I feel bad even admitting this, but sometimes I think it’s true that second children can get overlooked a little compared to the first.
With our chhori, from such an early age we put so much effort into creating opportunities for her. She went to school activities, piano, swimming, gymnastics — and we were always thinking of new ways to add value to her life and give her experiences.
But with our chhora, if I’m being completely honest, we’ve been a little more relaxed (or maybe just more tired and comfortable as parents). He was doing swimming and soccer, but not much else.
Last year he kept asking to try taekwondo and I brushed it off thinking it was probably just another short-term interest. But then he kept asking… for three whole months. Eventually we realised he wasn’t letting it go and decided we should properly look into it.
I’ll admit, I hated the idea at first — twice a week felt like a lot with everything else going on.
And now I’m so glad we said yes.
He absolutely loves it. He gets excited for class, talks about it afterwards and genuinely looks forward to going. Watching him enjoy something that he chose for himself has been such a reminder for me that every child is different and needs different things.
It also made me reflect on how easy it is to assume younger siblings will just fit into family life without us intentionally creating opportunities for them too.
And now that he’s doing so well and enjoying it so much, we decided to send chhori as well — and she’s loving it too ❤️
Parenting really is one long lesson in learning, adjusting and trying to do better.
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M from Nepaliaustralian
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