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Our Story – “Wanjala” ceremony- Part 48

This is a continuation of my previous posts. Please read the previous posts here.

This is a ceremony where the newly wed bride is taken to the temple of the Kuladevata (family deity) where the bride is introduced to the god as a new member of the family and in front of the god, the groom puts Sindoor on the bride’s forehead and hair partition.

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The very next morning after I came to AS’s house, we went for Wanjala. It was me, my MIL, AS’s aunts and AS. We drove to the temple and waited in the queue for the priest to be free.

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Once he was available, we handed him all the things for the Puja along with Sindoor from the Swayamvar ceremony. He performed some rituals and prayers and then asked AS to put Sindoor on my forehead. My MIL held a red and gold cloth from behind and, AS put the Sindoor on my forehead. Then I had to touch AS’s feet to get his blessing.

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Then we went around the temple to get the blessing from the gods. Once all the pujas were done, we sat down and ate the sagun we had brought from home. It is considered a good sign to eat around the temple.

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More on wedding on next post, till then, take care.

M from nepaliaustralian

XOXO

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Our Story – “Jwain Bhitraune” ceremony- Part 47

This is a continuation of my previous posts. Please read the previous posts here.

Jwain” means son in law in Nepali. After the wedding when the newly married couple visits the bride’s home for the first time, the groom has to give Supari to all the close members of the bride’s family and is introduced to the members of the bride’s family. The event also comprises of the bride’s family presenting the groom with gifts such as clothes, shoes and even jewellery.

When we (me and AS) came to my parent’s home for the first time, all my relatives were waiting for us. It was exciting as it was the first time a son in law visits the house after the wedding. It is the ceremony where the, groom is introduced to the bride’s family members. The funny thing was he already knew all of them.

The preparation was all done before hand so we went straight to the room where Supari ceremony going to start. AS sat down alongside his brother and my aunt (the eldest member of the family) started the ritual.

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Like most ceremony, she put tika to Lord Ganesh and then to AS. Then AS gave supari to my parents and it return they gave him a suitcase which had a suit, a shirt, shoe, socks and perfume. Then Supari was given to rest of the family and my brother gave him a watch and other relatives gave him money.

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As it was only close relatives it didn’t take long. After that we had dinner. It was fun to be back at my parents’ home.

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The days following the wedding, AS and I had to visit all my close relatives. They performed simple puja and give him Sagun. It is called “Jwain Bhitraune” in their home. Normally this process takes many days as you go to various relatives one day at a time but we finished this process all in one day. We visited all my relatives and we had breakfast, snacks, lunch, dinner and more snacks in different relatives’ homes.

In Nepal, everyone loves to feed you and they don’t like an empty plate so by the end of that day we had so much Sagun and food that both of us were completely stuffed. My relatives also gave us some cloths as gifts.

Till then, take care.

M from nepaliaustralian

XOXO

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Our Story – “Mukh Herne” ceremony- Part 46

This is a continuation of my previous posts. Please read the previous posts here.

Mukh Herne is the day when the bride’s family comes and meets the bride at the Groom’s place, with lots of gifts like jewellery, saris, cosmetic, shoes, bags, fruits, Nepali Rotis , Masala and much more.

Mukh Herne literally means “looking at the face” and traditionally it is done after the bride spends a few days with the groom’s family. All the bride’s relatives then visit the groom’s home so they can “look at the bride’s face” and see if she is happy and being treated well.

During this ceremony every member of the bride’s family gives her money or jewellery as Mukh Herne gift. The groom is not allowed to be present while this ceremony goes on.

Once I came to AS’s house I was looking forward to this day. I hadn’t seen my parents for four days so I was very excited when the day finally arrived.

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I woke up early, went to the beauty parlour and got ready to go to the venue. I was wearing a pink Sari with a green border (a gift from my mother in law) along with lots of accessories and bridal makeup.

Wedding CeremonyOnce we were at the venue I called my dad to check where they were. He said they were on the way. When they arrived at the venue, it started raining heavily. This is what is called a Monsoon Wedding I guess. Every time any big event was about to begin, it started raining during our wedding.

