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Spring Cleaning and Shopaholic

My husband has been reminding me for many days to clean my wardrobe. He did his a few weeks ago but his was easy. He threw away few unwanted t-shirts and jeans and was all done.

I was not looking forward to doing mine as I knew it would take me forever. I think it had been more that 6 months that I had not rearranged my wardrobe. The clothes just kept on increasing with every new purchase.

I promised myself that I was not going to buy any new shoes until I go overseas and I have kept my word. From Europe trip till now, I have bought just one pair of shoes (only because it was the kind I was looking for and it was on a big sale) and it is a record for me but I couldn’t commit to the promise in the apparel department. Every season there are new things coming in the market and it is hard to walk past the shops without trying something on. So it begins. I love some of the things I try and I will buy. I always justify with the thought that it is a good time to buy as they are cheap or they are on sale.

May be this is what they call shopping addiction. I watched a movie a while ago called ‘Confessions of a Shopaholic’. It is a movie about a girl, Rebecca Bloomwood, who is a lovely redheaded young woman who loooooves to shop. I am not talking about the reasonable kind of love where she goes monthly or even weekly to see what’s new at her local boutique. I am talking about an addiction as powerful as any drug out there. When she walks past a store, the mannequins talk to her and convince her that this, only this, particular item has the power to make her feel better, more attractive, more alive. She shops using 12 credit cards, including her Gold Card, which is encased in a block of ice in the freezer in case of emergencies.

While watching the movie I was glad that I wasn’t that girl in the movie who would ask money  from strangers to shop. I know the movie shows the extremes of a shopaholic. I definitely will never be that bad but I am not very good either.

Before I was married and even before my husband move to Australia, my favourite pass time was shopping. I used to work in the city and almost every lunch break, I with a few other co-workers would tour the closest shopping centres and look around for good deals. We did find some great deals and we used to spend lots of money.  If someone was on a shopping trip and found some good deals, we used to text the rest of the girls and we would go running to the shop.

We will go and try dresses and just buy whatever we liked and we were happy doing it. When you are surrounded by many people like you, you forget that you are a shopaholic as everyone around is doing the same thing.

I have changed a lot since I changed jobs and my bank account is happier than before. There are no shopping centres close to my current work which means no shopping during lunch hours. So I have to plan to go shopping during weekends and we don’t do that every weekend. But every time we do, I always end up buying something. I really need to learn how to stop myself from going crazy about new clothes and shoes.

After my husband came into my life, he did help me a lot to control my habit but I think there is still lot of work.

Anyway, last week when I had a day off, I finally managed to clean my wardrobe. It looks much better now. I had a pile that I am giving to charity, a pile that I am taking to Nepal for my cousins and then a pile that I am packing in a box for winter. Now there are only dresses hanging in my cupboard that I will be wearing every day to work.

I counted them and there are 82 dresses. I was thinking I can wear those dress to work every day and I can still go without repeating them for almost 4 months. Gee, that is really a lot. And those are dresses just for work, not counting the ones in another cupboard for weekends and parties. My mum would have a panic attack if she knew that I have more than 100 dresses along with my 100+ shoes. Can a girl ever have enough dresses and shoes?

So I am planning not to buy any dress this year in Sydney. When I fly for my next trip aboard that will be my licence to shop again. Let’s see if my plan is going to work.

Please let me know if you have any solution for me. I am sure I am not alone here.

P.S. When my husband read this post, he emailed me with  his suggestion “Give your credit card and debit card to your husband and only shop with his card!!!  “

My BBQ Pool Birthday Bash

I guess I am getting too old to celebrate birthdays as I feel really tired after the weekend.

Since I was young, I have loved celebrating birthdays with friends and family. Birthday  was always special to me. After coming to Australia, I kept the tradition and celebrated my birthday with my friends here at first and now I have my family as well.

Many of my friends feel that they are too old to throw a birthday party but I think I will never be old to have some fun in the party. It is all about getting together with loved ones and having some fun.

I always wanted to have a fairy-tale big celebration but until I win lotto, it is not possible so I try my best to make a small celebration with friends and family to make me happy :).

Last year I had a Halloween themed party and it was really fun. To have some fun in the sun, this year we decided to throw a BBQ Pool party. Our apartment has a pool and BBQ area so we decided to make use of it.

