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He knows how to make me smile

Posted on September 3, 2013 | 14 comments

They say that the small things in life are important and I really believe in that. I really don’t think about big things when I think about happiness but small things always manage to make my day.

I believe that the perfect guy is not one who has the most money or is the most handsome guy you’ll meet. He is the one who knows how to make you smile and will take care of you each and every day until the end of time and that is my hubby for me. AS always manages to do small things that always makes my day. There are so many incidents that his one word or one action had made me smile.

I have decided to document and share them here so I can look back and smile again  🙂

I have told you before that AS is a very introverted person and sometimes it is hard to make him talk. But with me he is always comfortable and his cheekiness comes out which I love so much 🙂

Normally I make sure we eat healthy and sometimes tell him off when he eats too much junk. One thing we try to do is not to eat dessert or sweets late at night. And as I have told you before, AS loves anything with chocolate.

The other day I baked chocolate cupcakes and it was on the kitchen table.

After dinner, we were watching TV when suddenly he stared a conversation

AS: Babe don’t you think those cakes are going off?

Me: No, I just baked them yesterday. They will be fine.

AS: Look they are going off baby so let me finish it now so we don’t have to throw them away.

I couldn’t do anything but laugh when I looked at his face. Yes, he ended up eating them as I couldn’t say no.

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Our Story: Finding a perfect life partner – Part 5

Posted on March 28, 2013 | 19 comments

This is continuation of my previous post. Please read the previous posts here, Part 1, Part 2, Part 3 and Part 4.

Not surprisingly after my last email, most of my friends emailed me back except AS. They let me know that none of them were planning to come to Kathmandu as their circumstance was not good to take a holiday. I was a bit disheartened as I thought I might be lonely in Kathmandu. The friends who were already there would be very busy with their work and family. So the best person to give company will be someone on holiday just like me.

My last hope was AS and was hoping at least we would have a week or so together before I left Kathmandu.

In Kathmandu, my parents and family were busy searching for a guy for me. They were scared that I would change my mind again so they were sending information including photo of prospective husbands. I trusted my parents’ choices to find a guy from a reputable family which matched our caste and status but it was me who had to live with this guy for ever. Every time, they sent me a photo, I couldn’t see HUSBAND material in any of them. I started to question myself on what I really wanted from a husband. I was so unsure.

I never talked to any of these guys because I didn’t think I should be the one initiating the communication. When my parents would say “Add him in Facebook or email the guy”, I would tell them if he is really interested, he should add me. I am not taking the first step.

I think in a month, I heard about at least 10 guys and saw photos of a few of them as well. Now the conservation with my parents was more on what they were looking for in a guy and what I wanted. I used to tell them, you guys know better about what to look for as I didn’t have any specific list. The only think I told them was that I needed him to come to Australia after the wedding.

As the days pass by, my parents became less excited about finding a guy as I kept on saying I didn’t like any of them. They though it would be better if I met few guys when I was in Nepal in December. So they stopped sending me the photos and details.

I have to say AS always managed to communicate on the right time. On one weekend after talking to my parents about wedding and marriage, I was just surfing net when he messaged me on Facebook

AS: Hello

Me: hey, how are you?

AS; Doing gud. How are you?

Me: Why didn’t u reply my mail? U r annoying

AS: hahahaha. I was about to mail u

Me: Ya rite. Anyway just got off the phone with my parents. They are asking me what kind of man I want to get married to. They don’t know what to look for anymore as I kept on saying NO to everyone they showed me.

AS: Just trust them and say YES

Me: I am too scared to just say yes. I don’t even know these people. How can I marry anyone?

AS; I have asked my mum to look for bride for me as well. I really don’t care. If they find someone good I will marry her.

Me: Are you serious? Aren’t you worried that you won’t get along together and that will be a big problem in future.

AS: It works both ways so I am cool. But it is funny, they haven’t found anyone yet.

Me: So what kind of bride you looking for?

AS: Don’t know.

Me: Come on, just give me a hint.

AS: Someone who is educated, around my age and from Newar caste so my family will be happy. If it has to be arranged better make sure my family is happy.

Me: So why couldn’t they find anyone yet then.

AS: Don’t know. Let me know if you know someone 🙂

Me: In fact I have a very good friend who is looking for guy as well. I think you will like her. The only problem is she is slightly older than you. (I am sure my friend will kill me if she ever found about this). But I am sure you will be good together.

AS: I am OK with someone older but I am sure my family will not be OK with that.