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It was so nice to see my family again, my dad was there with my brother, my sister-in-law, my uncles, aunts, cousins and close friends. According to the tradition, my mum hadn’t come. I wished she was there too.

They brought everything that was sent from AS’s family during Supari ceremony except perishable items and they had added more items so there were heaps of trays decorated nicely.

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They also had a cake (the two tier with bride and groom topping), a decorated yogurt, Saris, bags, lots of Rotis and fruits. They also had decorated fish, and a coconut.

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Once everything was organised for the ceremony I was asked to sit to start the ceremony.

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Then the ceremony started with Tika being put on my forehead by my uncle, the eldest male in the family. Then he handed me the red Dupatta Sari. I had to go and change into this new Sari for the remainder of the ceremony.

So I took my cousins and friends to help me change into the room next door. It was a big job as it was a Dupatta Sari and it takes an expert to get it right. On top of that my mum had forgotten to cut the blouse piece from the Sari so there were people running around looking for scissors. We didn’t mean to take long but it took us a while to get the scissors, cut the sari and for me to get ready after that. I was really grateful that my friends and cousins were there to help me.

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Finally, wearing my new Sari, I came back to the event hall. There were more rituals to go through. The priest from my family was instructing my dad and uncle on what to do and they were following the rituals.

L-R My brother putting a ring, My dad putting bangles and ring, my sister in law puting bracelet

Then everyone who had come from my family came one by one and met me with gifts like jewellery and cash. It looks like the bride is the ultimate winner in a Nepali wedding.

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This process took a while but it was so fun. I received lots of gold and diamond jewellery, watch, sari and lots of cash. 🙂

Now it was my turn to cut the cake again. The cake was given to everyone and then it was time for dinner. On the way to the dinner hall everyone from my family side received Masala (a Sagun bag with lots of dried fruits and nuts).

After dinner, my family left and I was a bit sad. I knew I had a new home with AS and his family but I still missed my parents and the home where I had grown up.

More on wedding next post.

Till then, take care.

M from nepaliaustralian

XOXO

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Our Story : Supari ceremony – Part 40

This is a continuation of my previous posts. Please read the previous posts here.

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The Supari is the Newari equivalent of the engagement ceremony in western weddings; a formal announcement/acceptance of the relationship. The bride’s family isn’t able to proceed with any of the wedding parties until the Supari is received from the groom’s side.

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Supari is the Nepali word for betelnut and the deal is sealed by an event called ‘Gway Bigu’ or the sending of 12 pieces of supari (betle nut) from the groom’s family to the bride’s which is used during the “Swayambar” ceremony. The family of the groom-to-be also presents a set of clothes along with jewellery, lots of rotis, fruits for the bride as a sort of first gift to the soon to be daughter-in-law. In most cases, this supari-taking ceremony occurs four days before the actual wedding ceremony, but it can be earlier or later to suit the families.

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When I woke up that morning, I had butterflies in my stomach. I was relaxed before but suddenly I was a bit scared as it was getting very real with the upcoming Supari ceremony. It is funny how you can easily get overwhelmed by the situation looking at what is happening around you. My house was full of people, relatives and friends. It was noisy and everyone was busy doing something or other. They all seemed to be busy but I didn’t know what I was supposed to do. I asked my mum what things are to be done before I go to beauty parlour to get ready. She asked to have breakfast and go so I can come back as soon as possible. I had made an appointment in nearby salon and the lady had told me, it would take up to 3 hours to do my hair and makeup.

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When I came out of the parlour, I felt like a real bride. I was wearing a red sari with green border which had golden work done with beads. I had bought this sari while I was in India and loved the simple style and the border. I had my hair made up in a bridal way complementing my bridal makeup. I wore lots of Chura (glass bangles) to match the sari.

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I also wore a gold necklace set and golden chura my parents had made as part of my wedding jeweleries.

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My friend came to pick me up when I was done. From there it was straight to the venue where Supari ceremony was happening. As we were early and the photographer was already there, we had the opportunity for some photos. I am not sure what I was feeling because it was the first ceremony with so many people and things started to get more real.

