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Our Story: Good friends again – Part 4

This is a continuation of my previous post. Please read the previous post here, Part 1, Part 2 and Part 3.

Normally I used to send emails to my friends from time to time just to say hi and keep in touch. So I sent the following email to AS one day. I didn’t expect a reply from him at that point. I already knew that it was normal not to hear from him for quite some time.


How are u doing?

Just dropped in to say hi. So have you made you plans about the future there?

Also what time u are online these days.

anyway just keep in touch and gud luck for future

BTW when r u going to Nepal?

hope to see u there


It took him another 3 weeks to email back as expected.

Hey M,

How’r u doing?

Things have been a little crazy here so haven’t been online.

I will be here till December or Jan then may go to Nepal.

I haven’t been online much lately but will be till 1 or 2 in the night here PST. The timing between Australia and USA is so messed up and I can’t access messenger at work so I don’t know how to meet u online… gotta think of some way.

Anyways… I’ll only go to Nepal when I finish here. Been too long. And hopefully it’ll be the same time as u. so when’re u going btw? Ok do write to this infrequent correspondent 🙂 even though u may want to bash me.



It took me 2 weeks to write back to him because there was a lot going in my life then. I was thinking to go to US on a working holiday visa. My parents wanted me to come to Nepal and decide on getting married. I was looking for another job in Sydney.

So I decided not to go to US as the economy there was not doing great. Instead I decided to go to Nepal and visit my family. Also one of my good friends was in Hawaii so decided I will visit her and then go to Nepal.I was also applying for new jobs, making me very busy. Finally I decided to reply to AS with my plan.


finally really gud hear from u

 I am still undecided on US for now

Anyway I am sure things will work out best for both of us

I am thinking if I have chance I will go to Hawaii for a week before going to Nepal in Dec.

Do let me know if u can come too. I have my frd there and also AH is there.

I think it will be fun if we can manage otherwise it will b so gud to c u in Nepal

These days there is hardly anyone in Nepal so having company for few days will be great

gud luck for everything

Do keep in touch


Around that time I was keen on finding a better job and it was really making me frustrated. I did look around a lot but there were not many jobs that I wanted on the market.

One of the weekends, I was home online doing different things like looking for jobs, checking Facebook and so on. I had plans with my friends, brother and SIL to go clubbing that night. It was evening already so I started getting ready.

While I was getting ready, I heard a “tring”, a message in my Facebook chat. When I finished what I was doing I went and check what it was. SUPRISE SURPRISE. It was AS saying hello in Facebook chat.

I was about to go out in 30 mins so I did not know if I should response or not. I decided to say a quick hi.

Me: hello, how are you?

AS: Hey. am good. How r u?

Me: I am sorry but I am about to go out so can’t chat as I am getting ready.

AS: it’s ok

Me: if you have Skype add me. My id is XXXXXXXX . I can talk and get ready if you have time.

He sent me the request and I added him. Now we were voice Skyping while I was getting ready to go out.

I am not sure what we talked about but it was time for me to go so I was saying my goodbye. At the end of the conversation this is what we end up talking

AS: Do you have camera in your laptop.

Me: Of course. Here you go, I started the video chat. Hellooo, can you see me?

He had his video on as well.

AS: I can see you. Ok enjoy your night.

Me: Of course I will. We are going clubbing. Dancing always makes me happy.

AS: la la mooj gara (ok enjoy). You are looking good. (I remember I was wearing a blue one shoulder dress with big flower earrings. I smiled as it is always nice to get a compliment.)


Me: Thank you. Ok time for me to go now. Take care and nice talking to you.Bye

AS: Bye

I shut down the laptop and went out. I had a great night with my brother, SIL and my friends. We went to city and it was beautiful weather. As usual we had our dinner and danced till late. It was Saturday night so we had lots of fun.

My life was moving as normal. I had decided that I was definitely going to Nepal in December as I desperately needed a break from everything in Sydney. One of the reason I had been delaying my trip home was because my parents really wanted me to think about marriage. As I was far away it was easy for me to ignore them but when I would be in Kathmandu I knew that I would be forced to take a definite step.

Till then I was telling my parents I was too young and not ready. That month one of my cousins who was just a few months older than me got married. After the wedding ceremony was over, the only topic my parents could think of when I called was about my marriage.

