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Things I HATE about being pregnant

Posted on January 20, 2015 | 16 comments

Things I HATE about being pregnant

I did my last post about Things I LOVE about being pregnant but today I am writing the opposite.

Now don’t get me wrong. My husband and I are thrilled that we are expecting. I have to admit I was extremely lucky not to have morning sickness as well but there are still things that I am feeling that I wish didn’t happen.

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I might get a back lash from people for not loving the pregnancy but in my honest opinion, there are many things I did not know about pregnancy until I became pregnant myself. Because, even though pregnancy and childbirth is a miracle, it’s not all roses and sunshine, is it?

Therefore, here is my list on things I hate about being pregnant.

Feeling helpless

This was not an issue for me until the last few weeks but I feel so helpless these days. As much as I love the love and affection of everyone around me and being spoilt, I do not like that there are so many normal day to day activates that I can’t do and need help with.

I am a very active person and it is the constant asking for help I don’t like at all. I feel so helpless that it annoys me.

Constant worry

From the moment I found out, I was pregnant, I worried about everything and anything. For the first 12 weeks, I was worried about miscarriage, and then I would worry when I could not feel the baby move.

Then I am worried when the baby moves too much or too little. Seriously, my mind is a constant battlefield thinking about the welfare of the baby. I even cause my hubby to worry at times. Thanks to doctor Google, most of the answers to my questions are easily available.

pregnancy (1)Sometime I eat something that I am not supposed to unknowingly and that makes me very worried, as I am scared for the welfare of the baby.

I know that this worry will not go away once the bub is out either as I will have other things to worry about.

The constant need to go to toilet

From the first few weeks, all I seem to do is run to the loo wherever I am. Even if I remember to pee before I go out, once we are at our destination, the first things I do is look for a toilet. Sometimes it is so frustrating as I spend so much time on this.

I know it these are all usual signs of pregnancy, a part of all the hormonal changes in the body but I don’t have to love everything do I?

Tiredness, foot cramps and Fatigue, back pain

Whatever tiredness I have experienced in my life before the pregnancy was really nothing compared to what I feel now.

Because my in-laws were here, I was constantly on the move and was doing more than 10,000 steps most of the days, which meant I was dead tired when we reached home.

Then there are the foot cramps that happen at the middle of the night and are so painful that I feel like I am going to die. Thank God that when I yell hubby wakes up and helps. I just hate the pain and everything that comes with it.

I love to be out and about utilising every moment of the day but looks like I will be in front of the sofa watching a movie for a while until the baby decided to come out.

As I am growing bigger every day, my back is not coping too well and my feet are swollen as well. I have stopped running a while ago and I can’t walk or swim for long periods anymore.

Body issue

There are times I feel so fat, gaining more than 10 kg already and being so big for the first time in my life, I worry what will happen, once the baby is out. I know it will be a hard journey of healthy eating and regular exercise to get back in shape.

As I mention I am extremely lucky with my weight which is mostly concentrated around my belly but still there are times that I hate the way I look.

I dream of running and jumping and getting back into the shape so I can feel good about myself again.

Acid reflux and gum bleeding

Few weeks ago, I had a very bad case of acid reflux. At the middle of the night, I woke up multiple times and had to throw up. It was one of the worst nights of this pregnancy because I was so worried something bad was going to happen to the baby.

I called the doctor multiple times just to make sure if I needed to go to hospital but she assured me that it was bad food that caused the vomiting. After that incident, I am more careful about what I eat but still the acid reflux is not 100% gone. According to what I read, it won’t go away until the baby is out.

Also my gums are bleeding when I brush or floss and when I told this to my doctor, she said that it is part of being pregnant :(.  Apparently the increased blood volume is responsible for all this.

Sleeplessness

This is another problem which I did not have for a while but it stared a few weeks ago. Today I woke up at 4:30 am and could not go back to sleep. After tossing and turning for a while, I decided to wake up and do a few stuffs before getting ready to go to work.

Because of that, I am really tired the whole day and it doesn’t look like things are not going to get any better soon.

As I normally sleep on my right so sleeping on my left side while acid creeps up my throat and my child keeps moving inside the tummy, sleeping 8 hours a day seems like a distant dream.

If I manage to stay on my left side, I wake up with a painfully sore hip and feet.

Wardrobe and Shoes issue

I think most of you know that I love my clothes and shoes.

