I am sure I have mentioned it here before that Chhori is not a great sleeper. She has very short naps 30-45 minutes at a time and even at nights she wakes up multiple times. So I always wish that she would sleep a bit longer so I can do something but there are times I don’t want her to sleep long.
Today, for the second time this week, she was fast asleep while I left for work. I really wanted to wake her up but didn’t do it. She looked so peaceful sleeping that I wished I had longer time at home to see her wake up and smile at me.
If I leave home late, I get stuck in traffic which will increase my travel time so I try to leave home early so I can come home to Chhori early . But the days when she is still asleep, I don’t get to interact with her at all in the morning and that makes it really hard to leave home.
Normally I don’t say good bye to her when I leave in the morning anyway even though she is awake. AS takes her to a room before I go out of the home so she doesn’t see me leave and start crying but I still get to spend 20-30 minutes with her while I get ready for work. But the days she that doesn’t wake up, I get no time with her in the morning and it breaks my heart. All I can do is look at my sleeping baby.
Being a working mum is a really hard thing to do. I know I have so many reasons to work and I am lucky to have a job to come back to but at the same time I feel so sad that I have to spend so many hours away from my baby. Thank God my parents are looking after her so I don’t have to drop off a screaming toddler at a day care but not being able to hold her in the morning makes me sad the whole day.
I don’t know how to make this work. Any suggestion from all the wonderful mums out there is welcome. How do you all do it? I think I am still getting used to coming back to work after a year.
I am so glad it is Friday today so I get to spend two full days with her. So looking forward to the weekends. I am sure weekends going to be even more precious from now on.
Have a great weekend everyone.
M from nepaliaustralian
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My question is to every working parent: how much time do you spend with your kids?
After coming back to work for just a week, I have begun to realise that I will be spending a lot less time with my beautiful Chhori. It makes me really sad and I can completely understand why many mums choose to stay home or work part time after a baby.
I know I am very lucky to have been able to spend a year with her at home and I did enjoy every moment of it. But now that am back at work, I only see her for around 30 minutes in the morning while I am getting ready for work and around 2 hours once I get back home before she goes to bed.
So every workday, I have around 2.5 hours with her which will include me cooking meals, cleaning afterwards and doing household chores as well. So weekends are going to be very precious now.
I guess she has started to understand that I will be leaving her at home so in the mornings once she is awake all she wants is for me to hold her. So I brush my teeth, comb my hair and get dressed holding her. I want to feed her breakfast before I leave but it is not possible every day. If I leave late then I will get home late as well. I hate making these choices and I really think parents should not have to make choices like this in life.
I have a very supportive husband and he helps around a lot but I still feel really wretched that I have to compromise so much in life. I guess I will get used to the idea after a while but for now it hurts so much to be away from my little girl.
I don’t know how to improve and utilise my time better when I am with her so any suggestion is very welcome. How do you manage your time so you can spend more quality time with your little one? Are there any tips or tricks that I can use to make both of us happy? Every suggestion and advice will be much appreciated.
Take care everyone,
M from nepaliaustralian
Today, after almost a year of maternity leave, I am back at work and it feels so sad. I know I am very lucky to have had the option to stay home and look after my daughter for so long but after spending almost every moment together for the last one year, I left home this morning with a heavy heart.
We are lucky to have my parents here to look after Chhori in my absence but it doesn’t make it any easier on my heart.
This morning when I was getting ready for work, Chhori saw me getting dressed and thought that we were going out together. She wanted me to hold her so I did and she even waved good bye to my mum. Poor baby thought she is going out with me.
Before coming to work, I asked her to kiss me and she happily obliged. Here is our happy snap from the morning.
I know this is the normal course of life and I have little choice but I miss her so much. It will be a hard few days for both of us before we get used to the situation.
M from nepaliaustralian