What I thought of marriage 🙂

To get them off my back I told them to start looking for a guy for me. I had no intention of getting married soon but if my parents were happy to look for someone for me, I thought I will let them do that. I can always say no to anyone they showed me anyway. I know it sounds so evil but that is what I did.

After making those decisions I wrote to AS and a few of my other friends letting them know that I was going to Kathmandu in December.


Hope u are doing well.

Just want to let you know that I will be going to Nepal this 10 December for 4 weeks. Just bought the ticket so it is final now 🙂

Let me know if any of u are coming to Kathmandu the same. If possible try to come so it can be reunion for all of us.

GTG.Take care


The post is getting long so I will write more in next post. Hope you will come back and read more

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Our Story: Back to Sydney – Part 3

This is continuation of my previous post. Please read the previous post here, Part 1 and Part 2.

AS was really nice and I was glad for his company during the 12 hours at LA airport. Without his company, 12 hours in LA would have been hell. I really don’t know what I had been thinking while booking that flight. But my friend in Florida had told me to book an early flight to LA just in case there were some changes in my domestic flight schedule since, he said that it was normal for domestic flights to get cancelled or delayed and he didn’t want me to miss my flight to Sydney. So AS being there at the airport was a blessing for me (in more ways than I knew at that time) and it was great to catch up with an old friend.

It was a really long flight back to Sydney. I was so tired that I think I slept for more than 10 hours out of 16 hours flight time. During my stay in US, I flew and travelled between different states so many times that I hadn’t had a proper night of sleep for weeks. Staying in new places every few days didn’t help either. So resting during the flight back to Sydney seemed like the best idea.

I woke up a few times during the flight for food and to go to the loo, other than that I just rested. It didn’t feel like I was in a plane for 16 hours when the pilot announced to fasten the seat belts for landing.

Finally when I landed in Sydney airport, I felt like I was home again. It is always nice to be back in familiar surroundings after a long holiday. It was Monday 8 am Sydney time, a winter morning. I was sure my body was still on US time making me sleepy and tired. But I had promised my boss that I would be back at work the same day. I used to teach in a University those days and it was important that I didn’t miss the classes. I really don’t know what I was thinking. I thought I would enjoy as much time as possible in US so booked the last flight out of the country. Anyway I caught a cab home, had a shower, changed into a fresh outfit and went to work.

I was still very tired but I made through the day. I don’t remember much but I was glad when I finished for the day. When I returned home that night, I just slept like a baby for the next 12 hours. I went to work the next day as well. I was still tired but started showing symptoms of flu. It was summer in US and when I came back to Sydney, it was winter. My body was having a hard time adjusting. I am sure my holiday in US had been really hectic. I fell really sick by Wednesday that I couldn’t go to work.

It really scared me when I started sneezing and coughing really bad and had high fever. I wished my mum was there to look after me. I felt so alone and lonely. It is what happens when you stay so far away from your parents that they can’t be there when you need them the most. My brother and SIL were there but in the afternoon they had to go to work leaving me alone at home.

Around that time Swine flu was spreading around the world and US was one of the major places where it was reported.

Sydney airport had thermal imaging to check for flu fevers (heat) installed so it was definitely very serious.

When my fever didn’t go down even after 2 days I went and saw the doctor and following conversation occurred.

Doctor: What’s wrong with you?

Me: I have flu, cough and high fever.

Doctor: From when you started feeling sick.

Me: It started from last 3 days but I have to tell you that I have just come back from USA. I am really scared that it might be Swine flu as I have all the symptoms.

Doctor: I will ignore what you said last because if I determine that it is Swine flu, I have to inform Department of Health. Then they will take you away for quarantine and you may be under their observation for months. So we will treat this as normal flu. Let’s see how we go.

I was really scared after hearing that from the doctor. I bought all the medicines he prescribed and went back home.

I still had high fever and was so tired that I was in bed for a whole week. First few days, I couldn’t do much so I was not using internet at all. But on the 4th day when I opened my laptop finally, I saw a friend request from AS in my Facebook. I couldn’t believe my eyes that he had also sent me an email. It was definitely something I was not expecting but felt good to read his email.

Here is the email.