When I found out that I was pregnant, I was super excited and started looking for maternity clothes. To my disappointment most maternity clothes are so ugly and super expensive. So I made a decision not to buy them as long as I could.my walkin wardrobe

So far, I haven’t bought any maternity clothes as I aim to fit into the dresses I already own. Moreover, it is working. Of course, I can’t fit into my super tight dresses but any dresses with elastic or flare, I am wearing them. I have to wait and see how I go for next few months to see if I have achieved my goal or not.

In addition, even though I loved the increased cup size, the bra I bought a few months ago is getting too small now and I do not like the idea that it will keep growing even more. Because of that, so many of my clothes do not fit me anymore.

I bought a new swimwear once my belly popped out but now I can’t fit into it either so I need to do more shopping.

Also for the last few months, I have been wearing only flat shoes so all my heels are crying feeling left alone. I hope this is temporary and I can still fit into those shoes when I go back to normal size. People have told me that sometimes, your feet never return to their former size. I am praying that is not true otherwise my 100’s of shoes will be useless in my wardrobe. Definitely, I am not throwing out all my pretty high heels but I will cry for sure if I can’t fit into them again.

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Gas

This one is so embarrassing but so true. One of the early signs of pregnancy I had was, I was passing more gas. I think it got better after a while but you are not the same. Then once your tummy starts to grow, you start passing more gas again. Guess no room in my tummy for anything else but the baby.

I am sure I can come up with a few more points if I keep thinking but this should do for now.

Even though I am loving my unborn child more than anything in the world, I am hating all the cons that comes with pregnancy. I am not sure why many women don’t talk about things they have about pregnancy. I heard that most of them forget all the pain once the bub is out. I hope that is true but in the mean time all this uncomfortableness and tiredness is going to stay with me for a while thus my right to whinge.

To my unborn child who may read this one day:

Mummy loves you very much despite all the complains, she can’t wait to see you and hold you and love you.

Do share your own experience about the things you hated while you were pregnant.

Also if you have any suggestion to overcome my problems, I welcome them with open arms.

Take care,

M from nepaliaustralian

XOXO

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Things I LOVE about being Pregnant

Posted on January 15, 2015 | 14 comments

I think like everything in the world being pregnant has its pros and cons. I know most pregnancy is a conscious decision but at the same time just because you decided to have a baby, does not make it compulsory to love everything about the journey.

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I have had my fair shares of ups and downs during the journey and today I am sharing what I enjoy about it.

Here is the list of good things I am feeling since I discovered I am pregnant.

We are having a baby

I really think having is a baby is a real miracle. It is amazing to realise that we are cable of making another human being. A tiny bub is growing inside me, which is all my and my husband’s alone. I cannot wait to see and hold the baby in my arms. I know that it will be one of the happiest days of my life.

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Being Spoiled

OMG this is why I know some women say that they love to get pregnant again and again. Everyone spoils you. It started with my hubby becoming more caring and loving.

I keep telling you guys that I have a great husband who has looked after me really well . But after we found out that I was pregnant, the great husband has become even greater. He constantly checks on me and asks “Are you OK?”, “Do you need something?” “Please rest and I will finish the job.” They are definitely music to my ears :). I feel so spoiled.

In addition, other people around me are checking on me regularly and asking me about my well-being. No matter who I visit, they make sure I am comfortable and I am offered my favourite foods. On top of that you get the special treatment from strangers as well. I remember giving my seats on public transport to pregnant women and I am getting that treatment these days. No matter how busy or packed the buses or trains are, I am being offered a seat. How sweet is that?

I don’t open my own doors most of the time as strangers hold doors and share smiles. I am just loving being spoiled

Feeling the baby move

Because my placenta was on the front of my tummy, I didn’t feel much baby movement till I was over 5 months and I just loved the feeling of those limbs touching across my belly. For the last few weeks, I am feeling the movement even more, as if the baby is wrestling with itself and it makes me smile. Even though I may not be able to sleep due to that, I still love it as it reminds me that I am not alone.

pregnancy (1)Guilt free eating

If you have been following my blog for a while, you know that I like to eat healthy and be fit but pregnancy has given me a reason to enjoy some guilty food without feeling too guilty. I know most people think that when you are pregnant, you can eat double but I don’t agree with that.

According to what I have read, you can eat 10% more in the first two trimester and another 10% more on the last one and that is what I am following.

I think physically I am doing well as I have gained only the recommended amount on weight and most of it is concentrated around my belly and I am still enjoying chips, Nutella and chocolates.

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I am very happy with how I look pregnant. I have days when I stand in front of the mirror and don’t like what I see. But most people tell me that I am doing well body wise and I want to believe it.

