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Mother’s Day 2017

It was Nepali Mother’s day on 26 April. As I have explained here before, it is on a different day than the one here in Australia.

So that morning I called my mum and AS called his mum to wish them Happy Mother’s day and to get their blessings. We miss them more this year as both of them were here last year and it had made our day extra special.

Now I am a mum as well and I feel really proud to be a mum to this gorgeous angel.

I strongly believe that we need to teach our children about our culture and tradition. We can’t just expect them to learn about it. We need to do our best to show them, create interest and get them involved.

Chhori is at an age where she is interested and curious to know about everything so we let her do the whole process on her own, including tika and sagun. She was really well behaved and followed the instruction.

We concluded the ceremony by cutting a cake.

Then on 14 May, it was Mother’s Day in Australia so Chhori’s childcare invited us for Mother’s day high tea on the Friday before that. The center did really well decorating the place and organizing amazing food and nibbles. They had some special signs for the kids to hold making it special for the mums.

The kids also painted and decorated cards for their mums. Chhori managed to decorate a big heart with colors and glitters. She also did a flower which I really loved.

On 14 May, AS helped Chhori to make a breakfast and I was spoiled with yummy food. She said “Happy Mother’s Day’ and “I love you Mama”.

I feel so blessed to have this cutie pie in our life. I know there are times when it is hard to be a mum but her smiling face and a big hug outweighs all the trouble we have to go through.

I love you so much Chhori. You are the heart of our family.

Hope all you beautiful and wonderful Mom’s out there had a great Mother’s Day too.

M from nepaliaustralian

XOXO

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Happy Aama ko Mukh herne (Nepali Mother’s day)

It was Nepali Mother’s day on Friday 6th May 2016 and Australian Mother’s day yesterday. This year’s mother’s day is extra special for us as we have my mum, and my MIL (she arrived in Sydney yesterday) here.

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I was lucky enough to have my mum here last Mother’s day as well but it is AS’s first Mother’s day after a long time so I made sure they had a good one.

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On Friday we celebrated in the traditional style with sagun, fruits, sweets and cakes. It was nice to observe AS’s celebration as both of them were very happy.

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I also had my Mother’s day for my mum with sagun, fruits, sweets and cake.

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It is nice to have her here and wish we will be together for Mother’s day every year.

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I am a mum now too, so it was nice to be on the other end of the ceremony. Last year Chhori was too small but this year, she is big enough to enjoy the fun. She got me a cute card (AS did :)) and also sagun, fruits, sweets and a cake too.

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My MIL helped her with the tick and sagun for me. She was clam and followed the instructions well.

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It feels so good to be the mother of such a cute munchkin and I am so proud of her.

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And to all the proud moms out there, Happy Mother’s day. Hope you had a good one.

Take care,

M from nepaliaustralian

XOXO

My extra special Aama ko Mukh herne (Nepali Mother’s day)

As I have mentioned in many of my posts before, Nepal has a different calendar than the Gregorian calendar. So in Nepal people also celebrate Mother’s day on a different day than the western calendar. In Australia, Mother’s Day is the second Sunday of May every year but in Nepali calendar, it depends on the moon. It falls on the last day of the dark fortnight of April or early May. This year, it happened to be on 18 April 2015. It is commonly known as Aama ko Mukh herne in Nepal which translates to “Looking at one’s mother’s face”.

This year Aama ko Mukh herne was extra special because my mum is here with me. The last time we were together for Aama ko Mukh herne was more than a decade ago so I was really excited.

To make the day special for her I prepared Sagun, baked cupcakes and a cake. I also bought a dress, a nice watch, fruits, sweets and snacks.

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It was amazing to do the Aama ko Mukh herne ritual in person as compared to on Skype Aama ko Mukh herne.

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Mummy was really happy and I am glad I was able to make her feel special.

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Also this is my first Aama ko Mukh herne as a mum and just looking at Chhori smiling in the morning made my day extra special.

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So if you haven’t called your mum to wish her, do give her a call and make her smile. And to all the proud moms out there, Happy Aama ko Mukh herne.

Till  next post take care everyone,

from nepaliaustralian

XOXO

My mum, my Super women (Mother’s Day 2014)

Today is Aama ko Mukh herne din ( Mother’s day) in Nepal. Please click here  and here to read more about it. I want to dedicate this post to all the moms of this world.

This article was published in +977 (a Nepalese Lifestyle Magazine in Australia) in April 2014 issue.

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When I was young, I didn’t realised that my mum is a super women. But I know now that my mum is my hero and my treasure, she is like a prize I won the day that I was born.

My mum had a normal upbringing but she started working at a very young age. She worked as a teacher and continued working for most of her life.

When she got married to my dad, as in most of the household in Nepal, being a daughter in law, she had to cook, clean and look after the family and at the same time went to her 9-5 job six days a week.

