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Celebrating Anniversary @ Kyūbi Modern Asian Dining

First of all, a million thanks for everyone who wished us on our anniversary. We feel so happy and blessed with all the warm anniversary wishes that came through Facebook, sms, blog, Instagram and calls. Thank you once again everyone.

AS bought me mesh bracelets which I loved.

We were lucky that our anniversary fell on a Sunday this year. My SIL looked after Chhori so we had the day to ourselves.

Since becoming parents, we don’t like to leave Chhori with someone for very long so we decided to take the afternoon to celebrate instead of the evening.

We dropped Chhori off and then went to the movie first.

The pick of the day was Jurassic World. I am not a big fan of the Jurassic series like AS is but I did enjoy the movie.

It was a fun movie and really enjoyed the graphics and animations.

After the movie, we went for lunch at this beautiful restaurant called Kyūbi Modern Asian Dining.

They described themselves as Modern Asian Dining and aspire to create a dining experience that brings people together over the love of food.

It is named after the mythical 9 Tail Fox, the Kyūbi features as folklore in many East Asian cultures. The 9 tails represent the various Asian cultures from which they draw inspiration and flavors.

I absolutely loved the decor of the place as it had some beautiful show pieces hanging on the walls from different Asian countries. It had sufficient privacy for groups of guests and was spacious.

The lady who served us was amazing as well with knowledge of the food and service was with smiles. She was very attentive to our needs and the service was genuine and not put on.

Looking at the menu we decided to go for their tasting plate so we could have a taste of everything yummy and it was definitely a good decision.

The portion sizes were perfect and each of the courses came out in a timely manner. It really is a great way to eat because you don’t have to eat a big main meal in one go.

So our menu contained

Entrees:

Char grilled salmon pla bon perilla leaf

Handmade prawn and pork shumai

Prawn has gow dumplings

Salt & Pepper Tofu pickled vegetables

Main:

Bulgoogi Korean lamb ribs

Wilted Asian leaves with dried shrimp

Slow cooked lamb ‘crying tiger’

Salt and Chilli King Prawn’s chilli mayonnaise

Vegetarian Fried Rice bamboo shoots, snow peas, water chestnut

Dessert:

Mango pudding with tapioca pearls, fresh fruit and lychee granita

The food was delicious and nicely flavored and very light but at the same time very filling. We will be going back again for sure.

By the time it was dessert time, I was so stuffed that I didn’t want to eat anymore but still tasted it.

We asked if they could write “Happy Anniversary” for us and they did. It was really nice.

While talking to the lady, we discovered that both the chefs in the kitchen were from Nepal so we went and said our hello after lunch.

Overall, we had a great afternoon and it was even better when we saw Chhori who was waiting for us with a big smile. She was so happy to spend the day with my nephew.

 Take care ,

M from nepaliaustralian

XOXO 

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Our 7 Year Wedding Anniversary…….

I can’t believe it has already been 7 years since we got married. It definitely doesn’t feel that long. Please read Our Story to know about us.

When I first met him in high school, I had never imagined that one day he would be my husband and a wonderful father to our amazing daughter.

If you have been following my blog, you know that AS and I are so different in so many ways. We are complete opposites, we see things differently, we do things differently and we think differently. There are times when he drives me crazy and vice versa, but when we come together something just clicks. We make each other laugh and we both know how to get the best out of each other.

To my dear husband,

They say that Life is beautiful when you are surrounded by amazing people. I agree 100% because I have been lucky enough to have a wonderful man by my side in this wonderful life journey.

So today I’d like to say a massive thank you for being amazing, wonderful, handsome and an all-round awesome husband. You make my life so much better, you support me, you make me laugh, you make me feel like the most beautiful women in the world and you make me believe in myself and make me believe that together we can get though anything!

All the words in the world could not even begin to describe how deeply I am in love with you. You are not only my love, but you are my soul. I love you.