I sent my invite more than a month ago and was looking forward for the day. Lots of the people RSVPed but they picked MAYBE as the option. First of all I think Facebook shouldn’t have MAYBE as an option in the invitations as RSVP means YES or NO but some of my friends didn’t even RSVP. So I needed to call them to confirm how many of us were going to be there on the day as I had to shop according to that. But everything went as planned at the end.

The planning had started a month ago. I and AS along with my cousin K didi and her husband sat down and planned things; including food and decorations. I was really excited but as the day can closer it went from exciting to scary. There was shopping to do, decorations to finalise, food to be prepared, and entertainment to be arranged

And unfortunately, I had to work late on Thursday so my BIL and husband went shopping instead. When I got home, most of the shopping was done but there was still preparation to do, so we went to bed late and it was the same story on Friday. So I was bit tired on the big day.

I had invited people from 12 noon so we had to get everything ready really early. I am so glad that I had my cousins and my brother and a friend helping us. Without them, I and my husband couldn’t have accomplished everything.

So some of us tackled the decoration and the rest were busy preparing the food. The entrée was BBQ chicken wings with corn cobs, chips, green salad and Methi (Fenugreek) salad.  It was followed by main which was hot dog, pasta salad, BBQ prawns, and Greek salad. There was beer and soft drinks as well.

It took a while to do the decoration, especially to setup the gazebo, get the banners and balloons up.

Anyway, the decoration was done by 10am and food was prepared by noon. So we waited for the guest to arrive.

The first guest arrived around 1pm and the party began.

The day was not too hot so only a few people went for a swim; the water was cold but it was fun to take a dip.

As the guest arrived, we served them entrée with drinks. When there were enough people, we start the games.

The first was Egg and Spoon Relay but instead of an egg we used table tennis ball. Participants had to carry a ball on a plastic spoon, held between their teeth, across the yard and transport the ball safely across the finish line without dropping it.

I could see how competitive my family and friends were during the game. Some of them were using blue tack and sticky tape to stick the ball to the spoon to win the game but it was a great one to start off the party.

We had competition between boys and then girls.

Then we played bingo which was a long game. Egg and Spoon Relay is a game of probability in which players mark off numbers on cards as the numbers are drawn randomly by a caller, the winner being the first person to mark off all their numbers. Please click here if you want to know the details.

It was fun to call out numbers and my friend DB and my nephew and niece helped me. Everyone was excited to win the game but funny enough out of 6 wins, there were only 4 winners, 2 winning 2 games each.

By then the sun had set and it started getting a bit chilly so we moved the rest of the party upstairs to our apartment.

There we served the mains and we had our usual chitchat. The evening concluded with cake and me getting lots of gifts.

My niece and nephew were more excited than me to blow the candles in the cake so they helped me :).

I am so happy to receive so many wonderful gifts from my family and friends. I was spoiled indeed.

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While looking for games for my own party, I found a few interesting games that can be played during BBQ. Here are some of them.

Clothespin Tag

For those that want physical activity in their picnic game, try a little game of “Clothespin Tag.” Supplies include people (the more the merrier!) and a bag of clothespins. For this picnic game, the clothespins are available at any local variety store. Simply clip 2 or 3 clothespins at various spots on picnic attendee’s shirts. Then yell “GO!” The one with the most clothespins at the end of this picnic game wins!

Chair Balance

Tired, take a seat with this picnic game, “Chair Balance.” See how long you can sit…without a chair! This is a fun activity you can do with your buddies. You’ll need at least six people: four for each chair, one person to remove the chairs, and one person to spot the people on the chairs.

Set four chairs with the front of each chair touching the right side of each chair, making a square. Have your four friends sit on them so each person can lean back and rest his head on another person’s lap. When all four people are lying on each other and their feet are firmly on the ground, take away the chairs. See how long everybody can stay balanced using only your legs.

What in the world are YOU doing?

For those that would enjoy more mental exercise for their picnic game, try this variation on charades, called “What in the world are YOU doing?” To play this picnic game, the first player pretends to do something, like drink water. The next player asks “What in the world are YOU doing?” The first player answers, saying something other than what they were doing. In our example for this game, the first player, who was pretending to drink water might say, “I was driving my car.” Then the second player has to pretend they are driving a car, the third player then goes through the process again. This picnic game is best played fast, and if someone messes up and says what they were actually doing, they are out.

