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Life – Death and in-between

In a span of 2 years, I have seen so many of our dear ones leave this world.

It started with my MIL’s sister with cancer followed by my dad’s sister, cancer again. Then after a while we lost AS’s grandma due to old age and them my mum’s sister (cancer) and then very recently my dad’s brother (kidney problem).

Going through all this grief in such a short period of time, I started thinking about death more seriously.

I know death is the only thing which we all know is certain but still when our near and dear ones pass away, we are left with pain and grief. Just because we all know everyone is going to leave this earth doesn’t make our pain any easier.

But at the same time I am appreciating life more. I am trying to enjoy time with friends and family doing things I love to do and living my life to the fullest so if I don’t wake up tomorrow, I know I will have no regret.

It is definitely lot harder to do than I have planned but I am going to keep this in mind.

Life is definitely unpredictable and too short for egos in relationships.

Surrounding myself with like mined and positive people will make it worth living. I am making the most of my time, saying what I want to and doing what I want to do. Nobody should be taken for granted and it works both way.

Someone’s death is a reminder for us that life is shorter than we think.

Hope I could provoke your thought about life and death and see this world slightly differently as no one knows what will happen tomorrow.

M from nepaliaustralian

XOXO

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I feel blessed…

I am sure I am not alone in this boat. There are days/ week where you feel down and don’t want to do anything, meet anyone and feel as if your life is going nowhere. You just see everything around you and nothing is going according to your plan.

I am having one of those days and I feel like I need to jerking myself out of it and tell myself that I have many blessing to count and I should not waste time thinking about nonsense.

So that is what I am doing right now.

  • I am blessed with good health which so many people in this world wish for.

  • I am blessed to have loving parents who will do anything to make me happy and have been so supportive and caring throughout my life. I am where I am because of their sacrifice and love. I should never forget that even when I am down.

  • I am blessed to have a hubby who completes me in every way. He knows every small thing about me and tries his best to keep a smile on my face. I am so blessed to get a partner who is my love, friend and my life. Nothing can change our bond and I am so proud to say that.

  • I am blessed to have a daughter who is my world, my heartbeat and absolute cutie pie. When she hugs me, kisses me or says “I love you Mama”, the world becomes a happier place. She is a source of happiness in our lives. Sometime I become selfish and want to stop time as I don’t want her to grow up.

  • I am blessed to have a job which helps me to provide family with food, a roof on our head and life’s various needs.
  • I am blessed to be living in a country where I don’t have to worry about day to day stuff and don’t need to fight for our rights.
  • I am blessed to have friends and family who care about me and my happiness. Even if they may not be many, the care and love is real and it matters a lot.

Writing this is already making me feel better.

Please share your own list and hope that list can bring a smile on your face every time you are down or unhappy.

Have a great day everyone.

M from nepaliaustralian

XOXO

 

Chhori update

Chhori is 18 months old now, a big girl compared to a year ago. Time is just flying by.

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It is so true when they say children are like sponge as they absorb everything and it is no different with Chhori.

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Recently, she has learned to indicate Yes and No by nodding. I think she is learning all this from the rhymes but she looks absolutely gorgeous when she does them. Also, just yesterday she was putting her both hands on her mouth while laughing. She always manages to amaze me with new stuff every day.

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AS had been a great dad and constantly teaches her new stuff and I love watching their interaction. She is definitely becoming demanding now but AS always manages to handle her by teaching that you give in somewhere to get something.

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I am so happy that he is so patient with our daughter as I don’t have lots of patience :). I love her to death but sometime she seems to know how to drive me mad.

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On the other hand, she has wrapped her grandparents around her ting fingers. She always gets my mum and dad to give her a massage especially her legs. And it has to be both the legs at the same time, one by grandma and one by grandad.

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My mum scolds her sometimes when she misbehaves, and threatens to spank her. Now she actually comes to me complaining when I come home and though she can’t say it but shows me a spanking action to complain.

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She will miss them a lot when they leave next year.

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Her eating habit is changing slowly and we are giving her mostly the same food that we eat. She had 5 chicken steamed momos yesterday proving she is definitely Nepalese. momoShe loves to eat everything on her own too. Sometimes it is a problem because with rice it can get very messy but we are teaching her how to use a spoon.

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Last week it was her 18 months immunisation and again this time also she didn’t cry at all. I held her the whole time while the GP gave her the shot, but not a sound was made. She was just curious like last time and watched the needle go into her arms. There was a little blood this time but it didn’t make any difference. I am so happy she didn’t cry.

Second needle in and she kept watching it go inside

More updates soon.

Take care everyone,

M from nepaliaustralian

XOXO

Back to work, back to reality

Today, after almost a year of maternity leave, I am back at work and it feels so sad. I know I am very lucky to have had the option to stay home and look after my daughter for so long but after spending almost every moment together for the last one year, I left home this morning with a heavy heart.

We are lucky to have my parents here to look after Chhori in my absence but it doesn’t make it any easier on my heart.

This morning when I was getting ready for work, Chhori saw me getting dressed and thought that we were going out together. She wanted me to hold her so I did and she even waved good bye to my mum. Poor baby thought she is going out with me.

Before coming to work, I asked her to kiss me and she happily obliged. Here is our happy snap from the morning.

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I know this is the normal course of life and I have little choice but I miss her so much. It will be a hard few days for both of us before we get used to the situation.

