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Life – Death and in-between

In a span of 2 years, I have seen so many of our dear ones leave this world.

It started with my MIL’s sister with cancer followed by my dad’s sister, cancer again. Then after a while we lost AS’s grandma due to old age and them my mum’s sister (cancer) and then very recently my dad’s brother (kidney problem).

Going through all this grief in such a short period of time, I started thinking about death more seriously.

I know death is the only thing which we all know is certain but still when our near and dear ones pass away, we are left with pain and grief. Just because we all know everyone is going to leave this earth doesn’t make our pain any easier.

But at the same time I am appreciating life more. I am trying to enjoy time with friends and family doing things I love to do and living my life to the fullest so if I don’t wake up tomorrow, I know I will have no regret.

It is definitely lot harder to do than I have planned but I am going to keep this in mind.

Life is definitely unpredictable and too short for egos in relationships.

Surrounding myself with like mined and positive people will make it worth living. I am making the most of my time, saying what I want to and doing what I want to do. Nobody should be taken for granted and it works both way.

Someone’s death is a reminder for us that life is shorter than we think.

Hope I could provoke your thought about life and death and see this world slightly differently as no one knows what will happen tomorrow.

M from nepaliaustralian


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Our Story – “Wanjala” ceremony- Part 48

This is a continuation of my previous posts. Please read the previous posts here.

This is a ceremony where the newly wed bride is taken to the temple of the Kuladevata (family deity) where the bride is introduced to the god as a new member of the family and in front of the god, the groom puts Sindoor on the bride’s forehead and hair partition.

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The very next morning after I came to AS’s house, we went for Wanjala. It was me, my MIL, AS’s aunts and AS. We drove to the temple and waited in the queue for the priest to be free.


Once he was available, we handed him all the things for the Puja along with Sindoor from the Swayamvar ceremony. He performed some rituals and prayers and then asked AS to put Sindoor on my forehead. My MIL held a red and gold cloth from behind and, AS put the Sindoor on my forehead. Then I had to touch AS’s feet to get his blessing.

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Then we went around the temple to get the blessing from the gods. Once all the pujas were done, we sat down and ate the sagun we had brought from home. It is considered a good sign to eat around the temple.

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More on wedding on next post, till then, take care.

M from nepaliaustralian


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Our Story – “Jwain Bhitraune” ceremony- Part 47

This is a continuation of my previous posts. Please read the previous posts here.

Jwain” means son in law in Nepali. After the wedding when the newly married couple visits the bride’s home for the first time, the groom has to give Supari to all the close members of the bride’s family and is introduced to the members of the bride’s family. The event also comprises of the bride’s family presenting the groom with gifts such as clothes, shoes and even jewellery.

When we (me and AS) came to my parent’s home for the first time, all my relatives were waiting for us. It was exciting as it was the first time a son in law visits the house after the wedding. It is the ceremony where the, groom is introduced to the bride’s family members. The funny thing was he already knew all of them.

The preparation was all done before hand so we went straight to the room where Supari ceremony going to start. AS sat down alongside his brother and my aunt (the eldest member of the family) started the ritual.

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Like most ceremony, she put tika to Lord Ganesh and then to AS. Then AS gave supari to my parents and it return they gave him a suitcase which had a suit, a shirt, shoe, socks and perfume. Then Supari was given to rest of the family and my brother gave him a watch and other relatives gave him money.

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As it was only close relatives it didn’t take long. After that we had dinner. It was fun to be back at my parents’ home.

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The days following the wedding, AS and I had to visit all my close relatives. They performed simple puja and give him Sagun. It is called “Jwain Bhitraune” in their home. Normally this process takes many days as you go to various relatives one day at a time but we finished this process all in one day. We visited all my relatives and we had breakfast, snacks, lunch, dinner and more snacks in different relatives’ homes.

In Nepal, everyone loves to feed you and they don’t like an empty plate so by the end of that day we had so much Sagun and food that both of us were completely stuffed. My relatives also gave us some cloths as gifts.

Till then, take care.

M from nepaliaustralian


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