And then she (Chhori) cried…

I wrote recently how Chhori has started childcare and how she was been great. It is sad to see that, she no longer runs to the toys or forgets about us as soon as we go inside the childcare.

I think slowly she has started to realise that, she needs to go to the childcare regularly and her reaction started changing.


Normally AS goes to drop her off so I can start work early and I pick her up a bit early.

In the last few weeks, Chhori’s reaction to childcare has slowly changed from no tears to lots of tears.

The first few days, she refused to let go of AS when they got inside the childcare. Then she started to cry once inside the childcare and now she refuses to eat her breakfast and starts crying as soon as she is in front of childcare.

I was really happy when we had no tears initially but that period is over now. It really breaks my heart that she has to go through this.


I know it is a natural stage of development and every parent has to go through this journey but this makes me feel so guilty and question our decision to do it in the first place. She is not even 2 years old and doesn’t communicate that well which makes it even harder.

I am glad I am not the one who has to drop her off regularly because I would have cried with her every time there is a drop off. Just checking with AS every day and knowing that she cried makes feel me so sad.

I feel so helpless; don’t know what to do to make it easier for Chhori. All the parents out there who have been through this please give me some advice/suggestions.

Take care everyone.

from nepaliaustralian


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15 responses to “And then she (Chhori) cried…

  1. I hope it has got better since you wrote this. Most times, it always gets better over time…

  2. I have been through these stages and I can tell u that it will get better. It’s hard but you need to be persistent and tough.make it quick. She will realize soon enough. Hugs.

  3. She was so social but now she realizes it is going to be all day. The children I babysat quit as soon as parents left my driveway. Hoping they will say she is doing better soon. Love from a Nana (Robin)

  4. Well I’m not qualified to give advice, Australian, but I can understand how you are feeling. Let’s hope she will get used to the routine and feel better about it.

  5. I went through an exact same phase when my now 12 year old was an infant :(. Initially she was gung ho about going, later after a week, she would cry non-stop. I once went in the afternoon and saw that her usual provider was out working a second job at walmart and had asked her teenage son and her aging mom to take care of my daughter. My girl was 4 months old baby, I don’t know what had upset her, i somehow also did not feel comfortable any more leaving her there. I then started working from home 3 days a week and husband did 2 days. We did this till she was 10 months old and then got our in-laws to stay with us for 5 months. When they left, she went back to a different day care, the first 2 weeks, she came down with 2 kinds of infections, she had stomach bug, lost a lot of weight, I was this close to quitting. Then, another day care which was a lot better in cleanliness and hygiene had an opening. I quickly enrolled my kid there, I had to pay a bomb. She thrived there thank god. We moms have to go through this heart ache, no escape :(. Hang in there, I am sure chori will get better. Just wanted to share my story with you girl. (((Hugs)))

    • I would have loved to stay home few days but that is not an option for us currently. I think the childcare she goes to is a good as my nephew has been there for few years and he loves it. I guess Chhori has to just get use to the place. I hope it does happen in time. Thank you do much for your comment.

  6. Oops! I would have been a mess seeing the tears too. From what I hear, it almost always gets better though. She will get used to it. So will you. 🙂

  7. I totally understand how you feel. I had to let my baby in nursery two days a week so I can go work. She is younger than your little one but I think she realises as well what nursery means. She started suffering from separation anxiety and she is sad most of the times.

  8. It gets better and my son stopped crying after two weeks I think. So just hang in there. It’s a very tough phase 😦

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