Hoina, timi haru duii jana ko job nai ghumna ho ki ke ho? I envy…

That was the comment one of our friends left on Facebook in one of our albums. It translates to “Is travelling around the job for the both of you?  I envy…”

Normally whenever we go out, I try to capture the day in photos. I believe they are the best memories I can have (I love taking photos). Normally, I upload those photos in Facebook especially for my family and AS’s family to see. One of the regular people on our Facebook is my MIL and my dad. They just love to look at our photos which assure them that we are happy and healthy in Australia. Also those photos are viewed by only a selected group of my and AS’s friends.

Anyway the above comments make me wonder if Facebook really portrays real life ? Because I believe most of us post only happy photos or events of our life in Facebook which doesn’t mean that we don’t have any sad or bad days. But still when people look at our Facebook, especially with the new timeline features, all they see is our holidays pics, going out pics and happy pics which makes them think that our life is all happiness and joy.

If you follow my posts, you know that I normally try to do something on the weekends so I have lots of photos of weekends in my Facebook. So if you view my timeline, it looks like all I have been doing in my life is travelling. So I do understand why our friend left that comment. I have had similar comments before.

“You are so lucky. You always seem to have time for holidays and that’s how ones life should be.”

“I want to holiday with you, take me in your suitcase.”

I even have people asking for holiday advice and suggestions when they are planning their holidays.

I don’t mind these comments and I am happy to help anyone with ideas when I can.

But then there are these people who think my life is all gold and glitters. That is what I don’t like. Like everyone around me, I work very hard and try to save money to fulfil my dream which is to travel and see the world. Most of my friends have different dreams than I have i.e. all Australians dream about owning their own house and they are working towards it.

Anyway back to Facebook, I have read lots of surveys that say that people are depressed more these days looking at the happy life of their friends and family in Facebook. Also here is an article  on how other people’s happy statues are affecting people and making them miserable.

I find it a bit stupid, since you should know better if you are a Facebook user. Do you really share all the misery in Facebook? (I know there are some exceptions). If your answer is NO then you should never be upset with what you read and see in Facebook. Everyone has their share of happiness and sadness since no one’s life is perfect. That is what you have to always remember . People are always living their life as they want for a long time, it is just that Facebook is making it easier to share and show the photos of your special moments. For some reason if it does bother you, the best thing to do is to stop looking at that particular person’s profile. There are lots of settings in Facebook which will allow you to hide the profile and activity of a person you don’t want to know about.

I, for one am an active user of Facebook and post photos there but I have never been depressed looking at the photos of my friends and family. I actually get inspired by them, for example I have wanted to go Sky diving for a long time but haven’t booked yet. Now I can see so many of my friends are doing it and looking at those photos really helped me to make my decision on doing it for sure, and soon. Also I know lots of new information from these photos like people getting married and having babies so I am happy to see all these.

And it is so true “Absurd as it may sound, the friends whom you envy may be envying you just as much!”

The study by Cyber psychology, Behavior and Social Networking found that people who spent less time socializing with friends in cyberspace and more time socializing with them in real life were less likely to report they were unhappy. So go out and have real good time with your real friends.

If you have any story to share regarding how Facebook affects people or you, please let me know.

10 responses to “Hoina, timi haru duii jana ko job nai ghumna ho ki ke ho? I envy…

  1. Some people are so childish to unfriend friends in Facebook over silly arguments.

    I use Facebook to keep in touch with my friends and family as well. My friends and family are all over the globe so it helps a lot to keep us informed about what is happening in each other’s life.

  2. I like seeing happy status messages. I unfriend or hide people that are unpleasant. I try to see the better side of things.
    Facebook has had negative consequences. So many people define friendships by fb. I’ve had a few arguments where someone “defriends” me only to refriend later. When all that really happened was a spat. My ex husband once went on a drunken “wall spree” filling my wall with poorly spelled insults after I moved out.
    Buy fb has bern a great thing too. I share my favorite photos with family and close friends. My classmates and I had a group where we’d have our own hw and other school related discussions. I get a good laugh every day on fb. Now that I’m several thousand miles from where I grew up, it helps me feel less lonely.

  3. People have a right to their stories, displaying and explaining as they wish, and should not expect another to withhold because of its hypothetical impact on others.

    I’m open about my experiences, on the blog, on Facebook, and people are free to decide for themselves what they think of me…

    Anyway, at the height of my meltdown in 2003, I travelled all over the US. Here I was in the midst of breakdown, and I was flying everywhere. It wasn’t happy travel, it was running from my life, but how does one escape oneself? If you saw a photo from then, and actually… this avatar is made from a pic of me in 2003, you might not suss out what was just under the surface.

  4. Finally I get to comment on your blog after so long! But mind you, I read all 😀
    I love looking at pictures.. I want to see those! 😛
    People will keep saying the things they do. Most people spend time envying rather than making their dreams come true. Lose focus. Well, its good to keep motivating them M. I personally love looking at friend’s travel photos, weekend outings etc. Its nice. Makes me feel like I am looking at their part of the world through their eyes 🙂 That’s travel too you know. Virtual travel. You can connect more rather than googling pictures of a place.. when you see a friend or someone you know in a place you want to be.. its travel. Virtually ofcourse! hehe 🙂

    • Ohoo now you are busy bee 🙂 So happy for you…
      Thanks Tash for reading my posts on your busy schedule as well 🙂
      That is so true Tash that we can learn so many things from the photos. I always so the same and take inspirations from these photos and it helps a lot for me to plan my next trip.Virtual travel is great sometimes.

  5. Just to share my experience: I am not a camera-guy. so I don’t usually post pictures on facebook, so my acquaintances think I don’t have a life, which is completely opposite with the reaction you got. So they always try to make me go to some place, and when I tell them that I’ve already been there, they do not believe me. 😐

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