Me: Ohoo, that is sad. You guys would have been perfect. Anyway looks like we will be getting married soon. Imagine in few years if we meet again, with our partners and kids. God, life will be so different.

AS; I thought u were already married before. Anyway what are you looking for in a groom.

Me: I know it was fun to fool you :).  I really don’t know. I am very confused.

AS: Why?

Me: Coz I have never been married before hahaha..Seriously I am not sure if I am really ready to get married.

AS: I think no one is ever ready but you will be fine.

Me: What happens if I don’t get along with my husband?

AS: You will be fine.

Me: I am not sure what I want from life let alone have someone else with me to make it even more complicated. God why do we even have to get married?

AS: So this world and the human race can go on. Imagine, if no one wanted to get married and have babies, what would happen. You are a nice gal so you will be OK don’t stress out a lot.

Me: Ya right. Are you coming to Kathmandu in December?

AS: Not sure yet. Have to check if I can get time off from work. Also I plan to travel to some more places in the US before coming to Kathmandu so let’s see.

Me: Looks like we will miss each other in Kathmandu like always. 😦

AS: Will let you know the details once everything is fixed.

Me: I am sure we won’t meet as always. Seriously I will be so bored in Kathmandu.

AS: You have so many friends there and you know so many people.

Me: Ya but they all will be busy in their work and family. It was the case last visit.

AS: Time to go for lunch. Keep you posted.

Me: Ok talk to you later. Enjoy lunch.

After that conversation I met AS more on Facebook chat as well as Gmail chat. We used to talk about everything from our future plans to our future partners but we were still friends and just happy to be in touch. Life was going on as normal. I was really excited that my holiday was coming soon and was looking forward to that.

In the meantime, AS decided that he would come to Nepal in January as well after his holiday to the east coast. That meant we might meet in Kathmandu depending on the flight he was able to book. But he was having problems booking a flight as it was holiday season and most flights were booked out. I was still very skeptical about our meeting.

Finally it was December 9 and I was super excited to go home. I hadn’t been to Kathmandu for over 18 months. It was a change I was looking forward to. Also I kept my mind open about marriage and prospective groom.

Before I headed to airport, I checked my mail for the last time and there I had an email from AS.

Hey M,

I have been bg these days. Well 4.5 hrs of sleep is all I got, got up at 7.30

You must be all packed and ready to go. I had hoped to catch you before you left for the airport but work came in between… ke garne… saw your email too late…

Aba ta yahi sochdaichuki Kathmandu chandai jana paun taki (Now I am thinking to come to Kathmandu soon)  I get to spend more time with you…… well tyas pachi shayad ya ta chat ma bhet hola nabhaye Kathmndu ma (Hope we meet in chat or else in Kathmandu)

Airport ma wifi bhaye… yo mail padheu bhane online aaunu ra chat garaunla… Gharma padhdaichau bhane… aba tyasai bela chat garaunla…(Hope there is wifi in the airport so you can read this email and come online otherwise you will be reading this from home in Kathmandu so talk to you then)

You have a safe journey now, Bon Voyage! Have fun! We will meet when we meet!

Always,

AS

I didn’t feel like replying to the email at the last minute so I closed my laptop and made sure everything was in order before I left for the airport.

I took a cab, checked in and cleared immigration. This time I was flying Singapore airlines. I waited outside the boarding gate. I wished I was not traveling alone especially of the 9 hours transit time I had in Singapore before I flew to Kathmandu. But I tried my best to think about my plans in Kathmandu.

I had a holiday planned with my parents to Mirik, Pashupathi Nagar, Illam, Jhapa. Itahari, Kakarvita in Nepal and Sikkim, Changu Lake and Darjeeling in India. I knew it would be one of the best holidays as I would be spending lots of time with my parents. The only topic I needed to remember to avoid was marriage 🙂

The post is getting long so I will write more in next post. Hope you will come back and read more

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Our Story: Good friends again – Part 4

Posted on March 18, 2013 | 16 comments

This is a continuation of my previous post. Please read the previous post here, Part 1, Part 2 and Part 3.

Normally I used to send emails to my friends from time to time just to say hi and keep in touch. So I sent the following email to AS one day. I didn’t expect a reply from him at that point. I already knew that it was normal not to hear from him for quite some time.

hey

How are u doing?

Just dropped in to say hi. So have you made you plans about the future there?

Also what time u are online these days.

anyway just keep in touch and gud luck for future

BTW when r u going to Nepal?

hope to see u there

M

It took him another 3 weeks to email back as expected.

Hey M,

How’r u doing?

Things have been a little crazy here so haven’t been online.