Bigger cup size

As you know already I am a petite women and push up bra was my best friend. But since I found out I am pregnant, I have grown 2 cup sizes already. It feel good but the bad thing is, it is still growing and I have a feeling I won’t like it in a few months’ time when it is huge and uncomfortable.

 Feeling good and pretty

Because I didn’t have morning sickness, the first and second trimesters of my pregnancy were really smooth. I felt good and there were no problems at all. I was able to do everything as I normally did like eating almost everything, keeping up with my exercise routine and doing all the outings and planned holidays. That really made the journey more amazing as I didn’t have to comprise a lot just because I was pregnant.

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Apart from that, I love my growing belly and fell great dressing up. So far I haven’t bought any maternity clothes as I aim to fit into the dresses I already own. Moreover, it is working. Of course, I can’t fit into my super tight dresses but any dresses with elastic or flare, I am wearing them and it has been helping to make me feel better and normal.

Also getting the compliments like, “You are looking great for a pregnant woman” from friends and family to doctors, midwives and complete strangers have helped boost my moral.

I hope this feeling will last until I give birth.

The anticipation

I think looking forward to the day when our baby will be born is the one of the most important wait my husband and I have done so far. Of course there were many important events in our life but they are like nothing compared to what we are looking forward to now.

I love being in the moment, and reminding myself just how quick and important this moment is. I will never get these moments back, and they are amazing.

One day I will be able to tell our baby how much joy I had when I was pregnant with him/ her.

Please share your own experience and that you loved about being Pregnant.

Of course, my pregnancy hasn’t been all roses and sunshine so I will be doing my next post about the Things I HATE about being Pregnant. Till then, take care.

Take care,

M from nepaliaustralian

XOXO

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Chana curry (Chick peas curry)

Posted on December 19, 2014 | 8 comments

“Chana” means chickpeas in Nepali. It is one of the easiest, healthiest and tastiest recipes that I loved to make occasionally. It goes well with rice or roti.

Ingredients

  • 500gm cooked chickpeas can
  • 1 large onion thinly sliced
  • 2 tablespoons olive oil
  • 1 Large tomato diced (I used 250 gm diced from a can)
  • 1 table spoon of garlic and ginger paste
  • A few bay leaves
  • 1 teaspoon turmeric powder
  • 2 teaspoons cumin powder
  • 2 teaspoons coriander powder
  • 2 teaspoons chilli powder
  • ½ cup of chicken stock (use water if you don’t have stock)
  • Salt to taste
  • Fresh coriander to garnish

 Method

  • In a wok, heat the oil; add turmeric powder and bay leaves.

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  • Add the sliced onions and fry for 15 minutes or until golden brown, stirring regularly.

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  • Add all the other spices, garlic ginger paste and fry some more.
  • Once onion is cooked, pour diced tomato and let it cook for 5 minutes stirring occasionally.

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  • Mix well and add the chickpeas and fry for few minutes.
  • Add the chicken stock and Bring to a boil then reduce the heat, cover and simmer for 5 minutes, or until most of the stock dries out.

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  • Garnish the chick peas with fresh coriander.

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  • Delicious curry is ready and it can be served with rice or roti.
  • Enjoy!!!

Take care,

M from nepaliaustralian

XOXO

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What is the purpose of my life?

Posted on December 17, 2014 | 2 comments

This article was published in +977 (a Nepalese Lifestyle Magazine in Australia) in  Nov/Dec 2014 issue.

977 Purpose of my life

When I was young, I believed that we were all sent to earth for a reason and that we all have significance in the world. I also believed that I would find my true purpose one day but as I grow older, I am not too sure how to find the purpose of my life.

I am sure when we were created, we were not meant to be just be born, grow up, get married, reproduce and simply die. There must be a higher purpose in life for all human beings making us different from animals. However, at the same time, living every day for so long, I haven’t discovered my purpose. Does such a thing really exist? Why don’t I know my purpose in life yet?

Like many of you, my day starts with waking up early in the morning, getting ready to go to work, breakfast , work whole day, back home, cook dinner, eat , go back to bed and the next morning the whole cycle starts all over again. Weekends are spent cleaning the house, grocery shopping, sorting the bills and fulfilling the social aspect of our life. In fact, nothing much has changed since I was a baby and looks like nothing much will change until my last day in life.