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Then most of the relatives and friends started to come. The groom’s family informed us that some of the family members were on the way for Supari ceremony. Like in most Asian society, wedding is the time when the family status is displayed by showering the bride with expensive jewelleries. My parents and MIL had made sure that nothing was spared in planning so I was getting lots of jewellery from both side of the family.

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For this occasion, the groom doesn’t come but had sent his 4 cousins with trays of gifts like jewellery, Saris, cosmetic, shoes, bags (I went shopping with my mother in law beforehand and she let me pick everything of my choice which was so nice of her), fruits, Nepali Roti, Masala and much more. There was Supari (betle nuts) and coconut nicely decorated in red clothes and beads, fish decorated with lots of glitter, and decorated yogurt.

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One of the biggest highlights was the cake(remember all the drama I had to get this cake done and I am so glad the final outcome was so good). It was a white forest two level cake with a traditional topper (two men carrying bride in Doli) . Everyone loved it. I am glad we selected that.

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There was a diamond necklace with earrings, a pearl set and the important Tilhari (necklace made of small pote beads with a gold pendant) and Sindoor (Vermilion).

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But the most important out of all this is Sahit paper (The paper which has the details of date and time for our Swayambar). An astrologer decides on an auspicious date, or Subha Sahit, after gauging the influences of the celestial bodies on the bride and groom based on the dates and times of their birth. Fixing the date is but an end of a long, tedious process of setting everything on a right course. Preceding it are labyrinth of activities, like matching of kundalis and comparing and cross-checking of gotras, or ancestral lineages, of the couple. The Sahitpaper was framed nicely in a silver frame.

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The ceremony started with my aunt (eldest woman in the family) doing some Puja and then they handed me all the gifts including Sahit paper, Sindoor and Tilhari. The priest was instructing my aunt on what to do and with the help of my mum the ceremony was concluded. Wedding CeremonyWedding Ceremony

I was so preoccupied during the ceremony that I missed lots of the things that happened. Luckily, there is a video as well as photos for me to relive all the wonderful memories from the day.

I wore all the jewellery and some glass bangles.

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Then it was time to cut the cake. In Newari wedding, both the cakes are cut by bride herself. I cut a cake and it was given to everyone. A big piece that said A weds M was sent for AS so he can have later.

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As you know, no ceremony in Nepali culture ends without the big Bhoj (party) so there was Bhoj and refreshment for everyone including AS’s cousins.

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It was a simple ceremony but it had a great significance as it formally started the wedding 🙂 .

Supari (15)More on the wedding in the next post.

Take care,

M from nepaliaustralian

XOXO

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Go to Part 41

Sleeping in

I know sleeping-in during the weekends might be something you all must look forward to but it is something I wish I could do for a long time. I wake up between 6:00 am and 6:30 am during weekdays and my body is like an alarm clock and wakes up before 7am even in the weekend no matter what time I go to bed. I try my best to stay in bed after I wake up but it just doesn’t work for me no matter what I do. This is the reason I try to go to bed on time even on weekends.

I know going to bed and getting up at the same time each day will help to keep us feeling good and performing well. However, sometimes I wish I could sleep in too, just for the novelty of it. Most of the mornings, AS will be sleeping when I wake up on Saturdays and Sundays morning and I get jealous of him.

I try not to disturb him so I will either go for a run or try to do something else until he wakes up. I have to admit I do wake him up if he doesn’t wake up by 8 am sometimes. It might sound cruel of me but there are times I am so bored that I need company.

Last weekend we had to go to a birthday on Saturday. I always like to go to parties where I dress up in traditional sari. Even though we didn’t go out during the day, it took me a while to be ready. You know, it’s a woman thing, hair, makeup, sari and accessories can take heaps of time.

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Anyway, we had a good time at the party and were home back a bit late, not too late though. We went to bed straight away when we came home as I was really tired.

The next morning, I woke up. When I turned around, AS was awake (that was a bit of a surprise for a weekend) so I asked him what the time was. He answered 10am and I couldn’t believe my ears.

I think I haven’t slept in till 10am since forever even when I went to bed at 3am so I was really happy that I finally did. I felt good and fresh. I wished I could do that more often (fingers crossed).