After doing her daily chores, making sure we had breakfast, our lunch packed and everyone else is fed, she would to the school to teach. She usually arrived home late in the afternoon or before dawn and would prepare our food and take care of our needs.

I can’t remember her complaining about anything but remember her willingness and perseverance to help our family and trying to give me and my brother a better life. I really didn’t understand her sacrifices and to make it worst I used to complain about the food we ate, clothes we wore, toys I owned and other things.

It all seemed normal to me as a kid because most of the women around me were doing the same thing while most of the men were working in a job or business and were served hot meal 3 times a day without needing to lift a finger in the kitchen.

As I became more aware of the society in Nepal, I became aware of gender biases as well. I always asked questions if someone treated me different from my brother and I used to hate the answer when they say, “It is because you are a girl

“Girls should not be saying this.”

“Girls should not be doing this.”

“Girls should be learning how to cook.”

The amazing thing is, most of the times, these words were from the mouth of women like grand ma or aunties than men. As a child, it never understood why I have to be different from my brother. I am the same in every way I can think of to my brother so why I can’t do certain things or why I have to do certain things.

Watching Hollywood movies, I was happy to know that at least in some part of the world, women are treated better and equal and this made me dream of running away from Nepal and finding a future in a country where men and women are equal and gender bias didn’t exist.

When my destiny took me to Australia for further study, in my mind I knew that I was going to a developed country. I was sure my future was going to be much better than in Nepal. I had big dreams and was happy that I was taking the first step towards my dream.

Out of many things, I left behind in Nepal; I thought one of them would be gender bias. Living in Sydney for a while made me realise I was wrong. Like my mum, most of the women here were doing their duty at home as well as at work. Only few lucky ones had husbands who would help a lot in the kitchen and with kids but most women were doing 80% of the house chores while their partners were resting, as they were tired from a hard day’s at work.

Even though western society looks like they have no gender biases in movies I soon realised that the wives and mothers in Australia were going through the same story that my mum was going through in Kathmandu. Only a few lucky enough were telling me a different story but most of them had to look after both house and work. Therefore, my dream of living in a gender equal society was scattering into a million pieces.

I realised only when I started working and studying at the same time, how hard life can be. The hardships I went through as a student in Sydney made me think how great my mum is and how she is a super woman, able to do all that for us.

My mum deserves to be cherished because she taught us the values in life that inspired us to live wisely. She showed us how to be strong in times of weaknesses. She took care of us, fed us and did everything for us without complaining whether she was tired or sick. I feel bad that I used to complain about her food and the things she did or did not do.

Now I am a wife I understand her situation much better. I feel blessed to have an understanding husband but still feel a need to take care of many things in our house. Call it a women’s instinct but there are many things I feel I need to do to make sure our house runs smoothly and it is not an easy job. Right now, we are only two adults in the house and I can’t imagine how life going to be when we will have a couple of kids running around.

After a hard day at work, some days I feel exhausted and tired and remember maybe that’s how my mother felt as well when she was raising us. There are days I don’t want to go to the kitchen and then I remember my mum and how she handled two hungry screaming kids when she got back from work. It wasn’t easy for her and I can feel in my heart what she must have felt then. I know now that I should have appreciated all her efforts and all the sacrifices she made. She deserves to be loved and treated special. She is a superwoman.

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One day when I am going to be a mum and I hope to come into my own as a strong woman like my mum. I salute women like my mother who have paved the way for me as not only a woman and wife but someday as a mother and super woman to love and give with a big smile.

Please pick up a phone and call your mum and tell her how much you love her because you may not be this lucky one day.

Take care everyone,

M from nepaliaustralian

XOXO

Do you think buying greeting cards is a waste of money and paper?

Every Christmas, millions of people all around the world post greeting card to their loved ones spending millions of dollars. I always feel that people spend so much looking for really good greeting cards, spending lots of time and energy…

Like every one of you, I do buy greeting cards for occasions like Birthdays, Christmas, Valentine’s Day, Mother’s Day, Father’s Day, Thank You Notes, Sympathy Cards, Get Well Cards, Thinking of You cards and so on. A few weeks ago it was my brother’s birthday so I went and bought a card for him which cost me $4.95. Today I again went and bought a card for my SIL and spent $6.00. I spend more for SIL as there were less cards to choose from that said SIL in it.

I was just wondering while I was buying these cards, is it really worth it to spend money on these cards which will be read once and thrown away in most cases. If you walk to the greeting card section of a supermarket or bookshop, there are more types of greeting cards for sale than there are days in a month.

Growing up, I used to collect all the cards I got for my birthdays and other occasions and I still have them in a box at my mum’s place but these days, I don’t feel too sentimental about these cards unless it is from my husband or my parents. I have never read any card more than once. If I really like the card, I take a photo of it and that is about it.

Looking around me, I see that most of the people also do the same. Especially for young children as they can’t even read yet everyone always buys them birthday cards. Normally they are interested in gifts rather than the cards so are we simply wasting our money on these cards?

