Monthly Archives: February 2012

Hoina, timi haru duii jana ko job nai ghumna ho ki ke ho? I envy…

Posted on February 12, 2012 | 10 comments

That was the comment one of our friends left on Facebook in one of our albums. It translates to “Is travelling around the job for the both of you?  I envy…”

Normally whenever we go out, I try to capture the day in photos. I believe they are the best memories I can have (I love taking photos). Normally, I upload those photos in Facebook especially for my family and AS’s family to see. One of the regular people on our Facebook is my MIL and my dad. They just love to look at our photos which assure them that we are happy and healthy in Australia. Also those photos are viewed by only a selected group of my and AS’s friends.

Anyway the above comments make me wonder if Facebook really portrays real life ? Because I believe most of us post only happy photos or events of our life in Facebook which doesn’t mean that we don’t have any sad or bad days. But still when people look at our Facebook, especially with the new timeline features, all they see is our holidays pics, going out pics and happy pics which makes them think that our life is all happiness and joy.

If you follow my posts, you know that I normally try to do something on the weekends so I have lots of photos of weekends in my Facebook. So if you view my timeline, it looks like all I have been doing in my life is travelling. So I do understand why our friend left that comment. I have had similar comments before.

“You are so lucky. You always seem to have time for holidays and that’s how ones life should be.”

“I want to holiday with you, take me in your suitcase.”

I even have people asking for holiday advice and suggestions when they are planning their holidays.

I don’t mind these comments and I am happy to help anyone with ideas when I can.

But then there are these people who think my life is all gold and glitters. That is what I don’t like. Like everyone around me, I work very hard and try to save money to fulfil my dream which is to travel and see the world. Most of my friends have different dreams than I have i.e. all Australians dream about owning their own house and they are working towards it.

Anyway back to Facebook, I have read lots of surveys that say that people are depressed more these days looking at the happy life of their friends and family in Facebook. Also here is an article  on how other people’s happy statues are affecting people and making them miserable.

I find it a bit stupid, since you should know better if you are a Facebook user. Do you really share all the misery in Facebook? (I know there are some exceptions). If your answer is NO then you should never be upset with what you read and see in Facebook. Everyone has their share of happiness and sadness since no one’s life is perfect. That is what you have to always remember . People are always living their life as they want for a long time, it is just that Facebook is making it easier to share and show the photos of your special moments. For some reason if it does bother you, the best thing to do is to stop looking at that particular person’s profile. There are lots of settings in Facebook which will allow you to hide the profile and activity of a person you don’t want to know about.

I, for one am an active user of Facebook and post photos there but I have never been depressed looking at the photos of my friends and family. I actually get inspired by them, for example I have wanted to go Sky diving for a long time but haven’t booked yet. Now I can see so many of my friends are doing it and looking at those photos really helped me to make my decision on doing it for sure, and soon. Also I know lots of new information from these photos like people getting married and having babies so I am happy to see all these.

And it is so true “Absurd as it may sound, the friends whom you envy may be envying you just as much!”

The study by Cyber psychology, Behavior and Social Networking found that people who spent less time socializing with friends in cyberspace and more time socializing with them in real life were less likely to report they were unhappy. So go out and have real good time with your real friends.

If you have any story to share regarding how Facebook affects people or you, please let me know.

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Do women have it better?

Posted on February 10, 2012 | 20 comments

I am all for women’s rights and everything that goes with that. Then sometimes, things happen in my life, I wonder if that is true that women have it better. 

This morning I went to a service station because my car’s tyres needed some air. Normally I put the air myself as most service stations have a machine where you can enter the tire pressure and off you go. But this particular service station had an old style air pump which I didn’t know how to use. I parked the car and I was just looking at how to use the machine. I must have looked dumb and confused so out of nowhere this guy came and asked me if I needed help. I definitely did, so I said yes. He was kind enough to help me and fill air in all the four tyres.  I thanked him and drove off. I was glad there was someone to help me otherwise I would have spent a while on working out how the machine worked.

 This situation made me think, if I was a guy trying to work out that machine in the service station, would I still have been offered help? 

Because I remember a conversation with my friends (guys) about how people are so nice on the road these days that they give you way when you are trying to change lanes or slow down when you are trying to overtake. And they told me it doesn’t happen to them and I am getting those purely because I am a woman. I disagreed with them then but now it makes me wonder if they were right. In their words “Women are nice to women and men are nice to women so either way, women win”. 

So here are the 10 things I get during my day-to-day life which I am not too sure I get it because I am woman. Please let me know if it is normal or I am getting that because I am a woman. 

  1. Most of the time people smile at me, both men/women when our eyes meet while walking on the street.
  2. Strangers offers me a drink when I go out for a night out. If it is a club, guys come and dance with me and compliments your dress, hair etc. (I think I know the answer already).
  3. Once on a rainy day, this guy came from a shop with an umbrella and helped me cross the road even though he was not walking in the same direction as I was.
  4. A cab driver didn’t take money from me because I was nice to him. All I did was have a conversation during the ride. I insisted on paying but he insisted on not taking the money.
  5. When shopping, the cashier lets me get off with a few cents and says “its ok, don’t worry” while I am digging in your bag for change.
  6. When I am cold at work, everyone was happy to lend me their jumper (guys and gals).
  7. It’s easy to ask for direction when I get lost as everyone seems to be willing to help. I even have some people who walked with me to my destination even if they were walking towards the opposite direction. I couldn’t thank him enough.
  8. Many strangers request me to be their friend in Facebook. 
  9. When I was single, I felt that even my good/close friends were trying to hit on me even though I made it clear to them that I wasn’t looking for a relationship anytime soon.
  10. When we (friends) go out for lunch or dinner, guys in the group offer to pay for my share. I make sure the next time I pay for the meal but the guys insist on paying most of the times.

