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In search of the perfect outfit part 3 – Happy ending !!!

Sorry this post has come so late but as you know from my previous post here and here, how I was in search for perfect outfit and I am very happy to tell you that it had a very happy ending.

Once I ordered my lehengha and sari online, I was really excited. It felt so good to find something you really wanted and to wait for it. I was like a little girl a few days before Christmas, waiting for Christmas morning. I was slightly worried as there was not many days left before I left Sydney.

I thought it would be safest for me to get them delivered to work and I was in a waiting game. I began worrying when I had only 3 days left and I still hadn’t heard about or received the package. I was in panic mode and had called and emailed the store twice already.

The next morning I receive an email from one of my colleagues letting me know that there was a package for me at the front desk. I was so relieved and happy that I went running to the front desk. It was the package I was expecting. I also learnt that it had been delivered 2 days ago but they had failed to inform me. I was a bit annoyed but I it was short lived because I was relieved to finally get the lehenga and sari.

I wore all of them during the wedding ceremonies and here are the pics for all of you. Thank you so much for listening to my whinges and supporting me 🙂

lehenga (1) lehenga (2) saree (2) saree

Take care everyone and more update from Nepal very soon :),

M from nepaliaustralian

XOXO

In search of perfect outfit part 2

This is a continuation of my previous post about the drama for the outfit for AS’s brother’s wedding. The good news first, I got a full refund from ustavfashion so I am very happy. At least now I know they are trustworthy and can consider them for my future purchases.

Also thank you each and every one who offered to help. I feel so grateful to have so many of you coming forward to help me. Even though I haven’t meet most of you, I feel like we are good friends so thank you from the bottom of my heart.

So here is the second part of the story. After going through another million sites (that’s what it feels like anyway) and determine not to feel let down by the result of my first attempt, I found another site, which has some really good stuff, Silk Saree Surat. As I am short in time, I decided to call the store directly as I couldn’t catch their online chat person when they were online.

Before I called I kind of knew what I wanted so it was a good conversation. The person I talked to checked his computer straight away and told me what he can ship in the next few days. He went through all the inventory and gave me all the things that can be shipped right away.

I thanked him and asked him if he can come online so when I have any question I can ask him. I didn’t have heaps of choice but it still took me an hour to narrow down my choices. Again, poor AS was on the receiving end of questions like what do you think? Do you like this better than that one?

From the ready to ship stock, I really liked 2 items. One of them was a sari and the other one was a lehengha. I couldn’t decide between the two. That took another 30 minuts but finally I decided to buy both of them. I know, I know, I meant to buy only one but a sari never goes to waste :). On top of that I also bought one more saree. I had been looking for that design for a while and it was not very expensive one. So AS said I could just take that too (I secretly think he just wanted me to stop looking at more saris 🙂 )and now I am all done with my shopping for the wedding.

As stitching the lehenga would take another 5 days, I got them to send it unstitched. I am planning to get it stitched in Nepal as soon as I get there. The backup plan is a sari just in case no one is ready to stitch it so quickly.

Anyway, I placed the order and hoped for the best. I told the person again that I needed it be in Sydney before a certain date as I will be leaving. He assured me that it would be.

After 2 days of placing the order, he got back to me and told me he has shipped the order. I was really happy.

Now I am impatiently waiting for them to arrive. I really hope it gets here soon as we don’t have many days before we need to board out flight to Kathmandu.

Fingers crossed they look exactly like what I saw on the website. I know that the lighting and beautiful models make lots of difference. I have realistic expectation and hope not to be disappointed.

Wish me luck and I will update as soon I as get them.

Take care everyone ,

M from nepaliaustralian

XOXO

In search of the perfect outfit part 1

I know the title of my post says part 1 because I know there will be more drama in regards to my search for the perfect outfit.

As you may have read on my posts before, I want to find something to wear on my brother in law’s wedding. I am already thinking about it because we have only a week before the wedding starts after we land in Kathmandu and there will be so many things to be done. I am thinking that if I can choose an outfit for the wedding now then I will be less stressed. Thus began my journey in search of the perfect outfit.