Subject: Shree Ganesh

Hey M,

That was just a profile pic in Facebook to let people know that I’m still alive 🙂

Enjoy being back in Sydney and teaching to the poor poor students. I really pity them. I can distinctly imagine you standing with a stick in your hand, the specs on your eyes teaching those kids… 😀 ha ha ha

and I’m still waiting on the pictures from you…



Hindus normally pray to God Ganesh before starting something new. So it was a humours way of AS to have a subject as Shree Ganesh after he opened a Facebook account. He definitely made me laugh. And I was glad that he created a Facebook account so we could keep in touch more.

He had sent that email two days ago so I replied him straight away.


here are the pics u r waiting for

We didn’t take many pics but still gud memories with few pics. Thanks you once again for your company. It was fun.

For now I am still adjusting my life here and fixing my new place. Bit sick for last few days.

anyway nice to see u active and social in fb and email

keep it up and take care


I went and checked his Facebook and it had one photo on it. It was a close up shot of him in dark blue t-shirt smiling at the camera.

After this exchange of emails, I didn’t hear from him for a couple of months (no surprise). I got better and thanked god it was not Swine flu. The job was hectic so was my social life which kept me busy. When I had free time, I went through my photos from US. It was nice to remember a great holiday I had in US.I selected a few and uploaded them in Facebook to share with my friends and family. I uploaded a few pictures I had with AS and tagged him. I hoped he checked his Facebook. He was MIA again. I never saw him online in Facebook or messenger and he never had any activities in his Facebook either.

The post is getting long so I will write more in the next post. Hope you will come back and read more 🙂

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10 Questions from Yatin on my “Our Story “post

I decided to change the title of my last two posts. I started to write about “Knowing AS better” but it looks like it is going to be story of our life. So I will be writing “Knowing AS better” as part of “Our Story” series now.

Please read my previous post here and here to make sense of this post. One of my regular reader, Yatin left the following comments with 10 questions in my last post.

It was really nice and interesting to read his comments/ questions. While I was replying to the comment, I thought it would be nice for the rest of my readers to know more about me and AS. So here are his questions with my replies. I hope Yatin won’t mind my initiative.

First of all thank you Yatin for visiting my blog regularly and being a loyal reader :). BTW I love your blog as it is witty and your sense of humour is awesome 🙂

Long post so of course a long response from a (disappearing and showing up again) loyal reader …

1) I always coach my Son no task is smaller in life, you have to take it in a stride – and now I can go give him a living example; pulling a luggage cart at airport can earn a reward of a lifetime!

Hahaha, this is really funny. I am sure when AS was pulling my luggage in LA he didn’t have a grand plan to marry me one day (or had he? :)). But definitely no task is small in life. You are a great dad for giving your son life lesson from now on.

2) How did you convince him to sign up on Facebook? My wife still doesn’t have one, she uses mine.

Because of the fact he used to like me (I didn’t know that then), it must have made my job easy to make him sign up for Facebook. But I told him many times before we met in LA as well and it took a while for him to act on it. But the initial months even he had an account it was of no use as he didn’t do anything with it.

I have to admit if there had not been Facebook, maybe we wouldn’t have been together now.

3) Male friends are fine but I bet bringing a date home would have a different reaction!;)

I never dated anyone during my school life in Nepal. I used to think it was waste of time. To be in love and all you get is a broken heart at the end of it. As I was such a tomboy, I never thought to enter into a relationship.

Don’t get me wrong. I got proposals from many guys. The first guy ever to give me a love letter got a punishment form a teacher because I complained to the teacher. (We are friends now and he is happily married so it didn’t leave him traumatise if you are wondering). We were in class 3 then and I used to be very studious and the class captain. I took the letter as an insult to me thinking how he dare he propose to me. Hahaha it sounds all funny now but poor guy; I am glad after that I decided not to go to that extreme but simply ignored them.

So I never had a boyfriend then so didn’t have to think about what my parents’ would think of them.

4) I was raised vegetarian too but started to make an exception on poultry for the same reason. On the contrary my wife never changed and also raising kids vegetarian!!

The first time I ate meat again, I hated it but now I can’t imagine being vegetarian again. I choose not to eat meat now and then but I don’t think I will go back eating veggies only anytime soon.

I believe it is not hard to live as vegetarian in US and Australia but definitely it lowers your choices.

5) So “husband and a kid” does that qualify as an innocent lie or a calculated prank to shake up the senses!!! 😉 humm

I have to admit I was really annoyed with AS because of his disappearing act. I had many other friends who used to stay in touch with me but AS used to always disappear. I must have been in a bad mood when I decided to write to him about a husband and kid.