These days I started to feel that buying greeting cards are a waste of hard earned money, for ultimately it will either be torn up in the long run, or go into some bag in a corner of your house.

I love the idea of making my own cards. A personalized note or letter with a meaningful message really goes further than a store-bought card. The sentiments in handwritten cards are far more intimate than generic Hallmark Greetings sentiments and the messages are far more specifically intended for the recipient.

But you really can’t make a personalised card to everyone so I think in this day and age e-cards are a good alternative for the people who use email. It is free and you can make it personal as well. One can choose a nice card and send it via the net and no postman, no courier, no cost. I love the animated silly ones which brings a smile. It also reduces paper waste.

I really want to head to this direction but sometimes I feel compelled to buy the card for someone because they have bought me one on my birthday or anniversary. The cost of greeting cards has increased steadily over the years and the money could be better spent in buying other stuff for the person. I know it’s the thought that counts but giving them gifts without a card makes me a bit uncomfortable. I really don’t want to upset anyone.

So I have decided to buy a card when I have to and my option would be then to buy the cards made and promoted by the organisations like the UNICEF or WORLD VISION.

Personally I used to look forward to one when I was younger but not so much anymore. I prefer something more practical these days. I think e-card/emails or even mms/sms or Facebook post would do the trick to convey the message.

What are you thoughts on greeting cards, do you still feel compelled to purchase pre-printed greeting cards?

Till next post, take care.

M from nepaliaustralia

 XOXO

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Epic it is!!!

As my Facebook is filled with pictures of babies and functions related to them right now, while Skyping with my MIL yesterday, we ended up talking about babies as well. She was telling us that I and my husband are in the golden time of our life as we don’t have a baby yet so we can plan what we want. We are in the stage of our life where we don’t have family responsibilities so we should enjoy as much as we can now. Once a baby comes into the picture then we will need to plan our life around the baby. She was very supportive of our decision to go on holiday and enjoy our life. She is really understanding and practical.

Anyway during the conversation she asked if we have heard a sorry about an author of an epic. We hadn’t so she told us the story and I am sharing it with all of you.

The story begins like this.

There was a girl who was bought up by her parents in a way that she never felt she was a girl. She used do everything she loved and hung out mostly with male friends. There was no stopping her in life as she was involved in many sports and was very out going. She dressed like a boy and loved doing all the crazy things in life, she was enjoying life in full speed. As she grew up, she did well in school and college as well. She had a big social circle and she made many friends. She was active in charities as well as her social scene.

One day she fell in love with a man. After going out for some years, they decided to get married. As she was not used to cooking and cleaning, they decided to hire a maid so she could continue her life as before. Now she had her husband on her side to support her but she was still living her life as she wanted. She felt that her life was perfect and she was the happiest person in this world.

(While she was telling me this, for a moment I thought she was telling me a part of my life story in some way.)

Then one day she got pregnant.  She was well and fine in the beginning but as her tummy grew bigger, she couldn’t go out as often so she was socialising less and less. One day one of her friends called her and asked “What’s going on with your life, where are you nowadays, I don’t see you at any charity functions or any parties? You seem to have dropped off the end of the world!”. She replied, ”I am busy writing an Epic so I haven’t been able to go anywhere”. Then her friend asked her what is that about. So she replied, “I am making a baby into a man and that is the biggest epic in the world.’

I too believe this. I salute every mum in this world who goes through so much to be able to have a baby and makes sure every thing is provided for them so that they grow to be capable individuals. Definitely, motherhood is one of the most fantastic journeys whose experience is beyond comparison but it is also one of the toughest ones. Mothers do sacrifice a lot to make sure their kids are happy, healthy and thriving in life.

My biggest thanks to my mum who made so many sacrifices in her life to make sure I got the good things in life. Missing her so much. Also a big thanks to my MIL for being so great and understanding,

Hope all the mums out there had the best Mother’s day yesterday. Please do share your Mother’s day story.

My Special Mother’s Day

As I mentioned on my previous post, this year was my first Mother’s Day after my wedding. In my culture, you have to make the event special as it will be the first time a married daughter brings food and gifts for her mother from her home (husband’s home). If I was in Nepal, I would need to do all the preparation and make sure my mum had a great day but as I am so far away, my mother in law made sure that the ritual was done properly.

I am so happy that my in laws, mostly my MIL, made such a great effort to make sure my mum’s day was special. She did all the shopping and all the preparations and my FIL helped her a lot. Then my two BILs went and presented the foods and gifts to my mother. They also took these photos for us to see. I am so grateful and thankful for my new family for taking care of this and making sure things went great.

Have a look at the photos below and you can see traditional Newari Mother’s Day celebration. There are Sagun (egg, bara, whisky, fish, yoghurt and meat), also lots of fruits and rotis. It lookes so yummy. My mum also got a sari, a cake and masala. I really wish I could have been there to help prepare for it and to see the smile on my mum’s face.