I am glad we have made it so far and I am sure we will go even further as we have loved this journey that we took together years before. Happy 7th Anniversary.

With lots of love ❤️,

M


Take care ,

M from nepaliaustralian

XOXO 

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Anniversary lunch @ Gowings Bar & Grill, Sydney

I am sure if you have been reading my blog for a while, I have mentioned multiple times that AS is an introvert but for our anniversary he surprised me by sending me the following poem.

I wish I could write with such majesty
But woe is me I have no poetry
The only words that come to me
Is “Happy 5th Anniversary”

Years ago you stole my heart      
You have it still my sweetheart
Now with our family on the start
Let’s live happy, never apart

Happy 5th Anniversary my sweetheart!

I have never thought he will ever write a poem for me and to top that up, post that on Facebook. I know it is a big deal for him and he did it for me.

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Apart from that, he also bought me a ring and a beautiful card. He knew I wanted a solitaire diamond ring for a while so he got me one this time. Of course I am very happy to get such a beautiful ring. It was a great start to our Anniversary.

As we are parents now, it is hard for us to take an evening off from Chhori. Also it will be hard for my parents to look after her the whole day and till late evening so we decided it would be best for us to celebrate our anniversary with a lunch instead.

So both of us took a half day off from work and met in the city for lunch. We decided to go to Gowings Bar & Grill, Sydney as one of our friends recommend it.

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As we walked into the QT hotel to the restaurant, we could feel that the décor was very different than normal hotels. The building has a wonderful sense of old-world character with a quirky wall full of old trunks and suitcases and even brick exposed walls.

The ground floor has the Parlour Lane Roasters which is a café that serves freshly brewed coffee and light bites by day, and by night, wine and bar snacks.  Gowings Bar & Grill is located on the first floor. As we stepped out of the lift, we were greeted by a friendly staff. She took us to our table and helped us with the napkins.

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As we sat down on our table and we noticed that there were many corporate people there on their extended lunch and the place was full.

I loved the ambiance of the restaurant with its modern and plush décor. It was definitely different to the previous anniversary’s fine dining experience.

The first thing we were served is two baguettes to start, with Pepe Saya butter. The bread was warm but a bit hard to chew.

Beer Steamed Prawn Cocktail “Re-Dux”

Beer Steamed Prawn Cocktail “Re-Dux”

We started our lunch with the entrée. AS chose Beer Steamed Prawn Cocktail “Re-Dux” served with shredded Iceberg , cucumber, tiny shrimp, tiger prawns, cognac horseradish and fermented tomato hot sauce, squid ink and prawn crackers and I ordered Yellowfin Tuna Tartare lettuce Cups served with kimchi, organic soya sauce, toasted sesame, pickled fennel hearts.

Yellowfin Tuna Tartare lettuce Cups

Yellowfin Tuna Tartare lettuce Cups

Love the tuna as it was crunchy with just the right sauce. Not too sure about the prawns as I don’t like beer at all and it had a strong smell of beer. AS loved it though.

Gowings Bar & Grill (6)

½ Spick duck

The main meal was ½ Spick duck  served with Paris mash steamed black cabbage and salt bush and Wood roasted free range pork belly which was filled with malt bread stuffing , sage and parmesan wasabi spinach served with mustard apples, Paris mash and black truffle gravy.

Wood roasted free range pork belly

Wood roasted free range pork belly

The pork belly was the highlight for me for sure with such a yummy flavour and the portion was perfect.

Even though it said ½ duck in the menu, we didn’t expect it to be such a big portion. Perfect to share, amazing flavours but it made us too full so we decided that we would order only one desert and share.

Gowings Bar & Grill (3)

For dessert we had the Finger Lime Coconut Lemon Custard Tart which was served with Buffalo Ricotta Chantilly, green coconut flesh and coconut ripple gelato. The first spoonful came with the powerful flavour of lime and lemon but we love it. We made a good decision to share as we didn’t have much room in our tummy for more food.