It was definitely a prank just to annoy him. I had nothing else in my mind when I wrote that line .You will read in my coming post that my mind about AS was clear from day one. We were just friends and nothing more. I wrote that email and completely forgot about it.

Poor him, almost a year, he had the impression that I was married with a kid. I kind of think that was the very reason he didn’t meet me in LA the first time. What will you do meeting a friend with a husband and a kid when you are alone.

6) The T-shirt you wearing at airport with trolley donning I love US – Do you really mean it or it’s just another shirt!
If former is true your on my elite buddy list. There’s a lot of bad press out there about US & whole lot of mis-conception about Americans so I admire people who like me in spite being in US 🙂

First of all, I like you in spite of your location.

 My T-shirt said “I love LA”. . I do love US. It was one country I always wanted to visit and I was over the moon when I got to go on my big holiday. So when I saw this t-shirt in Venice beach I had to get it and I wore it many times when I was there and back in Australia as well.

So you can put me in your elite buddy list 🙂

7) The Pic of yours with Nasdaq bull – I used to work only a block away!!!

If only I knew about you then, we could have had coffee together 🙂

8) great love story but it’s not complete until we get the other half (I get it this is the better half – but still the other half; the real half) If AS is busy I volunteer to write his part – a fiction as a guest post – him your 10th anniversary “circa trances under which I nodded” 🙂

I asked AS when I started these posts few days ago if he would like to tell his side of story. He sweetly declined and his exact words were, “There are a few things in my life which is very private and close to my heart. I am not ready to share it with the world yet.”

I respect his decision so I am telling my side of the story only. If some day he is ready, I will definitely share his story too.

9) In all seriousness truly an intriguing love story. Love comes back full circle on your case literally around the globe.

I still can’t believe that I am married to AS sometimes. We were together in Nepal but nothing happened. Then we went a world apart to US and Australia but still manage to find each other at the end. It took more than 7 years but we ended up together. I think that is what destiny is. If something is written for you, it will happen no matter how far you are and no matter how long it takes.

10) Tell AS that he is the luckiest person on earth. People go distance to find true love, he is one blessed soul – true love has found him from a distance!

I will make sure AS reads this post.

AS knows he is a lucky guy and tells me all the time. He surprises me with his kind words and lovely gestures.

His love is very special to me as well. I know I will never find someone else who will love me so much and the way he loves me. I am a better person since he came to my life. I have to say both of us are lucky to have found each other 🙂

I hope you are happy with my response. Thank you once again Yatin.

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Our Story : LA Airport – Part 2

This is a continuation of my previous post. Please read the previous post here.

So where were we? Yes, AS has finally come to meet me at LA airport. Surprise surprise!!!

We greeted each other and it was hard to believe he was in front of me after so many years. We hadn’t seen each other for ages, more than 7 years. He still looked the same as I remembered him from the school days. He was still skinny like I remembered with his glasses and that big smile. His hair was a bit longer but still somewhat similar. He looked tired but seemed genuinely happy to see me.

He asked me if I had plan for rest of the time there. I told him that it would be annoying to go to touristy places with my big luggage so I was thinking to spend the time in the airport itself. Also I was scared to miss my flight due to traffic in LA if we ended up going somewhere far.

So we decided to sit around the food court and he helped me push the heavy trolley.

Once we sit down and started talking, it didn’t feel like we hadn’t met for so long. It was as if we had always been in touch. Lots had happened in those years so we had lot of topics to talk about. I was surprised how both of us were so comfortable with each other even after so many years. He told me what was happening with his life and I updated about my life. We talked about anything and everything.

We remembered our school days when we used to go out for lunches and go to our favourite café to have tea and chicken and vegetable pastries.

Our old photos (2)

We also played pool (pocket billiards or pool billiards) and I learnt all the rules and how to play it then.

Also all the hiking trips we went too.

Our old photos (1)

Ohoo, those carefree days! How I wish time had stopped then and we could be happy like then forever in life.

Our group of friends used to go to Hotel Soaltee every month or so. They had a gaming centre where you buy tokens and play games. All of us used to have paid satellite TV then so, once a month when we used to get the guide, it would come with tokens for the game centre. So all of us would collect them and go to this centre and have fun. They had games like bowling, mini basketball as well as usual gun and car games.

