Skinny and photogenic
90% of the people I meet in Nepal told me that I am too skinny and I need to put on some weight. I am not underweight so I am happy with it and as you all know I try very hard with exercise and healthy food to maintain my figure but most people in Nepal have their own ideas about my weight.
In the beginning I used to get annoyed about it but now I am so used to it that I ignored all these comments with a smile :). Also if you look around Kathmandu, most gals are either similar weight like mine or even skinnier than me so I have no idea why they think I need to put on weight. I have a feeling being married is one of the factor.
Anyway I am learning to just ignore and concentrate in good eating habit no matter what people say. Also AS is on my side telling me I am OK and we just need to concentrate on being healthy. I am very happy to have such a wonderful hubby who understands me so well. But I think he has an ulterior motive as well. He doesn’t want me gaining weight and buying more clothes as I won’t fit into my current ones then 🙂
Most of the people especially from AS’s side has seen me only during the wedding. That time I was a bride so I was fully made up in the traditional attire. After the wedding, lot of his relatives added me on their Facebook. So that is the only way they have seen me in causal dresses.
Anyway, I have heard from lot of his relatives that I am photogenic. I am not sure I should take that as a compliment or not. I am just wondering because, normally I think photogenic means I look good on photo but at the back of mind I was wondering, does that mean I don’t look good in person.
Anyway I got that comment from many people so just sharing what’s on my mind here 🙂
Maghe Sankranti
According to Nepali calendar, it was Maghe Sankranti (1st of Magh) a few days ago. Please click here to read more about this festival.
As I am married now, I was invited to AS’s grandparents house to celebrate the festival with my in-laws. AS missed the occasion but I was glad I was there as I got to meet all his relatives again.
As I mentioned in my post, this day we eat laddoos (sesame seeds candy ball), chaku (molasses), ghee (clarified butter), sweet potatoes, yam, khichari (mixture of rice and lentils), ginger and salt and green leaf spinach. So a big feast was ready in the house when we got there.
First his grandma put mustard oil on our head and blessed us then we all enjoyed the food. It was fun catching up with my new family.
After a few days of Magh 1, AS’s Mama (Mum’s brother) also invited us for Maghe Sankranti. In Newari culture normally, daughter’s family invites SIL, daughter and their kids after the festival as nakhatya (festival invitation in newari) to celebrate the festival.
I got to meet more family members in this function as well. As you must have guessed,there was a feast prepared which included laddoos, chaku (molasses), ghee (clarified butter), sweet potatoes, yam, khichari, green leaf spinach and many more dishes. .
Ma fussy chu ( I am fussy)
Sometime words have two different meaning in different languages and I got caught into that recently.
The other day I was in a departmental store trying on few make-up items. The sales gal was doing her job well convincing me to buy something so in reply I said, “ Ma fussy chu ( I am fussy), so let me think about it.” But she understood completely different thing.
Fussy (pronounced Fashi ) means con in a gentle way in Nepali language. So she thought I was telling her that she tried to con me into buying something else. For a minute I didn’t understand her reply as it was out of context when she said, “Don’t worry I am telling you the truth” but after a while I understood that she thought I thought she was conning me into buying something different.
Now I think before I say something as it might have a different meaning here.
Pasni Party
While AS was here we were invited to a Pasni of one of our friends’ kid along with my parents. They live in Sydney near us but they came here to host the function like my brother. It was nice to go to this function and enjoy Nepali way of socialising. I met a few friends and relatives in this function because in Nepal, somehow everyone seems to be related. 🙂
Wedding party experience
I am writing this as my own experience and have no intention to disrespect any caste.
As I have told you in my post here, Nepal is a country of four castes and thirty six sub castes which means all of these castes have their own tradition and rituals.
I am from Newar caste and in our culture wedding parties goes till late at night. It is common to see Newari party starting around 6 pm and finish at 12 midnight but other castes like chhetri or bhaunu may have wedding parties that start in the afternoon and finish a bit early like 6-7pm.
One of my friends (a chherti by caste) had invited me for his sister’s wedding. He asked me if I needed a physical invitation card but I said it’s OK as I didn’t want to bother him. So I went to the party hall where he had told me in that day with one of my cousins.
When we reach the hall, the hall was almost empty so I thought either I mix up the day or the venue. But as I entered, I saw my friend. It was 7 pm at most but there were only a few people left there. Even the bride and groom had left as they had to travel few hours to reach their home.
He informed us that the party was almost over. I was a bit embarrassed because I didn’t know what to say. I had tried to contact him earlier to find out the details but he was unavailable as he was flying in from the US the same day. Even my mum had reminded me to check the time but I just assumed that it would be same as ours but I was so mistaken.
I was happy to meet my friends after a while but it was a bit embarrassing situation and for the first time in my life I reached a party when it was almost over.
Latest update
I am having a great time with my parents. I am spending lots of time with them talking and having a great time. We have been to many temples around Kathmandu which I will post details of later. I am really glad that I extended my 2 weeks holiday to spend with them as they are very happy to have me here and I am very happy to be here.
I still miss AS a lot but I will be seeing him soon. We talk on the phone or Skype everyday so I am happy to be in Kathmandu in my birth home.
Take care everyone till my next post.
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Oh, no, no, no ! You’re not skinny ! Not at all ! Don’t put on weight ! ha ha
Don’t worry gal, it won’t happen any time soon 🙂
Though i’ve not seen you in person, i can still say that you are one of those few nepali people who love to maintain weight and BMI. and yes, you look amazingly svelte in all your photos, specially in blue dress in french restaurant. wink wink :-)) so don’t worry till you have babies dear.
Thanks dear. I am trying my best 🙂
lol…they just feel bad about their own weight or they are hinting it is time for you to get a family started…lol
hahahaha, I think you are right. Thinking about it now, most of them were bigger people 🙂 About starting family, it will be a while 🙂
Some things people just love to say… you’ve gained weight, you’ve lost weight, when are you going to have children? The latter made me crazy. Our eldest wasn’t born until almost five years after we married. Then it became ‘when are you going to have another, which went on until our second daughter was born almost eight years later. It’s one question I never ask anyone.
I think most people don’t think before they speak. I am learned how to ignore them now 🙂
Before I met you I thought you are more weight, so when I saw you in reality first time I was suprised………you are slim. But you are a pretty woman :). I can see in Nepal more peoples whitch sie bigger 🙂 than for some years before. I think its the food, many peoples haven’t the time to cook every day so they go in a fast food shop. and the bakery ;). I wish you a great time with you parents……….Now I m sitting at BOUDHA for writing here you know 😉
I know what you mean gal 🙂