But sleeping in on weekends doesn’t seem like a great idea this morning when I couldn’t wake up like normal today. Both of us were running around like headless chicken getting ready this morning. Feeling a bit tired and not fresh at all today 😦 .

Hope all of you had a good weekend and no dramas with your sleep.

Do let me know your sleeping patterns for the weekends and some suggestion if you know how I can fix my tried body today.

Take care,

M from nepaliaustralian

XOXO

In search of the perfect outfit part 3 – Happy ending !!!

Sorry this post has come so late but as you know from my previous post here and here, how I was in search for perfect outfit and I am very happy to tell you that it had a very happy ending.

Once I ordered my lehengha and sari online, I was really excited. It felt so good to find something you really wanted and to wait for it. I was like a little girl a few days before Christmas, waiting for Christmas morning. I was slightly worried as there was not many days left before I left Sydney.

I thought it would be safest for me to get them delivered to work and I was in a waiting game. I began worrying when I had only 3 days left and I still hadn’t heard about or received the package. I was in panic mode and had called and emailed the store twice already.

The next morning I receive an email from one of my colleagues letting me know that there was a package for me at the front desk. I was so relieved and happy that I went running to the front desk. It was the package I was expecting. I also learnt that it had been delivered 2 days ago but they had failed to inform me. I was a bit annoyed but I it was short lived because I was relieved to finally get the lehenga and sari.

I wore all of them during the wedding ceremonies and here are the pics for all of you. Thank you so much for listening to my whinges and supporting me 🙂

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Take care everyone and more update from Nepal very soon :),

M from nepaliaustralian

XOXO

In search of perfect outfit part 2

This is a continuation of my previous post about the drama for the outfit for AS’s brother’s wedding. The good news first, I got a full refund from ustavfashion so I am very happy. At least now I know they are trustworthy and can consider them for my future purchases.

Also thank you each and every one who offered to help. I feel so grateful to have so many of you coming forward to help me. Even though I haven’t meet most of you, I feel like we are good friends so thank you from the bottom of my heart.

So here is the second part of the story. After going through another million sites (that’s what it feels like anyway) and determine not to feel let down by the result of my first attempt, I found another site, which has some really good stuff, Silk Saree Surat. As I am short in time, I decided to call the store directly as I couldn’t catch their online chat person when they were online.

Before I called I kind of knew what I wanted so it was a good conversation. The person I talked to checked his computer straight away and told me what he can ship in the next few days. He went through all the inventory and gave me all the things that can be shipped right away.

I thanked him and asked him if he can come online so when I have any question I can ask him. I didn’t have heaps of choice but it still took me an hour to narrow down my choices. Again, poor AS was on the receiving end of questions like what do you think? Do you like this better than that one?

From the ready to ship stock, I really liked 2 items. One of them was a sari and the other one was a lehengha. I couldn’t decide between the two. That took another 30 minuts but finally I decided to buy both of them. I know, I know, I meant to buy only one but a sari never goes to waste :). On top of that I also bought one more saree. I had been looking for that design for a while and it was not very expensive one. So AS said I could just take that too (I secretly think he just wanted me to stop looking at more saris 🙂 )and now I am all done with my shopping for the wedding.

As stitching the lehenga would take another 5 days, I got them to send it unstitched. I am planning to get it stitched in Nepal as soon as I get there. The backup plan is a sari just in case no one is ready to stitch it so quickly.

Anyway, I placed the order and hoped for the best. I told the person again that I needed it be in Sydney before a certain date as I will be leaving. He assured me that it would be.

After 2 days of placing the order, he got back to me and told me he has shipped the order. I was really happy.

Now I am impatiently waiting for them to arrive. I really hope it gets here soon as we don’t have many days before we need to board out flight to Kathmandu.

Fingers crossed they look exactly like what I saw on the website. I know that the lighting and beautiful models make lots of difference. I have realistic expectation and hope not to be disappointed.

Wish me luck and I will update as soon I as get them.

Take care everyone ,

M from nepaliaustralian

XOXO