What we used to do was use those tokens and may be buy a few more and spend the afternoon there. It was so much fun as we would be more that 8+ people at a time. Also most of the games used to give winning tickets. Once you had a certain number of tickets, you could get some prize. I remember getting a Goofy from Disney using our tickets. As you know in these centres, you really need many tickets to get any reasonable prize. That Goofy was possible when all our tickets were combined but they let me keep the goofy at that time.


I brought that Goofy with me to Australia when I first came to Australia as it was one of the things that reminded me of my friends from school. Now that Goofy is even more special as AS is in my life now.

He also told me he still had a gift we (me and one of my friends) gave him for his birthday. I was scratching my head trying to remember what exactly it was. I was glad when he explained to me and I remembered. It was a crystal swan we picked up from a gift shop because we didn’t knew what to buy a guy. So we decided on a show piece. But it was ages ago and I had completely forgotten about it. I know it is bad but I also don’t remember what they (him and other friends) gave me for my birthdays then and I didn’t dare to ask him.

The gift

Also we talked about how fun it was when we used to go to tuition together and go to temples afterwards. I think our tuition with only two other friends gave us more time to know each other. Those were the days when we used to visit each other’s home more often. Because the place  we went for extra tuition was closer to my place, it was normal for everyone to drop into my home. Now I feel blessed to have parents with an open mind. They never minded that I had friends (which included few female ones but many males) over all the time.

In Nepali society especially then, it is not usual for a girl to have many male friends. And bringing them home was big NO NO. I remembered my cousins who had never brought a male friend home. It was not allowed. But my parents were awesome to have trust and faith in me to let me do what I wanted. They never minded or complained about my friends. My girlfriends used to come for overnight stays while my male friends could come to visit anytime. Most of them had lunch or dinner at our place if they were there during meal times. Also my parents were really cool coming to talk to my friends and getting to know them better. I definitely have to remember this when we have our own kids one day.

Also we talked about the day he came with my other friends to airport, the day I left Kathmandu for Sydney. Going through the pictures, I find it really sweet that more than 30 people were there at the airport that day to bid me good bye which included my family and friends I do remember him at airport that day but nothing more than that.

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I was highly emotional during that time. My little cousins were crying while my parents had tears in their eyes. I stayed really strong during the whole time and cried only once I was inside the airport. I knew if had I started crying there, then everyone else would cry as well. Even though I was really young then, I guess I was a strong girl to leave everything behind to start afresh in a strange land with no help. But today I have to say that was one of the best decisions of my life as my life wouldn’t have been same without that major decision.

During our conversation, he asked me about my husband and kid. I must tell you all why he asked the question.

You know I told you before how I used to get annoyed with AS that he used to disappear for more than six months at a time. I wouldn’t know anything about him and then he would suddenly pop up with a few lines in an email.  So one of those days I sent him the following email.

Hello AS,

Hope you are doing great. Just dropped in to say hi.

It looks like, “ Out of sight, out of mind” applies to you perfectly.

I believe you must be married with kids by now.

If u are in hi5 or Facebook, add me so it will be easy to keep in touch.

Take care


To this he replied after a month (It was quick for his track record).


Out of sight but not the mind 🙂 not for friends..

 I’d kind of dropped off the online world it seems.. Back again.

 I’m still in India.. Where u at and how u doing 🙂 lots of guys gone off and married.. NP, GB.. But not me yet 🙂 what about u? I’d think u must be 🙂

Mail me, take care.


To that I replied after a week

hey hey hey

Finally u manage to reply….God you must be very busy? ;-P

So u r still working in India. What r u doing these days?

I know lot of our frds r married and got kids too. Remember NS, she got 2 kids now.

Anyway what about u ?how many u got now? How about a girlfriend if not wife…..

Why aren’t you in Facebook still? sign up…come on b more social man……

My life is rocking, got married and had one kid and life is going. Such is life.

Still in Sydney and having lots of fun

Don’t disappear, keep in touch

Take c are


Can you believe, he replied to above email in two days?

Hey M,

Not planning to disappear 🙂

good to hear u’r married and a kid too..

Can’t quite believe that when I think of the past and Kathmandu 😉

I’m still in India but going to US this weekend. I got a job there.. Will be there for about a year at least.. Then probably I too will get married…

Gotta find a nice girl for that though:-D
Keep mailing… Take care

And he completely disappeared after this email until I sent him the email about my holiday plans to the US almost a year later. Remember the one he took 6 months to reply?

