We are still celebrating our wedding after more than 1 and half years. I am still a new bride wherever I go :). While I was living at my new home a few weeks ago, my mum following tradition and sent a Makka Ku (pronounced ‘mock-ka ku’).
Makka ku is a newar tradition in which during the first winter after the wedding, the bride’s family sends some items which are necessary for winter to the groom’s home. Makka means olden style charcoal heater but these days instead of makka, electric heater is sent to keep the newlywed couple warm during the winter, along with a full set of warm clothes for the bride as well as fruits, rotis, blanket, electric heater etc.
As we were in Sydney during our first winter, this winter was perfect time for my parents to follow the rituals for the Makka Ku.
My aunt, my cousin along with my brother came to my new home with sweets and roti like anarsa, fini, laakhamari, ladoo, saun papdi, fruits: like oranges, mandarin, bananas, sugarcane, apples, masala: like cashew, almond and chocolates along with snow peas, yogurt, peanuts, sari, pashmina shawl, shoes, bag, electric heater and a blanket.
It was a great day for me as I was so happy to celebrate our wedding again as this was one of the best decisions of my life and I am very happy to see both the family very happy with our union.
It was a good time for both families to meet and chat. My family came and sat down with my MIL, AS and BIL and had a good conversation. They also checked out our wedding album which my MIL had made for the house.
I had baked blueberry muffin that morning for tea so we started with tea and muffins and it was followed by Nepali feast for my aunt, cousin and brother. My MIL cooked the feast and I was the helper all morning in the kitchen preparing for the day.
After lunch my family left and Makku Ku was concluded. As I told you before, in Nepalese wedding the bride is always the winner and it was true for this function as well as I got a full set of new outfit :).
For details and photos on our wedding functions please click the following links.
A wonderful wedding, with tradition. Congratulations 🙂
Thank you 🙂
What a lovely tradition… Do your family object to their pictures being posted without the pixelation, or is that something you do regardless? Makes me wonder if I am too open…
Thanks Emma. I pixelate all the photos for privacy reason as I have my and my family’s whole life in this blog. I decided early about this as I know internet is not as safe as we think. My family members who know about the blog agree with me to pixelate the photo too.
The pictures make me hungry!
sorry nelle 🙂
They look delicious..mouth watering 🙂
They are, try some Nepali sweets 🙂
here you are. again with very culturally awakening post. See !! even i didn’t know about this tradition. 🙂 thankx u did post it for us. But have you ever felt this way ? i mean being parent to a girl means so much money is needed to complete traditions. Even after wedding !! And in Newari community, i can see through your posts, there is hardly anything like ‘in budget’. I had only heard about big fat Indian wedding. But hey, it’s same for we Nepali as well ! Isn’t it ?
I understand what you mean Shilu. Our society is made in such a way that groom’s parents have always got the upper hand in most case. In my case my in-laws are really cool and they don’t want my parents to do anything but my parents insist every time. They enjoy doing things like this as we are always outside and they get only few opportunity to do traditional stuffs. In Newari culture, groom’s parents also need to send Mother’s day and Father’s day Ku to bride house so I think it goes both ways.
I think Nepali society has become show off society in many ways as I have seen people give their birthday party and teej ko party in party palace. It is poor country of rich people.
yes, i agree with you dear. Even i don’t like the idea of Teej parties in ‘party palaces’. Instead, we can make a feastfull day of orphan children or abandoned elderly people partying with them rather than spending money in such a way. Anyway, it’s a matter of personal preferances. And hey, again i didnt know about Mother’s day and father’s day of Newari community rituals as well !! It sounds great as the gift exchanging is a ‘2 way affair’.
What a great idea of celebrating Teej gal, hats off to you …
Yummy… Too much hungry for sweets.