I know lots of you have been through the experience so I wrote a blog post to find out about good online stores. Thanks heaps to everyone who replied to my post. I feel like I have so many friends who were lending me their support to help me out with my first world problem.

Anyway, after going through what looks like 100’s of different websites and 1000’s of different sarees and lehengas, I decided that I will be using utsavfashion.com as my final stop. Two reasons for my decision

  • One they have 24/7 operator online support
  • They have heaps of stuffs on ready to ship category.

Of course, on the website, alone I liked many outfits but the decision came down on how soon they can ship the stuff. So after eating AS’s brain for two full day and asking how different lehengas and sarees look, over the weekend we finally ordered a lehenga . It was almost what I was looking for. After talking to the online representative I found out that it would be shipped 5 days later, after stitching the top and skirt to my specification. I was happy so I went online and  paid for it. It was a big relief that it would be in Sydney before I leave and now I had one less thing to worry about.

AS was super pleased as well as I was going to stop annoying him about my outfit question. He even was nice enough to help me take measurements so the top and bottom would fit me perfectly.

But as usual how can things go so smoothly for me.

I came to work on Monday morning and while checking the email, I got the following email from ustavfashion.

Dear M,,

With reference to your order for item lehenga, we wish to inform you that due to as shown design pattern we can provide you lehenga length 40 inch long., not any shorter.

We regret for the inconvenience caused.

It will be appropriate as per your height if you wear the same with 3-3.5 inch heels.

Or

If you are not comfortable, then we request you to kindly choose any other item from the below link instead of cancelling your order:

We request you to check the item description by clicking on the read more options so that you can see the details of the item such as size and lehenga length.

Kindly advise.

If you require any further assistance then do let us know. We are looking forward to hear from you soon.

Regards,

I was really annoyed because I had asked the online rep. about it and he had said, “you just chose your length and all will be fine.” There was nothing in the description on the limit. I didn’t want a length 4 inch longer than what it should be and wearing the lehenga that high up on the waist was a no no. I wanted something that would look good on me so this option was no go zone for sure now.

After going through their website again, and the pain of spending so much time again, I didn’t find anything I could order so finally decided to cancel the order. I told the online person as well as sent an email to cancel the order and refund the money.

They really wanted me to pick something else but I didn’t want to compromise so finally they emailed to say that they are going to refund the money. I am waiting for that to happen.

In the mean time now, I am without choice and back to square one again. So it is definitely the part 1 for my search and hope to keep you update on what happens next.

I have got a few nice website suggestions from you and I hope to find something soon.

Take care everyone ,

M from nepaliaustralian

XOXO

Post marriage attire for women in Nepal

I was talking to one of my good friends on Skype recently. She is happily married with a 4 years old daughter. We have been friends for a long time but as she lives in Nepal and I live here, talking to her is always a treat. Every time we have a conversation we share our personal life and feelings.

I knew she hasn’t been very happy about a few things after her marriage. But recently I found her really happy and alive. I commented to her how glad I was to see her so happy. She told me she is happy because now she is free to wear what she wants. She said she is feeling better about herself now that she has control over her life.

Right then it struck to me that for the first few years after her wedding, she was wearing only Sari and Kurta. So here I am writing about the marriage attire for women in Nepal after marriage.

I have never lived outside of Kathmandu in Nepal. Both my parents are originally from Kathmandu so whatever I am going to write will most probably be the view of city life in Nepal.

In Nepal, for a long time, girls have freedom to wear what they want. I am not talking about low cut short skimpy dress but still they are allowed to wear what they want to a certain extent. I have seen my mum’s photos from her school and college days where she was wearing bell-bottom pants or big floral print t-shirt or beautiful colourful dresses.. Normally people let their daughters wear what they want and these days fashion in Kathmandu is not far behind western cities. So every time I go back to Nepal, I am amazed to see girls wearing low cut dress, short shorts or boob tube dresses and tops. I remember when I was there even halter dresses were not popular. But these days there seems to be not much restriction on what you can wear.