So when he asked about my husband and kid I was a bit confused initially Suddenly I remembered our email exchange. I told him that my husband and kid are fine in Sydney and I was on holiday alone. He told me he was expecting to meet my husband and my kid at the airport that day.

It was really hard for me to play along any longer so I started laughing out loud. He was surprised and I had to explain to him that I had already forgotten about the email until he asked me about my husband and kid. I was not married and definitely had no kid. I was pulling his leg in the email because I was annoyed with him for disappearing for so long.

I don’t know if he was glad or not but he told me he had believed me 100% when I told him I was married with a kid. Lots of our friends were married by then and some even had kids so it was not unusual.

After that we talked about normal topics. One of the things I remember telling him was to open a Facebook account so we could keep in touch easily. He said he will do that and I knew it would be another year before I see his email or account.

After the first few hours we decided to have lunch. There was not much choice so we went for burger and chips with drinks. He remembered I was vegetarian during our school days and was surprised that I had started eating meat again. I told him that I ate meat from the time I came to Australia.

Actually my parents made me eat meat before I left Nepal. When I applied for my visa to Australia, they were really worried about me as I was a teenager and there was no one in Sydney who would look after me. It was hard for them to send me so far away. Then to top of all that one of my cousins who used to live in Australia told them that life was very hard for vegetarians in Australia so I might have a tough time adjusting. So they told me if I don’t start eating meat I wouldn’t be allowed to go. I really wanted to come to Australia for a fresh start so I gave in.

I still remember the first time I ate meat. Tears were coming down from my eyes when my mom served me minced chicken with lots of mushrooms. As it had been years since I hadn’t had any meat, I could taste the meat even thought it was hidden within mushroom.

I don’t regret my decision right now as I love meat. Also I know my parents did all that because they loved me and they wanted to make sure I would be OK in Australia.

Back to LA airport: I and AS were catching up with my experience in US. I met a few common friends from school so I was sharing my experience with him. It was so nice to meet these friends after so long as well. If I think about it right now, I really don’t know what else we talked about but more than 4 hours passed just like that at one table in the food court. By that time we were hungry again and we decided to have another round of food. This time it was Mexican tacos and burritos. I remember complaining to AS that I didn’t like Mexican food in US. I know, Mexico is next door so those Mexican foods must be very authentic. But I love Mexican food in Sydney and it was so different from what they sell here. It’s the same like how we didn’t enjoy pizza in Italy, how ironic.

I couldn’t believe how fast time flew and it was time for me to check in for my flight to Sydney. He helped me again with my luggage and we went to the check in counter to check in my luggage.

I had one more hour before I had to go inside to clear immigration and board the plane. I was having such a nice time with AS at that point that I was sorry I was leaving.

The last hour passed pretty quickly and it was time for me to board the plane. I almost forgot but at last minute we took a few pictures together. It was a good time and I am glad we caught that on camera forever. I told him that I would email the photos once I reached Sydney.

Us (1) Us (2) Us (3)

I made him promise to keep in touch with me and not to disappear for six months like before. He swore that it won’t happen again and bid me good bye with the same smile on his face, the one I remembered him from our school days.

With sadness, I went inside the immigration area and turned around to look at him one last time thinking I may not see him ever in my life again.

The post is getting long so I will write more in next post. Hope you will come back and read more  :)

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Our Story : The Beginning – Part 1

Life is funny isn’t it? You live your days as it comes, not caring about the world. Then suddenly one day you meet this person and you can’t imagine your life without him/her. People normally say, “The moment I laid my eyes on you, I knew you were for me”. I am sure this is how most of your story starts. But for me and AS it was a bit different.

I better start from our history to give you a clear picture.

I first met AS in high school. To be frank, I can’t remember the first time I saw him or talked to him. We had 52 students in the class and he was one of them. It took me a while to remember everyone’s name.

Over time, I started hanging out with a few friends all the time and he was in this group. We got to know each other slowly but always in a group. Our school used to organise hikes every few months. Most of us would go and so did me and AS. Also our group used to go to the library, restaurants and tuition as well spending lots of time together.

We rarely spent any time alone but I remember walking with him back form the library a few times. We went to each other’s houses as well along with other friends. I remember having lunch at his place once, which was cooked by his mum. At my place he now teases me that I served him under cooked Wai Wai (instant noodles) for lunch.