Memory

For some more mental exercise, try a picnic game of “Memory”. Here’s a clue: to your memory be true. To play this game you’ll need a tray full of lots of different objects, a towel, a watch to time the game, and a good memory. Everyone who’s playing gets 15 seconds to stare at the tray with all the objects. Use a watch to keep time. Then cover all the objects on the tray with a towel. Each player has 20 seconds to write down every object she can remember. All the players compare their lists. If anyone has the same objects on their lists, those objects get crossed off. Whoever has the most items not crossed off wins this fun picnic game!

Hot Dog Eating Contest

Seat participants behind a long buffet table or around a circular table and tie each players hands behind their back with a scarf or piece of fabric. Assign a couple people to supervise and assist in the competition. Set a time frame such as 10 minutes to see how many hot dogs each player can consume without using his hands. Include hot dog buns, ketchup, relish and mustard to make the competition more difficult. The supervisors will need to be in charge of distributing the hot dogs to the participants.

Egg and Spoon Relay

If boiled eggs are on the menu, use a few for a relay race. Participants must carry an egg on a wooden spoon across the yard and transport the egg safely to the next racer, who waits with his own spoon. You can use raw eggs for this too, but boiled eggs are less messy, and you can eat the leftovers provided they haven’t smashed on the ground.

Three-legged Race

Pair young and old players in a race across the yard to a finish line. Use bandanas to tie players together by one leg. You can have heats with players of different ages or heights. If you want to make the competition tougher, make an obstacle course. Players have to race around the unlit grill, around picnic tables, etc. to reach the finish line.

Wheel barrow races

 Remember this one? I rocked it as a kid and I am hoping to win today. It is like a supported plank in motion. You might want to warm up a little before this one!

Musical chairs

It is a game played by a group of people (usually children), often in an informal setting purely for entertainment such as a birthday party. The game starts with any number of players and a number of chairs one fewer than the number of players; the chairs are arranged in a circle (or other closed figure if space is constrained; a double line is sometimes used) facing outward, with the people standing in a circle just outside of that. A non-playing individual plays recorded music or a musical instrument. While the music is playing, the players in the circle walk in unison around the chairs. When the music player suddenly stops the music, everyone must race to sit down in one of the chairs. The player who is left without a chair is eliminated from the game, and one chair is also removed to ensure that there will always be one fewer chair than there are players. The music resumes and the cycle repeats until there is only one player left in the game, who is the winner. When down to the last two players the chair may be moved as long as the music has stopped before the chair has been touched.

Birthday Surprise

I am so happy that I am surrounded by people who love me :). Last year it was my mum who surprised me (read here) along with my husband (read here) and  this year I have another one.

My birthday is this weekend and I am looking forward to spending good time with my friends and family. But my birthday surprise came a bit early this week when one of my co-workers bought me a special tart. It was not an ordinary tart; it was my favourite lemon tart from my favourite shop. I have tried lemon tarts from everywhere but the shop close to our work makes the best. The most incredible thing was that it was not the normal small tart that I used to buy every time I felt sugar craving but it was a massive one the size of a birthday cake!

Everyone at my work knows that I just love lemon tart and they always buy me one when they have to bribe me. They even joked that I should have that as my wedding cake as well as on my birthdays. Normally these tarts come in small and medium sizes which are just enough for one person. But to my surprise this year they made sure I got a birthday cake as the lemon tart which is a big sized.

I just loved it. I took it home and shared it with my family in our Dashain get together.

I did realise one thing that even though I love the tart so much there is no way I could eat such a big tart. After finishing the first piece I could not take another bite. :). Anyway it was a great start of my birthday week.

Check out my Halloween theme birthday  party from last year here 🙂

Mismatched

It was only yesterday that I was laughing my head off with a colleague of mine. I saw her in the kitchen in the morning and I saw something odd about her. After observing her for a while I realised that she was wearing her ballet flat shoe rather than her normal high heels. So I asked her if her leg was ok because I usually wear my flats only if my leg is aching or I have to walk a long distance.

She told me the reason and I couldn’t stop laughing.

