As I have previously mentioned in I see babies everywhere my friend SK is pregnant and she is expecting a baby girl on December 13.
Last weekend we went to visit her for ceremony called Dhau-baji in Newari or Dahi-Chiura in Nepali.
We were planning a baby shower but as her parents are here it became a Dhau-baji ceremony.
Dhau-baji feeding is a Newari culture, similar to baby shower in the western world. A girl’s family comes to feed Dhau-baji (yogurt and flattened/beaten rice) on the ninth month of pregnancy. They bring Sagun and lots of food along with gifts for the mother as well as the unborn baby.
As her parents are staying with her now, they just went and bought lots of food. They prepared Puja, made Sagun and the ceremony began.
First both my friend SK and her husband got their tika, made out of vermillion, rice and yogurt. Then they were given Sagun consisting of boiled egg, bara, a piece of chicken and fish with yogurt. It was followed by a plate of fruits and flattened rice with yogurt.
Then they had some gifts for both the new parents to be.
I think it is so important to have your parents and in-laws around when you are pregnant and having a baby. I would love to follow our Newari tradition but sometime we are not aware of what needs to be done as per the tradition. If it was only us, SK would have got a baby shower but as her mum was here, it turned into Dhau-baji.
Ohoo, can’t wait for December, 2 new babies on the way.
SD is my another friend who is also pregnant but we still haven’t planned her Dhau-baji / baby shower as she is still waiting for her mum to get her visa to come to Australia. I really wish she gets that good news soon as SD is stressing about it a lot and it is not good for her baby. It will also be better for her mum to be here when we have the ceremony for her.