At that point of my life I was a tomboy; M who loved the company of boys more than girls. It’s not that I hated girls but I had only 4 female friends and I had many male friends. I liked him as a friend but never in a million years had I thought of him more than a friend.

There are few reasons why  it never crossed my mind that AS could be anything more than a friend. He was a nice guy who studied really hard and did well in class. He was always there when I needed some help and I used to like his smile. But he was a soft spoken shy guy which is the opposite of loud voiced me. I was extrovert and he was introvert to sum up the difference. But I really liked his smile. Years after school, if someone talked about him, I could still remember his smile.

So our high school ended and we went our different ways. I came to Australia for further studies and AS went to India for his engineering. We used to email each other may be twice a year and most likely that email would be initiated by me. I liked to keep in touch so I would email a few friends just to say hello. In most cases, he wouldn’t reply for more than 6 months. Then suddenly he would pop out of nowhere with a few line in an email. Then when I reply to that email, he would disappear again. I used to get really annoyed by his behaviour but I accepted him the way he was.

Every time I used to go to Nepal for vacation from Australia, I used to email my friends about my plans to check if any of them were coming to Nepal during the same that so we could catch up. In most occasions either AS will just have left Kathmandu when I got there or would arrive just few days after my departure from Kathmandu. So I didn’t meet him at all for a long time.

I am not sure if you remember Hi5 which was popular before Facebook. I had an account there and had invited all my friends to join me. Many of my friends did and to my surprise AS did as well. But even though he had an account; he never updated it so it was kind of useless.

Our life was going on as normal 1000 miles apart. I basically had no ideas what he was doing but he had some ideas as he later told me he used to check my Hi5 account from time to time.

After my graduation, I started traveling whenever I could. One of the trips I made was to the USA. When I decided to go on holiday to USA, I planned my holiday so I could meet as many friends as I possible there. By this time AS was in LA. So once I booked my flight, which was 6 months before the travel date, I emailed all my friends there telling them the dates of my flight. I asked them if they were free during my stay in USA so I could plan accordingly. Many friends emailed me back and I start making my plans according to that. But as you may have predicted, AS didn’t reply back. I was really annoyed as I considered him a good friend; it would have been good to catch up with him.

The day before my flight, I was checking my email and to my surprise, I saw one from him. Seriously, after more than 5 months, he was replying to me.

His email was something like this


Looks like I caught you right on time,

I am in LA these days and here is my number XXXXXXX. Please call me when you get here.

Have a safe flight.


I was really annoyed with the email as I could imagine his smiley face typing those words. Anyway I saved his number on my phone and waited for my holiday to start.

It was a long flight to the US but I was really excited as it was my first big trip. I had a friend picking me up in LA and I was staying with him and his aunt. He and his aunt had made many plans for me so when I landed in the US, I didn’t call AS straight away. There were so many things to do and see that the time flew so two days before I was to leave LA I called him to check if he had anytime to meet me before I flew out. We couldn’t work out a time that suited both of us so I flew to Baltimore without meeting him. From there I did my planned trips to Pennsylvania, Niagara Fall, Toronto, NY and Florida.



Niagara Falls

Niagara Falls

Disney world

Disney world

NYC Bull

NYC Bull



I didn’t have any hope of meeting AS because on my way back to Australia, I had only 12 hours in LA which I was planning to spend in the airport. I didn’t want to complicate things by by going out.

Around the end of my holiday, AS called me up and asked my schedule in LA on my way back. I told him my plan. I was a bit annoyed with him that he hadn’t met me. I told him if he really has time, he can come to the airport as I won’t be able to travel to where he is. I was half expecting him to say he was busy but he said he would come. I was glad to have some company during my stopover.

After having an awesome time with my friends and family, finally I landed in LA. While walking out from the terminal, I was thinking that I didn’t have a mobile phone so if AS didn’t show up (which was quite possible) as we had planned I would be alone for more than 12 hours in the airport. I had my laptop with me so I planned to surf the internet to kill time. I came out and went to collect my baggage. I saw my bags coming out and was about to take the bags from the carousel and those bags were super heavy. I had done so much shopping that I was having a hard time lifting my suitcase. Then there he was. YES, AS actually made it to the airport to meet me. And he was there helping me lift my bags onto a trolley.

The post is getting long so I will write more in next post. Hope you will come back and read more  🙂

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