When we moved home, I have moved Chhori’s childcare as well.
One of the things she has learned in this new center is second winner. I am still not sure I agree or not but it seems to help Chhori understand second is ok sometimes.
Me: “Hurry up and finish brushing the teeth otherwise papa will be first and you will be last.”
Chhori: “NO mama, I will be first winner and Papa will be second winner. It is ok to be second winner sometimes.”
AS seems to think that it is good to learn things like this so they accept not being first but I think I want her to understand the different between first and last, not everyone can and need to be a winner.
Do share your thought about it.
Take care ,
M from nepaliaustralian
XOXO
nepaliaustralian 
I’m not a big fan of the second winner concept. I understand why childcare centres and kinders might teach this but you’re either a winner, or you’re not. I prefer to teach my kids, OK you didn’t win this time, maybe you’ll win next time. Otherwise, the actual winner (and I have two kids, so there’s always going to be one winner and one loser) never gets to feel special about winning.