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Nwaran for Chhori

I know I am posting this late because Chhori is already a month now.

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Nwaran was performed when she was 11 days old.

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Nwaran ceremony is also known as Machabu Byakegu in Newari. This ceremony is performed to give a birth name to a child according to his/her lunar horoscope; this is usually not the name by which he/she will be known. This ceremony is normally small and celebrated amongst close family.

Typically, a priest is invited to perform the ceremony at home, and divines the child’s lunar horoscope from his birth details, as the mother is still recovering at home with the child. Until the mother and child are ‘purified’ (from past birth etc. in the religious sense), they should not visit the temple.

For the occasion, I wore a red sari which was specially brought from Nepal by my mum for the occasion. It was a cotton sari which is what new mums are supposed to wear for the occasion.

As soon as Chhori was born, we booked a priest for the ceremony and he gave us a list of things that are required for the day and everything was ready when he arrived at my place at 8.30 am on the day of the ceremony.

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The main ceremony was conducted in the balcony of our apartment.  Before the priest arrived we had cleaned and mopped the place. So, when he arrived, he started making a Mandap on the balcony. Once it was ready he asked AS to come and join him for the Puja.

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He had all his books of mantras and it took more than an hour for the first phase of the Puja to finish. It involved lots of mantra reciting from the books and lots of different Pujas to God, with candles on the Mandap.

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Then he asked me and Chhori to join the Puja. He chanted more mantras from the book. Then he asked me to perform Puja to the sun. Then he put tika on Chhori’s forehead and gave him a piece of paper which had details required to make her Jaata (lunar horoscope chart).

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Then my SIL took Chhori for Surya Darshan, i.e. to let the sunray fall on her as a blessing. Then the priest put Tika on AS, me and rest of the family. He also put Janai (holy string) around our wrists.

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After the ceremony, the priest left and the family function started. My parents, with the help of my brother and SIL, had prepared lots of trays of gifts for us and Chhori. It included sari and other gifts for me, clothes for AS and lots of clothes, toys, and manchester for Chhori as well as trays of sweets and fruits.

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The special thing required was special sliver bowl and spoon which my mum has got from Nepal.

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My parents put tika for AS, me and Chhori and gave us blessing and gifts. It was really nice and special to have all my family here for the occasion.

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Till  next post take care everyone,

from nepaliaustralian

XOXO

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Chhaithi for Chhori

First of all thank you everyone for lovely message and sorry for not posting as frequently as before but as you can imagine I am too busy feeding, changing nappies and looking after Chhori that there is no time for anything else. If there is any spare time, I would love to sleep but sleeping for long periods of time seems like a distant dream right now.

As you all know there are lots of rituals in Hindu culture when one has a baby. Now with Chhori, we want to follow all the rituals as well even though we are not in Nepal. The first ritual we performed is called Chhaithi.

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Chhaithi ceremony is performed when the baby is six days old and takes place late in the evening.

For Chhaithi, the fufu (baby’s dad’s sister, or the baby’s paternal aunt) will need to bring some koseli (gifts for the baby) which includes fruits and sweet along with a new pair of clothes for the baby. She will also bring a notebook and a pen.

In our case, as AS doesn’t have any sister here, the ceremony was performed by my SIL.

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So to start the Chhaithi, my SIL sat with Chhori surrounded by 12 tea light candles (traditionally we use oil lamps) and one more candle was lighted for god.

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According to tradition, there is a belief that on the 6th day after the birth of the child,  Vidhaata (Goddess of destiny) would quietly enter the house around midnight to pen the destiny of the newborn. Traditionally the mother of the newborn lights a lamp and this lamp along with a pen and paper given by fufu are placed on a wooden plank for Vidhaata to write the future of the newborn.

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After my SIL finished performing the ritual, everyone else in the family performed the rituals by giving Chhori money and gifts. Then I gave my SIL gifts and she gave the baby back to me.

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After the ceremony when the Chhori went back to sleep, we placed the notebook and pen next to the bassinet along with one of the candles.

I prayed to the Goddess that she be given a bright future with a healthy life.

This concludes the first of many rituals my Chhori will have in her life.

Till  next post take care everyone,

from nepaliaustralian

XOXO

Nwaran for my nephew

Baby BJ was 11 days old last Friday so we had a ceremony held for him called Nwaran.

The ceremony is also known as Machabu Byakegu in Newari. It takes place on the  11th day from birth. This ceremony is performed to give a birth name to a child according to his/her lunar horoscope, this is usually not the name by which he/she will be known. This ceremony is normally small and celebrated amongst close family.

We are lucky to have a friend who is also a priest. He gave us a list of things that are required for the day and everything was ready when he arrived at my brother’s place at 8.30 am.

The main ceremony was conducted in the balcony of my brother’s apartment.  Before the priest arrived we had cleaned and mopped the place. So, when he arrived, he started making a Mandap on the balcony. Once it was ready he asked my brother to come and join him for the Puja.

He had all his books of mantras and it took more than an hour for the first phase of the Puja to finish. It involved lots of mantra reciting from the books and lots of different Pujas to God, with candles on the Mandap.