Like me, she is crazy about her shoes. I am sure she owns more pairs of shoes than I do but we always argue about it. Anyway, back to the story. Every morning she leaves home wearing her flat shoe but carries her high heels in her bag. So as usual, today she did the same. Went to the cupboard, took a pair of black shoe, put them in her bag and left home.

When she reached office and she was exchanging her flat for high heels, she realised that she had brought mismatched black shoes. The worst thing was that they both looked completely different, one plain black and the other one with strips. And to top it off, they were both for the left feet. So the whole of yesterday, she was running around office in her flats.

She admitted that she made the mistake because she had too many pairs of shoes. But like me there is always something nice in the market and it is hard to pass a shoe shop without looking at them and buying a few pairs now and then.

When we were kids, our teachers told us not to laugh at someone else’s mistakes. I learnt my lesson this morning. I was running a bit late for work so after getting ready, I picked up my earrings and ran for the lift. I put on my earrings in the lift without even looking at it properly. But while driving, I saw myself in the rear-view mirror and guess what; I was wearing mismatched earrings. It was not so bad as both of them were pearl but one has diamonds around it and the other doesn’t.  Have a look.

Well I guess, I will say it is the latest fashion to wear mismatched earnings if someone asks me 🙂

Do share your crazy mismatch story.

I was reading a blog “living in west with values of east”. I was shocked when I found out who its author is :)

I am sure by now all of you know that I really enjoy writing and I am blessed to have so many readers following my blog. I am happy to find this online world where I can share my opinions and experiences and above all to find supportive people who read my blog and share their opinions with me.

You must be wondering what the hell the title of this post means.

I have been blogging for a while now and except my husband no one around me knows about it. There are a few people who know my identity and know that I blog but they have all come across my blog first and then got to know my identity later.

Initially, I didn’t really see it as necessary for people around me to know about my blog because I was not sure where this blog was going. Now after a year I think it is not that important to tell everyone around me that I blog. I haven’t really found anyone who blogs so I always assume that they won’t be interested.

But at the same time I knew that at some point of time my family and friends would find my blog. The World Wide Web is so open that if they Google something relating to Nepal or Nepali festival or Nepali culture, there is a high possibility that they will land on my blog. They will recognise me straight away if they are in my Facebook as I use the same photos on both platforms.

I have to admit that my parents will be happy to find out that I write on a regular basis. As you know now that I have a few articles published in +977 magazines here in Sydney. Every time it is out in the market, I put that on my Facebook. I wasn’t sure who was reading it but one time my dad mentioned that he has read all my articles and he loved it. He said it is really nice to see me writing and expressing myself. I had sent a few copies of the magazine to Nepal and my mum was so proud that she was showing it to her friends.

Anyway back to the title of this post. This morning on my Facebook page, one of my cousins wrote, “I was reading a blog “living in west with values of east”. I was shocked when I found out who its author is 🙂 🙂 🙂.”

I smiled reading it because I thought my friends and family would have found my blog a long time ago and it took one of them over a year to do so :).

So I would like to welcome to my blog my cousin sister GA who lives in USA. She said she was reading some blog post from this blog and kept clicking on different photos until she got a post with a photo that had her in it. I think that must have been a bit of a shock for her. BTW here is the photo and she is the small kid in the middle. That photo was taken at least 13 years ago.

I am sure many of my other cousins and family members will find this blog in the future and I am ok with that. Most of my cousins live far from me so I think this blog will give them some insight into me and my life 🙂

While I am at this, I want to address another query. I get lots of people asking me why I am anonymous and why I blur the faces in my photos. I even have some people writing to me angrily that blurring photos are not cool.

I know some of you may not like it but one and only reason for my action is purely for the sake of privacy.

My life is like an open book on this web so I don’t want everyone to know where I live and other details of my life. Also I don’t want to use my real name on the blog because I don’t want people to Google my name and land on this blog especially if they are my future employer or someone looking for me in an official capacity. Anyway after year of blogging, I know now that my friends on blogosphere are happy to call me M or nepaliaustralian. So thank you guys for accepting me with my anonymity. Hope everyone else who is angry with my anonymity will respect my reason for my privacy and accept me as M from nepaliaustralian.

Does your family and friends know that you blog? Does it make any difference if they know?