M from nepaliaustralian

XOXO

My Life Lesson No 5: LIVE life

I know everyone is living but I really think just living and LIVING a life are two different things. Even ants, dogs, monkeys etc. live but only humans can live the life. Most of the time we are so consumed with petty things in life that we just live and stop living the life as it is meant to be and that is not good.

We know that our time on this earth is very short so why are we wasting our time in something not important. Make sure you have good health and make it your priority. There is no excuse for not taking care of yourself because no matter what you do if you are not healthy you can’t be there for your partner, children or parents.

There is no one rule on how to live the life but just breathing is not one of them.

I am sure everyone has a dream. Work towards it. What will be the use of your money if you have millions in an account but you have no one to share that with? What is the value of your money when you are spending 14 hours at work that you hardly see your partner and children? What is the use of the money when it is hard to find time to talk to your parents and you are not there to hold their hands when they need it?

You don’t need to be older to be wiser so from today start living life that won’t make you feel regretful.

No matter how crazy your dream is, if you work towards it you will be happy with yourself and you will see the world differently. Become the person you would like to spend the rest of your life with and you will see that everyone around will be there for you.

Instead of having regrets about the past and wishing you had done something in a different way, act today and live the life you want to.

When you try to live life the way you want to, you might make mistakes, you might hit rock bottom but don’t take that as a setback. Take it as a part of the learning curve and find humour in life. Remember life is a circle and it won’t stay the same all the time.

I know it is not easy to LIVE life and there are times I want to give up and choose the easy way out but the satisfaction you get when you really live the life is priceless. If you taste that once, then you will understand the big difference between just living and LIVING the life :).

Happy Friday and have a great weekend 🙂

Take care,

M from nepaliaustralian

XOXO

My Life Lesson No 1: Say what you are thinking

I was reading the title of this post again and again. I couldn’t believe I was going to write about life lessons but I guess I could now as I have some life experience. I definitely want to write about what I have learned in my not very long life and share it here hoping it might be helpful to someone.

Having a husband like AS, who can be your therapist and psychiatrist is a great plus point in life. He has always helped me a lot ,especially when I am in pain or in my weakness. There are lots of things he has taught me and one of the thing he has always encouraged me is to tell people what I feel and what is in my head.

I used to be a people person, trying hard to be friends, hard to be responsible in every relation I have like a daughter, sister, friend, cousin, SIL, DIL etc. However, most of the time, no one really saw my sacrifice to please them; actually in most case it went unnoticed. I didn’t even get a simple thank you instead I was taken for granted by the vary people who I was trying to please so hard.

The way I used to deal with it in the past was to just get sad and upset but never in front of the people who said or did something to get me upset. It used to make me feel down to the point I used to cry and make me doubt my every move. I even fought with AS when he tried his best to get me out of my emotion whirlpool.

It took hours and in some cases days to recover from those messes. On the other hand, the person who hurt me had no clue that I was upset let along care that they caused me pain.

So recently I adapted the rule “Say what you are thinking”.

Funny enough it worked so well for me because now I just let them know in kinder words that their action/word had hurt me. In most cases, they seemed to be surprise and say sorry. In others, they didn’t have a better come back so they just ignored it, but still getting my feeling out there was a big relief.

For me it was the best as I spent less time thinking about it as it is already resolved from my side and now I can use the same energy in something better and I am a happier person. I know it may not work every time but I am sticking to it as it has definitely lessen my pain and anguish.

Let me know if you agree with my views?

P.S. We are in Central coast for our easter break. Hope everyone is having a great Easter too. HAPPY EASTER !!!

Life is too short

A while ago I blogged about my penpal and told you about one of my penpals named Raja Gurung who is my Facebook friend now. I was shocked to find out from his Facebook that he has passed away recently. I have no details but I am really sad to know about it.

Actually, I was shocked to read RIP messages in his Facebook wall and have no idea how to react.

As I told you before Raja was from Darjeeling, India and he was only a few years older than me. He was happily married, with two kids. I had met him a couple of times. The last time I chated with him was on Facebook which must be more than a year ago. He was telling me his plans of making a new family home and about his kids and now he is no more.

Life is short but looking around everyone seems to think that they will live forever. We spend time and money as though we will always be here. We don’t tell the ones we love how much we love them often enough because we assume there’s always tomorrow. But thinking about him now brings tears to my eyes as I know that he was a good husband and a father who loved his family a lot. But at very young age he has left this earth and his family to go far from all of us.

We think we have got forever and worry about millions of thing. We talk of killing time, passing time, and getting through the week, forgetting we are wishing away the moments that comprise our lives. We say time is money when in fact the time we have is all we have. Money can be borrowed, time can’t. We fear taking risks, unaware that the biggest risk we run in playing it safe is in fact living as long as we hope and never doing the things we dream of. And then it’s too late.

Every time someone around me dies I face the reality of life but when someone so young leave us it really makes me think harder on my choices in life because I know I may not live until tomorrow. So I am vowing to try my best not to piss anyone around me just in case. Also I want to keep my loved one close and tell them I love them a lot so that they know I will be with them even if I leave this earth before them.

I am a planner and I always plan my years in advance and it is working well for me but sometimes I wonder what will happen to my dreams if I don’t wake up tomorrow. Will my ghost haunt the earth and fulfil my dreams or will I be nothing but the ashes after cremation?

Today this is a reminder for everyone that life is short. It must, therefore, be well lived.