Then he asked my Sister in law and Baby BJ to join the Puja. He chanted more mantras from the book. Then he asked my SIL to perform Puja to the sun. Then he put tika on Baby BJ’s forehead and gave him a piece of paper which had details required to make his Jaata (lunar horoscope chart). It will be done by my parents in Nepal.

Then we took little BJ for Surya Darshan, i.e. to let the sunray fall on him as a blessing. He was also given a holy cloth with his birth name written on it.

Then he put Tika on my brother, SIL and then the rest of us. He also put Janai (holy string) around our wrists.

After that all of us put Tika on baby BJ as our blessings.  Little BJ got lots of gifts from all of us, mainly clothes and toys.

After the Puja was concluded we had our morning brunch.

Chhaithi for my nephew

AS I mentioned in my post Nwaran and Pasni previously, there a so many rituals in Hindu culture when one has  a baby. Now that I have a nephew, we need to follow the rituals and one of them is called Chhaithi (sixth day) as it is performed on the sixth day after a child’s birth. So yesterday I went to my brother’s place after work to celebrate the Chhaithi of my little nephew.

For Chhaithi, the fufu (baby’s dad’s sister, or the baby’s paternal aunt) will need to bring some koseli (gifts for the baby) which includes fruits and sweet along with a new pair of clothes for the baby. She will also bring a notebook and a pen/pencil.

So to start the Chhaithi, the fufu sits with the infant on the ground and they are be surrounded by 12 oil lamps (diyo, we used tea light candles instead) and one more diyo is also lighted for god.  A puja thali is prepared which is used to put tika on baby’s forehead. Then the baby will be changed into the new clothes.

After that everyone else (starting from the fufus) will put tika on the baby’s forehead and give some money or other gifts to the fufu. The last one will be the baby’s father who will give some gift to his sister and take the baby from her.

After the ceremony when the baby goes to sleep, the notebook and pen is kept on his bed side along with one of the candles. It is believed until that day , the baby’s fortune is not written so that night, god will come and write his fortune using that notebook and pen.

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It was my first experience to be a part of baby’s life from their early days. I really enjoyed it. This Friday we will be celebrating his Nwaran.

BTW, they have a name for the baby now and I will be referring him as Baby BJ from now on.

Meet the new man in my life!

I am pleased to share with all of you the great news that we have a new man in our family. My brother and sister in law had a baby boy yesterday and I am a fufu (aunt on the paternal side) to a gorgeous little boy. As he is the first child in our family, my parents have become grandparents for the first time.

Meet my nephew

It is so exciting to see this little baby who we eagerly waited nine months for to come out from his mommy’s tummy. For the first time in my life, I saw a baby when he is only a few hours old. He looked so cute with wrinkly hands and feet. I couldn’t get enough of him. Now he is here, I am sure my post will have lots about him. His name is still not finalised so for the time being he will be Little J.

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New Fufaju and Baby J

Both mum and bud are doing fine 🙂

Epic it is!!!

As my Facebook is filled with pictures of babies and functions related to them right now, while Skyping with my MIL yesterday, we ended up talking about babies as well. She was telling us that I and my husband are in the golden time of our life as we don’t have a baby yet so we can plan what we want. We are in the stage of our life where we don’t have family responsibilities so we should enjoy as much as we can now. Once a baby comes into the picture then we will need to plan our life around the baby. She was very supportive of our decision to go on holiday and enjoy our life. She is really understanding and practical.

Anyway during the conversation she asked if we have heard a sorry about an author of an epic. We hadn’t so she told us the story and I am sharing it with all of you.

The story begins like this.

There was a girl who was bought up by her parents in a way that she never felt she was a girl. She used do everything she loved and hung out mostly with male friends. There was no stopping her in life as she was involved in many sports and was very out going. She dressed like a boy and loved doing all the crazy things in life, she was enjoying life in full speed. As she grew up, she did well in school and college as well. She had a big social circle and she made many friends. She was active in charities as well as her social scene.

One day she fell in love with a man. After going out for some years, they decided to get married. As she was not used to cooking and cleaning, they decided to hire a maid so she could continue her life as before. Now she had her husband on her side to support her but she was still living her life as she wanted. She felt that her life was perfect and she was the happiest person in this world.

(While she was telling me this, for a moment I thought she was telling me a part of my life story in some way.)

Then one day she got pregnant.  She was well and fine in the beginning but as her tummy grew bigger, she couldn’t go out as often so she was socialising less and less. One day one of her friends called her and asked “What’s going on with your life, where are you nowadays, I don’t see you at any charity functions or any parties? You seem to have dropped off the end of the world!”. She replied, ”I am busy writing an Epic so I haven’t been able to go anywhere”. Then her friend asked her what is that about. So she replied, “I am making a baby into a man and that is the biggest epic in the world.’

I too believe this. I salute every mum in this world who goes through so much to be able to have a baby and makes sure every thing is provided for them so that they grow to be capable individuals. Definitely, motherhood is one of the most fantastic journeys whose experience is beyond comparison but it is also one of the toughest ones. Mothers do sacrifice a lot to make sure their kids are happy, healthy and thriving in life.

My biggest thanks to my mum who made so many sacrifices in her life to make sure I got the good things in life. Missing her so much. Also a big thanks to my MIL for being so great and understanding,

Hope all the mums out there had the best Mother’s day yesterday. Please do share your Mother’s day story.