Do you remember the feeling when your girlfriend / boyfriend said that magic three words “I LOVE YOU”, for the first time? I am sure you do and I do as well. My heart had fluttered so much that I thought it will come out from my body. I couldn’t breathe properly for a few minutes and I was in cloud nine.
Then life goes on and those moments turn into days and the days turn into months. Those first few months, also known as the honeymoon period, are the best in every relationship.
Fast forward a few years, you got married to the man/woman of your dreams. Life is going fine but even the same three magic words don’t have the same effect. We are so busy in our day to day life that we don’t use those words often. There is nothing wrong with your relationship, it is just that other things in life like house, work or a baby has taken over your life and it has just come to the point you taken your partner for granted. I know you can’t imagine your life without your better half but in this busy life, it is really hard to appreciate the love he/she has for you and show the love you have for him/her.
Last week while I was in one of the Westfield shopping centres, I and my husband were standing on a travelator and I just wanted to hug him and I did. Then I heard someone say “I wish I had someone who did that for me”. When I turned around, there was a 60+ man behind us. I didn’t know how to respond to that so I just smiled. When we left the travelator, I wished him good day and we went our separate ways.
Even though I saw that man for just a few seconds and the only thing I managed to do was smile at him, I couldn’t forget his words. I don’t know his story but from his words I am guessing his loved one is no longer with him. He forced me to think and ask myself “When was the last time that I told someone how special they are to me just because they are a part of my life?” I didn’t want to be wishing that my loved one was with me when it was too late so I went and hugged my husband again and told him how much he means to me. I also called my parents and told them that I missed them.
It is not that I am perfect. My paternal grandma passed away more than 3 years ago and I think of her often and wish she was still among us so that I can call her. When she was with us, I didn’t get to talk to her as often as I would have wished and I know I can’t bring back the time that is past but I can definitely make sure I don’t make the same mistake again.
It would be wonderful to hear what your love ones think of you and know that you are important in their lives isn’t it? So go and hug your loved one, tell them they have a special place in your life. Even if you family is not near you do call them often and tell them that you miss them.
Stop fighting over insignificant things and cherish the love you have around you today as tomorrow may be too late. We don’t have control over life and death but we definitely have control over how we spend our today. Keep sharing the love.
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