My life is so ordinary and boring if I stand back and look at it. It’s not that I don’t have fun in life, I do. I manage to take holidays, meet new people, explore beautiful places, enjoy new foods and explore the unknown but these are things everyone is doing and everyone can do. Therefore, I feel I lack a specific purpose in life.

I know I am grateful that I am healthy and happy in my simple life. Life could be worse if you don’t have your health by your side but I am sure life is not meant to be just this. Every time I read about achievers, people who excel in sports, science, music, acting or any other field, I feel lost because I know I am not one of those brilliant human beings, I am just another ordinary person.

It makes me sad to think one day when I die, I will not leave behind anything that people will remember me by.

I am sure there are many self-help gurus and books that say they can help to guide us but how easy is it really to find the purpose in life.

Gautama Buddha said “Your purpose in life is to find your purpose and give your whole heart and soul to it” and that is exactly what I am searching for. I am not too sure how long it takes but hopefully one day I will know the answer and from that day I will dedicate my life to my purpose but until that day comes I have decided to be satisfied with what I have.

It is possible that I might die without knowing the purpose of my life so I have to live every day as if it can be the last day. Until my purpose catches up with me, I have decided to be happy because if I am happy, then I can make others happy.

I am definitely thankful for what I have, my health, my family and my ordinary life without problems. Happiness doesn’t require me to know the purpose of my life. Just appreciating what I have, being content doing the right thing and thanking everyone who made my life better will make me happy and thus everyone around me.

Even though I may not be the extra ordinary human being, I want to be, I could be ordinary one with happiness surrounding me every day and it will be the purpose of my life until I find another one.

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Reaction of our pregnancy news

Posted on December 15, 2014 | 16 comments

We decided the first people who needed to know about our pregnancy were our family so we picked a day and decided to tell them.

We call AS’s home as normal and during the conversation, he dropped the news that we are having a baby. They were happy for us and themselves as it was going to be their first grandchild. We also told his brothers about it. Everything went smoothly as planned. They just asked how far along I was and if everything was fine with me.

It was with my parents, the news didn’t go as we planned. We were in the middle of the conversation when I told my parents.

Me: “Mum, now start packing your bags to come here as I am pregnant so you will have to come and look after me.”

Mum: “Hahahaha, (laughing hard) Stop joking about it and have a baby soon. It is about time.” (My dad was laughing now as well.)

I need to tell you why mum thought I was joking. I always wanted my parent to visit us but they keep on postponing and it was been a while since they have been to Sydney. They have always told me to have a baby so they can come here. I always keep telling them I will, soon and that soon has been dragging on for more than 3 years now. I have never joked about being pregnant before but I always told them that we need to have a contract drafted so they can’t back out from coming to Sydney once I am really pregnant. I have a very close relationship with my parents so I always joke about anything and everything.

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Anyway coming back to the day, the conversation continued as below.

Me: “I am serious mum, I am pregnant and it is around 10 weeks now. I even went for a scan already.”

Mum: “Stop making fun about pregnancy.” (Still laughing)

At this stage AS decided that my parents thought we were still joking so jumped in.

AS: “Yap, M is not joking, we are having a baby and so far things are going great.”

Finally, they stopped laughing and finally got the idea that I was not joking at all.

Mum: “Ohoo that is great news, I really thought you were joking. How are you feeling?” (Add millions of question after that.)

Yap, that is how we told our parents.

After that we called my brother and told him. Everyone was very happy for us.

We waited another 2 weeks before telling our friends and at work.

I called all my close friends and family and told them the good news. Everyone was very happy about it and it was one of the most amazing conversations I had with everyone.

When we were planning for a baby, there were a few friends around us who were also trying for a baby around the same time or long before us. It was a bit hard for me to tell them because I knew they want the same news too. However, to my surprise, they were very happy for us and there was no discomfort at all. All I want now is for them to be blessed the with same good news soon.

my pregnancyAfter, I passed week 12; I also told my boss at work and my colleagues and AS did the same. Everyone was very happy for us and after that, they are making sure that I am all right. All the mums and dads are always telling me what to expect and how things are going to be.

Finally, it was a great relief to be able to talk about the pregnancy and baby with everyone. It was just amazing how one pregnancy can bring so much happiness and joy not just to the new parents-to- be but everyone around them. Instantly, I have a big support network.

I am eagerly looking forward to our baby and I know it is going to be one of the most exciting and memorable days for us.

I will be writing about my pregnancy journey in the coming days. Also hoping to get all the tips and tricks that you used with your pregnancy and kids to help me and keep me sane :).

M from nepaliaustralian

XOXO

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