Tell me your opinion.

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How to make Puri/Swari

Posted on February 9, 2012 | 12 comments

Ingredient

  • 2 cup of  Flour
  • 1  cup of Water
  • Ghee to deep fry

Method

  • Mix flour and water to make dough. Knead well till you get uniform dough. Dough should be soft so we can make thin puri.
  • Cover the dough with a plate and leave it for a few hours.
  • Take a small amount of dough and roll with a rolling pin to make a circle about 2 mm thick and 10 – 12 cm in diameter.
  • Roll a few of them first before heating the oil as it doesn’t take too long to cook the puri.
  • Heat the oil in a deep pan. There should be enough oil in the pan so the puri will sink. To check if the temperature of the oil is right, put a small amount of dough in the oil. If it raises immediately to the top, it is ready for the puri
  • Put the puri in the hot oil and use a basting spoon to press the puri slightly. It will help puri to puff up.
  • Once it is cooked put them on a kitchen towel to take out the excess ghee.
  • If you want hard crunchy puri, do not stack then on top of each other.
  • If you want soft Swari (a type of soft Nepali puri), then stack them on top of each other.
  • Server with with any curry or it can be enjoyed with tea.


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Lock it away

Posted on February 8, 2012 | 10 comments

In life small things give you pleasure. But at the same time, sometimes we are so blinded by the big picture we miss small things. 

So I am writing my experience from last weekend about my own failure to notice minute things. 

Last weekend, I went for a drive to NSW south coast, one of the magnificent drives near the sea. It was with AS and our friends, DS, DR and DS’s parents who are visiting from Nepal. I just loved the drive and had passed via that road many times to go to Wollongong.  One of the best parts of the drive is to pass through the Sea cliff bridge. You will agree with me that, the view is just breath-taking and so many TV ads for cars are shot there.

While we were there, her parents mentioned that, they saw in one of the TV serials in Nepal that there is a bridge where you write your name on a padlock and lock it on the railings at the side of the bridge. Then you throw the key into the sea with all you bad luck. As they had seen that, they wanted to go there and do the same. 

But to my surprise I had never heard about that before. In my mind, I was trying very hard to think if I had seen or heard or read anything like that but nothing came to mind. Thanks to the latest phone, we have internet on the go so AS Goggled it. To our surprise it said it is in the south cost in Seacliff Bridge and luckily we were only a few kilometres away.

So we parked the car and started walking to the bridge. I have driven over that bridge so many times before but never saw the padlocks so we thought of asking a few people where on the bridge, it is. Surprisingly even the local people had no idea what we were talking about. Anyway, we walked towards the bridge and to our surprise, there they were. Lots of padlocks from the start to end of the bridge and I had never noticed them before. I guess I was so mesmerised by the view that I failed to look at the railings with their padlocks on the bridge. 

I started examining many locks there. Some of them had names of the bride and groom with their wedding dates or husband or wife with their anniversary year and wedding dates. It was so wonderful to see so many couples showing their love. Then there were some with names of the whole family or names of mates. Also I found some locks with names of people who had passed away. 

Once I came back home I had to know what that was all about so again I asked my good friend Google and found the following information from website click here   for more info.

It was started by a couple, John and Fay who lived in Helensburgh and  saw something similar in Cinque Terre,Italy when they visited Europe. In 2006 John wanted to surprised his wife on their 40 years anniversary so he engraved their names with their wedding date on a padlock and locked it on that bridge. So romantic!!! And now there are so many of them following their foot steps. 

One the way back to the car, we saw one more amazing thing, a tree with thongs (sandals) pinned to it. I am guessing that would be a one of its kind. 🙂

Here are some pics from the day

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Australian Open 2012

Posted on February 7, 2012 | 6 comments

This post is a week too late but I am still posting it. 🙂

I am a fan of Roger Federer in tennis and I love to watch him play. He is such a perfect gentleman and I like his game as it is all about precision, grace and balance. So during the Australian Open semi final game between him and Nadal, I was supporting Federer. 

The game started with Federer having a  3-0 lead. But then Nadal bounced back so they had to play a tie breaker. Finally Federer won the first set. I was really happy as I thought he needed 2 more to sets to progress to the final. 

It was a really close game with both playing under immense pressure. There were times I couldn’t bear to watch the game as there was so much pressure that I had to change the channel just to calm myself down. 

When Nadal won the second set, I was really sad but when he won the third set as well I was so upset I wanted to cry. 😦  Every time Nadal got a point, I cringed as I wanted Federer to win but unfortunately after playing 4 sets, Nadal won the game and progressed to the final while Federer was out of the Australian Open. The final score was 

When I was watching the final, I was supporting Djokovic and I really wanted him to win . It was one epic match. I can’t believe they played for almost six hours.

I have to admit Nadal is a great player but I am just so happy that Djokovic won the title (and Nadal lost ).

The final score for the game was 

Waiting for more tennis to come 🙂 and Federer in action.

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