I am sure I am not the only one but everyone who has a blog gets negative or rude comments from some random people form time to time. Today I want to open a platform for everyone who have a blog and reads my blog to share their story.
I have read a few posts from time to time from other bloggers about people who are an individual or group of people constantly writing negative or rude comments on their blog to the point that it makes them upset and angry. I even read that they had a break down after reading the hurtful messages.
I have to admit I do have had a handful of these comments as well but I never published it, I just ignore them by deleting it. I don’t want to encourage them further by responding to their stupid and rude ideas.
The first time I got such comment, I was really hurt. It’s so hard not to have an emotional reaction when someone says something negative/rude about a post you’ve spent ages writing. I let that comment get me because it was directed to me in such a rude way. I really wanted to respond with an equally angry (but not rude) comment but after the initial anger, I realised that these people are not worth my time.
One of the reasons I decided not to publish those comments is because I don’t want them to have the satisfaction of those rude comments being read by many people who read my blog. Also they were made not only towards me alone but were towards Nepali people, women in general or to one of the comments on my post.
I believe these people are just loud mouthed and very negative, full of hot air. For whatever reason, they decided that they do not like something I’ve done, what I said or just take offense at me. They make it a personal mission to attack me in public throwing accusations at me via my blog.
If they have so much time to spread hatred, that is their choice in their life. I decided I should not help them in their mission so I am not wasting any of my time on them. If I have time to write, I better write another post so I can share more with my readers. I know I am better than these rude people so I decided to use my time and words in a positive way than becoming tangled in a stupid war of words.
I have come across blogs where I didn’t agree with the ideas expressed by the author or didn’t like the post. But I believe that if I can’t say something nice, I won’t say anything at all. From the next time, I made sure that I didn’t visit their blog and that is the end of it.
How often have you got rude comments on your blog? How do you deal with them?
Thanks Nisha… I am getting good at ignoring the bad one and I am very happy to have so many good people around in this Blogosphere 🙂 .
Oh my God, that’s terrible. So sorry you had to go through that.
I’ve been blogging for awhile now but I have never received any nasty comments of that nature. Well if you don’t count the silly spammers who sometimes claim how boring my posts are and pointing out the numerous spelling mistakes(when there are none!), LOL.
I agree with Nelle, its so easy to hurl hurtful slander at someone when you’re hiding behind an anonymous username.
Stay strong, and don’t let the hate get to you. Let it empower you instead 🙂
Sorry you had to deal with that.
I don’t think I am rude or negative with my comments, but I don’t always have nice things to say on my comments. I don’t always like to comment, “nice post, I like it” but rather give my side of the opinion. I wonder how bloggers feel about this.
I have never found your comments to be negative or rude nepalidawg. I have always find them very interesting as you see the other side of the story and share your opinion. I am always happy to read and respond to them. Some of your opinion , I may not agree to but it is not always necessary to agree with each other 🙂
keep on posting your comments and I am sure all the bloggers will appreciated the positive criticism .
Sorry, that was really long 🙂
Don’t worry, I love to read long comments 🙂
I’ve only had one negative comment and it wasn’t exactly rude, but it did bother me. The comment in question was made about a post I had written about being eves teased in India. This is a common occurrence for women tourists, especially those who don’t adhere to the cultural norm of dressing modestly. For those who may not be familiar with this term, eves teasing is public sexual harassment or molestation of women by men.
I did a lot of research on what type of clothing to bring with me before leaving for India and while there I always wore modest clothing… nothing tight, nothing revealing. But the commenter saw a picture of someone else dressed in fitted pants on my blog & thought it was me so he suggested that it was my fault!
It really bothered me because I strongly believe that no matter what culture you are from, sexual harassment, in any form, is not okay. And women, no matter what they wear, do not deserve such attention and never is it their fault. I understood that it was a common occurrence in India… so I prepared myself accordingly. It still happened. It wasn’t serious or threatening and I dealt with it at the time in an appropriate manner.
I don’t think the commenter in question meant for his comment to be vicious, but it felt a little bit like an attack and his know it all attitude suggested that I was uniformed and culturally insensitive, which was not at all the case!