Finger Lime Coconut Lemon Custard Tart

Finger Lime Coconut Lemon Custard Tart

Over all we had a great time and an uninterrupted adult conversation. We were so stuffed after the 3 course meal that we decided that we would shop around for a while and then we went for a relaxing hour long Thai massage.

By the time we were done, caught a train and reached home it was around 7pm.

When we opened the door to our home, Chhori was patiently waiting for us. As soon as she saw the both of us walking through the door, her eyes lit up and I knew that she is the best thing out of our relationship and there is no argument about it.

As I opened the baby gate, she came running and hugged and kissed me and the day just became perfect.

Thank you everyone for sending Anniversary wishes. We really appreciate them.

Hope everyone had a great weekend too.

Take care and happy Monday

M from nepaliaustralian

XOXO

Celebrating 5 years of happiness: Happy Anniversary dear husband

Yes it is 24 June again and we are celebrating our 5th Wedding Anniversary. I can’t believe that time has gone by so fast. It was on 24 June 2011, we tied the knot and since then every year we had an amazing anniversary celebration. Here are the links for 2012, 2013, 2014 and 2015. Also every year I have been writing a letter to AS to celebrate our milestones (2012, 2013, 2014, and 2015) and here is my letter for this year.

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Dear darling AS,

Five years ago today, we became husband and wife. We didn’t know where we were heading back then but we knew for sure that we belonged together. And now, half a decade later, I can say with absolute certainty that the past five years have been the best of my entire life.

my wedding

Our lives have changed so much now that we are parents but every day has been an awesome journey that I would not trade for the world. You are a great friend, husband and my rock.

sindoor at wedding

Every day, I see Chhori with you, I feel so blessed that we are so lucky to have a man who is so loving, caring, kind, thoughtful, gentle, calm, patient and wonderful in our life.

Chhori (2)

I love watching you play with her so patiently and talk to her. I love it when you tell her a story and put her to bed. You both are all that I could wish for in my life.

Chhori pasni (16)

Thank you for believing in me and for helping me believe in myself. You are a phenomenal dad and an even better husband. I am looking forward to so many anniversaries with you.

Happy Anniversary!!!

Always Yours,

M

P.S: We are going to lunch at Growings Bar and Grill and for a much needed massage afterwards so I’ll update with more later.

Till then take care.

XOXO

M from nepaliaustralian

Empty mind

Do you have days when you want to write but don’t know where to start? Today is one of those days for me; I have no idea where to start. I can’t blame it on jetlag anymore as its been over a week now since I returned. It’s been wet and rainy for the past few days so I could blame my condition on wet weather.

I am sure all of you know by now that I am a summer person and I love beach and barbeque so the autumn weather is not agreeing with me. It is ruining my plans.

Like on Friday, I decided to go for a run during lunchtime but it rained which meant I didn’t run thus no exercise for the day. On weekend , me and AS planned a little outing for ourselves to go to the city and have some fun but the stupid rain ruined it again and today I am hoping to go for run during the lunch time but the weather hasn’t been very promising. It’s been raining since morning and hope it will stop soon.

I wish last weekend had been bit longer as it was really nice to wake up late in the morning and not have to rush to anything. AS was great and made me breakfast yesterday while I did breakfast on Saturday. They were simple ones but I welcomed the change. All we did during the weekend was unpack, clean the house and rest. Not very productive as would have liked but I’m glad we had some time off.

I was Skyping with my mum yesterday and was missing her a lot. It feels so sad to leave my parents in Nepal and living here so far away in their old age. I am sure she didn’t expect that when she had us, one day we would not be around. This feeling always makes me feel so guilty and I feel sad that I can’t do anything about it anytime soon.

mum

It has been over four years since I and AS got engaged and it is nice to feel and see how our relationship has evolved. I am so glad that we have gone through ups and downs to get us where we are. We have been tested multiple times and still managed to pass each phase and come out stronger. I am so glad he has been a strong support when I am in my crazy moods. May be this is why you need a partner to keep you sane and grounded.