But things turn 180 degrees once the same girl gets married. Let’s take an example of my friend. She was wearing whatever she wanted for the last 20+ years of her life but as soon as she was married, she was forced to wear only Kurta and Sari for 2 years after the wedding. She did want to wear pants and dresses but her MIL and her husband’s immediate family member were against it so she couldn’t do anything about it. It is like my daughter/sister can do anything but if the girl is my DIL or SIL then they have to be seen as a traditional Nepali woman. I know things have changed a lot in the last few years as most of the women work after the marriage as well so they have to wear a uniform or still wear pants as it is more comfortable. But at the same time I have seen many families that didn’t allow their daughter in-laws to wear what she wants but instead says “You are a daughter in law now so you must wear only traditional attire. What will the neighbours says if they see you in pants or dress!” What a double standard.

I know in Nepal not only the in-laws but your own family will expect you to change how you dress, like my mum expected from me once I was married, but I believe society should accept the newlywed woman even if she prefers to wear pants or any other dress than just laying down a rule that married women must wear a Kurta or Sari. If she chooses to wear Sari and Kurta , let her but don’t make it compulsory. I love wearing Sari and Kurta on occasions as I feel very feminine in them but I can’t wear them everyday. For me it is not practical.

I have a cousin who got married recently and changed her dressing style completely after the wedding. I believe it is all expected from you and if you want no conflicts with your new family, girls just follow the rules.

So the normal accepted attire for women after wedding in Nepal are Kurta and Sari with Sindoor(vermilion) on their head, glass chura(glass bangles) on their hands and pote (Glass beads) around their neck. My mum thought I would be wearing pote and chura after the wedding even here in Sydney. The first time I Skyped with her after our return to Sydney, post wedding, she suggested to me that I should either wear chura or pote now onwards. I told her I do wear them when I am wearing Sari or Kurta but I can’t wear them with my pants and dresses. I am sure she is not very happy about it but she does understand my point and hasn’t said anything after that. My MIL on the other hand has never mention anything close to this yet and  I am very glad because I can’t be blunt with her, like I can with my mum, about my reasons for not wearing them here. But the best thing is that she is very understanding.

After the wedding I stayed with my in-laws for 10 days before leaving for our honeymoon. On those 10 days I wore only sari. Mostly it was my choice as I was having fun being a new bride and loving my saris and also it was expected that a woman to look certain way once they are married.

I am not sure how things will be when I go to Nepal again. To start with, I have to live with my in-laws most of the time. I will be visiting my parents but will be expected to spend more time in my husband’s house. So there will be the problem like what I will be allowed to wear or what is accepted of me.

Here in Australia, I wear whatever I want. I haven’t changed my dressing style after my wedding so I am not sure what I am going to do when I go to Nepal. I am sure I can’t wear shorts and short dresses. Normally I used to wear pants with a not too tight t-shirt but I am not sure what will be expected of me. May be I will just wait for now and worry about it when I book my next flight to Kathmandu. But thinking about it sometimes gives me a headache.

I believe that woman should still have the freedom to choose what they want to wear after getting marriage just like before marriage. I am sure we won’t dress like teenagers when we are in our mid 20s. Otherwise if society forces women to dress in a certain way then it might make them unhappy, like my friend, which will affect the relationship with the in-laws. I hope this will change soon so a woman doesn’t feel obligated to do things she really doesn’t want to. I know society changes according to time so I hope Nepali society will change in this aspect soon and will not differentiate between married women and single women in terms of clothing.

Sari

Wikipedia defines sari as a strip of unstitched cloth, worn by females, ranging from four to nine metres in length that is draped over the body in various styles. But for me sari always signifies Nepal and femineity.

There were times when I needed two people to help me wear a sari but now I can proudly say that I know how to wear a sari without any help. (I may need to try a few times to get it right 🙂 )

Over the years I have been lucky to have occasions to wear my different saris. Here are some of the photos I want to share with you.