I wasn’t able to resist replying to his comment, but I tried to do so in a manner that was calm, matter of fact, and set the record straight. He didn’t reply back!
No matter what he was thinking it is definitely not right of him to say it was your fault to be eve teased but I know what you mean. When I was in Nepal I used to fight with idiots on the road about it. And it is normal to react when someone attack you personally. Everyone can have their opinion but it is not normal to be rude just because you don’t agree with others opinion.
Either I am totally blessed or extremely ignored – never have I received a negative comment.
And that doesn’t mean that you can start now =]
I will say you are blessed t 🙂 but don’t count on that blessing for long as I am heading to your blog right now 😉
There’s power in words, and there is power in anonymity. There are advantages and disadvantages to both. Some choose the negative track, they somehow think denigrating another somehow empowers them. I’ve followed one particular blog where a disagreeable sister now posts where I post, in effect stalking me for agreeing with her sister. I’m at the point now where I won’t visit the blog any longer.
We all have our niches. You do a wonderful job of opening up Nepal, Australia, and taking us on journeys around the world. How anyone can find negatives in this is beyond me, but… people are people.
I expect some will post negatives because of my conviction, but to this point, haven’t run into it.
In the end, such comments as you deal with says more about them than you.
Thanks nelle for your support.
I think some people just choose to see all negative in my blog and post rude comments but I don’t really care. I have better things to do in life than entertaining their rude comments 🙂
I think the kind of trolls who go round the Internet leaving rude comments on other people’s blogs are the types who used, back in the day, to go out and vandalise a bus stop or pee on public payphones. Nowadays the Internet gives them a different channel to let out the abnormal amount of anger and hostility they have inside them.
I think they’re probably sad people, who want to argue with strangers they’ll never meet, because they don’t have any friends to laugh and have fun with.
That is so true.These people definitely have nothing better to do.
I get very few negative comments but if I do I try to make a judgement: is the comment a real expression of emotion or just an insult for insult’s sake. If the former, I’m quite content to argue my point. I try not to take things personally: the commentor does not know me. If the latter, I just delete. If they come back, I delete again. I know they will get bored before I do.
I also believe deleting them are best idea as they will get sick of posting negative comments over time.
Well said. 🙂
Thank you .
Like your idea of not giving attention to them. Better spend time doing something positive, like you said, getting ready a new post. When someone is misunderstood on something, I feel at times my responsibility, to help them. And there are times when I remember the saying, you cannot wake up someone who is just pretending to be asleep. SMiles from Kathmandu..
So true, I will remember that for future 🙂
being positive is the key, so, i never moderate
Awhile back I wrote a post on the exact same subject. I got the most ridiculous comment imaginable about my personality and looks by a complete stranger. I went back and linked her comment on my blog and threw it out to my readers. I felt better after that and realized I will never again deal with these ugly people. Yes if you are human you will be hurt. I was and will be when I get more. But I realize that rude comments are part of the risk involved in blogging and these people are just plain old rude and unhappy. So I will delete them and try to remember how sad they must be to be leaving rude comments on a strangers blog! Your blog is lovely so remember all the great comments you get. The ugly ones will disappear! 🙂
Thanks Nicole. I remember reading that post.
I am glad that I meet so many nice people through my blog compare to few haters. Seriously some people have so much hate in them.I had always ignored the ugly ones but sometimes it hurts.
Thank you so much for your support :). I am sure it makes me stronger and the haters will disappear soon.
🙂 I will remember too the next time I get an awful comment! Keep smiling! 🙂
I have had a couple but my response was always kinds words.
You are too nice Noel…
I have only been blogging for about two or three months so I haven’t experienced this yet, but I am so sorry you have. I cannot imagine why anyone would want to make a rude or negative comment on someone else’s blog. The whole purpose of blogging (I think..?) is to express yourself, lift up others, and be lifted up. Just stay positive and keep doing what you do. Don’t let anyone bring you down. And be proud that you would not do the same to another blogger. 🙂
I can’t believe that some people have so much time in their hand that they will waste it by making people miserable. Thanks Jackie 🙂