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Talking about family, as predicated everyone in Nepal highly recommended that we should have a baby soon. Their words were less subtle than I liked but the message was, “Have a baby now before it is too late.” AS and I had talk about baby a lot and we have our plans. Constantly hearing about it is not going to change our minds and we are determined that we will stick to our plan and make up our own minds.

Hope everyone is having a better Monday morning than I am. Have a good day.

M from nepaliaustralian

XOXO

My money, your money

Everyone dreams of a perfect marriage and a perfect partner but not everyone is lucky in life. There are many factors that might rock the boat of marriage and money can be one of the main factors.

In the past, money was mainly the responsibility of the man and few women had access to money and as a result money didn’t play a vital role in marriage, as men worked hard to earn money and women looked after house and kids. However, these days more and more women are working, making most household a dual income house.

This has brought lots of question to newly married couple.

Are we going to combine all the finance so your debt is my debt and so is the money?

Are we going to keep your money as your money and my money as mine but share all the expense?

These decisions in life play a vital role on which direction the marriage will go.

Growing up in Nepal, I have seen most of the couples live in dual-income marriages where each has full access and control of their own and their partners earnings. But in Australia, I have seen the couples living happily in both arrangements.

One of the reasons why people are hesitant to combine their finances is because they are scared to lose control over their money. They don’t want another person to tell them how to spend their money or what to do with their money.

I can’t tell you whether or not you should combine your finances with your significant other; it has a lot to do with individual comfort levels, trust, and many other marital issues. However, it is a decision that all couples face, particularly if they choose to marry or agree to a long-term commitment: should we combine our finances or not?

I can only tell you what I do and why I made my decision. From the day, my husband and I got together, we combined all our finances. It was not an easy decision but we made that decision together because we thought that was the path we wanted to take moving forward. We were both honest about what we had and what we wanted in future.

Both of us have the same goals like getting married, buying a house and travel. I have to admit travel was number one on my list and somewhere on the bottom on his but we made a decision that we don’t travel all the time but will have at least one big holiday a year. That sounded realistic to me so I agreed.

By combining our finance I was answerable to my big purchases so I can’t just go and spend $500 on a bag and another $200 on a dress in one day. Even before I take my credit card out of my wallet, I will have to come up with a good reason why I spent so much. It proved to be a good thing for me because I always think before I make a big purchase and when I can’t justify it, I don’t buy it. It was not that he was controlling my purchase but I knew we have a goal to reach to and buying whatever I feel like whenever I feel like was adding unnecessary obstacles in reaching our goals. And the same thing was happening with my husband which meant our saving was growing steadily.

Luckily enough our arrangement is working well for both of us and both of us are happy with what we have achieved so far. We have a long-term plan like where we want to be financially when we retire and when we have babies and we can see that if we stick to our plan. We can reach our goal and that is a very happy feeling.

Regardless of how you arrange things, you should discuss your money at least monthly with your partner. This will definitely give a real overview of your financial situation. Otherwise, imagine your surprise when you find out that your partner is in $20,000 debt.

This can be as simple or as detailed as you like, depending on your comfort level, but there should be at least some time set aside regularly so that each person can be as informed about your shared finances as possible.

I do believe that transparency and open discussions is very important in a marriage, as it will strengthen the bond of shared responsibility. When there is financial transparency and common goals, it facilitates two people pulling together rather than away from each other and marriage gets redefined as a partnership between two contributing adults.

Do share how you mange your money?

Take care and have a great weekend,

M from nepaliaustralian

XOXO

Marriage on the rocks

If you are worried after reading the title, please do not worry, I am still happily married. But recently I have had friends and colleagues who are either divorced, separated or their marriage is on the rocks. This made me think about marriage in general and of course I and AS.

