.

In order to discourage her from asking for milk frequently, I made a paste out of turmeric powder and lemon and rubbed it around the nipples.

I told her my boobs hurt and showed her the yellow nipples. She didn’t believe me at first so she tried to drink the milk as usual. But it was not the same because of the paste so she immediately stopped. Every time, she asked for milk, I showed her my turmeric lemon rubbed boos and emphasised that it hurts. The first few days she kept on trying to drink once in a while as she forgot the taste but I kept on adding the paste so she would understand that the milk doesn’t taste the same anymore.

I guess it is easier to wean when kids are under 1 but when they are a toddler, they remember them more so it is harder to wean them.

Anyway I had to do it for 5 days in a row before I stopped applying the paste and then, I didn’t need to show her but just tell her that it hurts. By day 7, she didn’t even ask for it anymore.

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Today is day 16 and she doesn’t mentioned it at all. So finally she is off the boob.

We did have one night when she cried a lot – almost 2 hours on and off and nothing we did would make her stop but apart from that things are looking OK. She still wakes up some nights but she is not asking for milk, which is great. Sometimes it is hard for her to go back to sleep but I am sure things will get better as time passes.

I think more than her, I had trouble the first few days because when she want to be fed and she cried or made sorry faces, I feel so guilty. Sometimes, I felt as if I shouldn’t wean her now but me and AS had made the decision and I had to stick with it. Also I know for sure, the longer it goes on, the harder it will get for both of us. Now I can play with her for a long time without her getting distracted by wanting to breastfeed. I really love our new relationship. 🙂

Tell me your weaning story. Is there anything I could do to make her feel better?

Take care everyone,

M from nepaliaustralian

XOXO

Chhori update

Chhori is 18 months old now, a big girl compared to a year ago. Time is just flying by.

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It is so true when they say children are like sponge as they absorb everything and it is no different with Chhori.

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Recently, she has learned to indicate Yes and No by nodding. I think she is learning all this from the rhymes but she looks absolutely gorgeous when she does them. Also, just yesterday she was putting her both hands on her mouth while laughing. She always manages to amaze me with new stuff every day.

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AS had been a great dad and constantly teaches her new stuff and I love watching their interaction. She is definitely becoming demanding now but AS always manages to handle her by teaching that you give in somewhere to get something.

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I am so happy that he is so patient with our daughter as I don’t have lots of patience :). I love her to death but sometime she seems to know how to drive me mad.

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On the other hand, she has wrapped her grandparents around her ting fingers. She always gets my mum and dad to give her a massage especially her legs. And it has to be both the legs at the same time, one by grandma and one by grandad.

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My mum scolds her sometimes when she misbehaves, and threatens to spank her. Now she actually comes to me complaining when I come home and though she can’t say it but shows me a spanking action to complain.

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She will miss them a lot when they leave next year.

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Her eating habit is changing slowly and we are giving her mostly the same food that we eat. She had 5 chicken steamed momos yesterday proving she is definitely Nepalese. momoShe loves to eat everything on her own too. Sometimes it is a problem because with rice it can get very messy but we are teaching her how to use a spoon.

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Last week it was her 18 months immunisation and again this time also she didn’t cry at all. I held her the whole time while the GP gave her the shot, but not a sound was made. She was just curious like last time and watched the needle go into her arms. There was a little blood this time but it didn’t make any difference. I am so happy she didn’t cry.

Second needle in and she kept watching it go inside

More updates soon.

Take care everyone,

M from nepaliaustralian

XOXO

Father’s Day celebration

It was Kushe Aushi (Nepali Father’s Day) on Thursday and Australian Father’s day on Sunday so we combined the celebrations for AS and my dad.

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This is AS’s second Father’s day so it is still very special like the first one.

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Also it is very special father’s day for me as my dad is here and I could actually celebrate the day with him.

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As it was a weekday, my mum helped me to prepare Sagun (traditionally a plate of boiled egg, smoked fish, a “bara”, fried chicken and yogurt). It is such a great help when your parents are near you, I am going to miss them so much when they leave.

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I baked a cake and muffins too. I picked a card as well along with some biscuits, cookies and fruits.

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I am so glad that we got to celebrate the day as a family.

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First we celebrated AS father’s day. We did a normal tika and sagun. Chhori was quite curious and happy to do the process.

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I don’t think she understands much yet but she loves it when there are lots of people around her and she is definitely daddy’s little girl.

Then I celebrated my father’s day with tika and sagun as well.

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It was followed by cake and gifts.

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Hope you guys have a great celebration too.

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Take care everyone.

M from nepaliaustralian

XOXO

Weaning Chhori from night feed

I am sure I have mentioned before that Chhori is still night feeding on a good night, she wakes up 1-2 times for a feed while on bad ones it is multiple times.

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This routine didn’t bother me when I was home looking after her but since I started work, it started affecting my day. There were days when I was not functioning properly at all as I was sleep deprived days in a row.

Anyway, this was the signal for me to start looking for a solution to stop night feeding. I still wanted her to breastfeed for the next few months at least but I definitely wanted to stop night feeding.

So the solution was for me to sleep in a different room than Chhori. So AS and Chhori slept in our room and I slept in Chhori’s room.

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First night, she woke up the same as usual and started looking for milk. When she didn’t get it, she cried. She opened her eyes and saw her daddy instead of mummy and she cried more. It took AS a long time to calm her down and put her back to sleep. It was the same every time she woke up looking for milk.

I was in the next room so I could hear her cry and was so tempted to run, hug her and feed her. But I knew that was not going to solve my problem. She is old enough now that she doesn’t need night feeding as most kids over 1 year will not wake up multiple times at night for a feed.

The second night the story was similar but the cry was shorter and AS got better at calming her but I was still tempted to run over to hold her every time she cried. So on the third day, we decided that it is best for me to sleep in the guest bedroom which is further away from our bedroom so I don’t hear much at all. So I have been doing that for the last 5 days. I occasionally hear her cry but not much.

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Also according to AS, she is getting better at not crying even if she wakes up during the night. If she does cry, it lasts less than a minute and she is back to sleep.

We are hoping that in a few weeks, she will get better and will sleep through the night so I can go and sleep back in our room. I really hope this will work otherwise we will be back to square one.

I am loving my 6-8 hours of uninterrupted sleep for sure but AS probably isn’t 🙂

Please, please share any tips that will help this process be easier for me and Chhori. Thanks in advance.

Take care,

M from nepaliaustralian

XOXO