My Life Lesson No 6: Do not judge

Judging others is the easiest thing to do but remember none of us are perfect. No one has the right to judge others because you do not know the circumstances of each individual person. In most cases, if you know the real story behind what you are judging the person on, you will change your mind.

I am sure we all know what it is like to feel judged by someone else. No matter what others are judging me for I find it weird because normally these people have worse things going on in their life. Its like a saying in Nepali “You see a small ant walking on someone’s head but you don’t see the elephant on your own.”

Judging people for their choice of clothing, the food they eat, how they parent, who their friends are – the list goes on and on and these judgements do not make us a better person.

I have always been a sensitive person and because of that, it is so hard when people judge me. I feel bad and it is hard to feel criticized or misunderstood and it takes me days to get over it. I don’t normally confront the person so they have no idea that it has affected me so much but for the next 48 hours or so, that is all I can think of.

I am certainly not saying I am perfect and have never been guilty of judging others.  I am not saying that I don’t judge people but my hubby who constantly reminds me not to, is a great help. When I say something about someone, he always tells me to think from his or her point of view. Even though I get annoyed when he says that, it forces me to think from their side. Most of the time it makes all the difference and I will stop judging totally. These days I try my best not to jump to conclusions about others.

I feel judging others is projecting our own insecurities, negativity, and fears onto others life, so it is better to deal with our own problems and keep our judgements to ourselves. When I think about the time we unnecessary spend on judging others it seems to me that it is better to utilize that time and effort to make our self better.

I know many people do judge people if they see some one big/overweight but I know that people have medical issues that prevent them from exercising, or have been going through problems in their life that makes weight loss feel lower priority in their life. I know a friend who is in this boat.

I get negative comments in my blog from time to time but I just ignore then as I know they are not angry with me but with their own life and situation and they just want to vent it somewhere.

Therefore, my aim in life is to make my life better, be happy and live every minute instead of wasting my time and energy in something unnecessary.

Take care,

M from nepaliaustralian

XOXO