Most of my friends and colleagues I am talking about have been married for a long time. One of them for 10 years, another 14 and others many more too. Most of them were high school sweet hearts and in love for a long time before they decided to get married and have beautiful kids but after such a long union, they decided to part way and inmost cases, the reason was infidelity. I was actually shocked in many cases, as I knew both people in the marriage.

I have heard about the 7 year itch and read a lot about what happens to sex life when one has kids. Still looking around and finding so many people with their marriage in tatters really made me think about marriage in general seriously.

AS is my best friend first before my husband so I share what I was thinking with him all the time. So while in this topic, I asked him “Do you think we might have a problem like this in our marriage as well?” I am not sure what kind of answer I was hoping to get but I was shocked when he answered “Of course, we will. I am not going to say we will have a perfect marriage.” As much as I appreciate his honestly, it also made me worried about the whole institution of marriage.

I come from Nepal, a country where  they teach that marriage is for life but even there things are changing slowly. The divorce rate is still not as high there as in the western world. So when I married AS, I married him for life, for better or for worse. But seeing so many couple heading down the divorce path, I really want to work harder on my marriage to make sure we don’t ever head towards that path.

As everything else in life, I know we tend to take our partners for granted after being with them for few years which means we may not make a special time for him and once kids are in the equation, most mums are really too busy to plan something as a couple. But I still can’t justify someone cheating on their partner because they are bored.

When Brad Pitt and Jennifer Aniston got divorced many years ago, I was always Team Jen. I used to like Brad Pitt as an actor but I couldn’t stand the fact that he cheated on his wife. I know everyone has their weak moments and relationships go sour but one can always exit the relationship gracefully before entering to another one so why cheat?

Most people who cheat seem to think they will never be found out but living in this modern world where very cell phone has a camera and everyone has Facebook, how can they be dumb enough to go around their partners back to have fun.

While talking to AS, he was making me understand how men think and I know that they don’t have their brain in their head but I still can’t forgive a person who cheats no matter if that’s a man or a women.

But that takes me to my next question. What will do if you find out your partner is cheating?

There are 3 solutions

  1. Do nothing and pretend nothing happened
  2. Forgive and work on the marriage
  3. Get Divorced/Separated

To be honest, I don’t think I will be able to do first two options. I definitely can’t pretend nothing had happened when I know that my husband is sleeping with someone else. I probably could forgive but for the rest of our life I will wonder where he has gone or whom he had been with and that won’t be the kind of relationship I will like to continue where there is no trust. So the only option that I can manage will be getting divorce.

Therefore, I do understand why all my friends decided to choose that path when they found out that their partner was cheating.

But before we can get to that fork on the road where there are only those three solutions there must be things we can do to make sure we are never in that situation.

Of course, relations and marriage are between two people but each individual makes it work so I am seriously thinking about ways to keep our marriage as happy and healthy as it is now. Here are a few things I think will help for a long lasting relationship.

  • Never take each other for granted
  • Do nice things for each other from time to time
  • Make time for each other and hug, kiss, hold each other.
  • Respect each other
  • Think before you speak (I need to practice this more)
  • Compromise to make him/her happy
  • Do things together
  • Be aware of each other’s need
  • Take time out to talk
  • Don’t withhold intimacy as a punishment
  • Never compare your relationship with other couples because you don’t know their real relationship (behind the fake smiles maybe)
  • When your partner does something that upsets you, stop, sit down, and explain to your partner why what he/she is doing is bothering you
  • Accept your partner for who he/she is, after all you married him/her because you loved the way he/she is
  • Respect the fact that your partner is going to need alone time
  • Be positive and work for your future together

Please share your tips here so we all can help each other. All I wish is to have AS in my life until I take my last breath and can’t imagine my life without him. Wish everyone a happy relationship.

Take care everyone and have a great weekend,

M from nepaliaustralian

XOXO