I will be here till December or Jan then may go to Nepal.

I haven’t been online much lately but will be till 1 or 2 in the night here PST. The timing between Australia and USA is so messed up and I can’t access messenger at work so I don’t know how to meet u online… gotta think of some way.

Anyways… I’ll only go to Nepal when I finish here. Been too long. And hopefully it’ll be the same time as u. so when’re u going btw? Ok do write to this infrequent correspondent 🙂 even though u may want to bash me.

Chow,

AS

It took me 2 weeks to write back to him because there was a lot going in my life then. I was thinking to go to US on a working holiday visa. My parents wanted me to come to Nepal and decide on getting married. I was looking for another job in Sydney.

So I decided not to go to US as the economy there was not doing great. Instead I decided to go to Nepal and visit my family. Also one of my good friends was in Hawaii so decided I will visit her and then go to Nepal.I was also applying for new jobs, making me very busy. Finally I decided to reply to AS with my plan.

hi

finally really gud hear from u

 I am still undecided on US for now

Anyway I am sure things will work out best for both of us

I am thinking if I have chance I will go to Hawaii for a week before going to Nepal in Dec.

Do let me know if u can come too. I have my frd there and also AH is there.

I think it will be fun if we can manage otherwise it will b so gud to c u in Nepal

These days there is hardly anyone in Nepal so having company for few days will be great

gud luck for everything

Do keep in touch

 M

Around that time I was keen on finding a better job and it was really making me frustrated. I did look around a lot but there were not many jobs that I wanted on the market.

One of the weekends, I was home online doing different things like looking for jobs, checking Facebook and so on. I had plans with my friends, brother and SIL to go clubbing that night. It was evening already so I started getting ready.

While I was getting ready, I heard a “tring”, a message in my Facebook chat. When I finished what I was doing I went and check what it was. SUPRISE SURPRISE. It was AS saying hello in Facebook chat.

I was about to go out in 30 mins so I did not know if I should response or not. I decided to say a quick hi.

Me: hello, how are you?

AS: Hey. am good. How r u?

Me: I am sorry but I am about to go out so can’t chat as I am getting ready.

AS: it’s ok

Me: if you have Skype add me. My id is XXXXXXXX . I can talk and get ready if you have time.

He sent me the request and I added him. Now we were voice Skyping while I was getting ready to go out.

I am not sure what we talked about but it was time for me to go so I was saying my goodbye. At the end of the conversation this is what we end up talking

AS: Do you have camera in your laptop.

Me: Of course. Here you go, I started the video chat. Hellooo, can you see me?

He had his video on as well.

AS: I can see you. Ok enjoy your night.

Me: Of course I will. We are going clubbing. Dancing always makes me happy.

AS: la la mooj gara (ok enjoy). You are looking good. (I remember I was wearing a blue one shoulder dress with big flower earrings. I smiled as it is always nice to get a compliment.)

me

Me: Thank you. Ok time for me to go now. Take care and nice talking to you.Bye

AS: Bye

I shut down the laptop and went out. I had a great night with my brother, SIL and my friends. We went to city and it was beautiful weather. As usual we had our dinner and danced till late. It was Saturday night so we had lots of fun.

My life was moving as normal. I had decided that I was definitely going to Nepal in December as I desperately needed a break from everything in Sydney. One of the reason I had been delaying my trip home was because my parents really wanted me to think about marriage. As I was far away it was easy for me to ignore them but when I would be in Kathmandu I knew that I would be forced to take a definite step.

Till then I was telling my parents I was too young and not ready. That month one of my cousins who was just a few months older than me got married. After the wedding ceremony was over, the only topic my parents could think of when I called was about my marriage.

What I thought of marriage 🙂

To get them off my back I told them to start looking for a guy for me. I had no intention of getting married soon but if my parents were happy to look for someone for me, I thought I will let them do that. I can always say no to anyone they showed me anyway. I know it sounds so evil but that is what I did.

After making those decisions I wrote to AS and a few of my other friends letting them know that I was going to Kathmandu in December.

Hello,

Hope u are doing well.

Just want to let you know that I will be going to Nepal this 10 December for 4 weeks. Just bought the ticket so it is final now 🙂

Let me know if any of u are coming to Kathmandu the same. If possible try to come so it can be reunion for all of us.

GTG.Take care

M

The post is getting long so I will write more in next post. Hope you will come back and read more

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Our Story: Back to Sydney – Part 3

Posted on March 15, 2013 | 16 comments

This is continuation of my previous post. Please read the previous post here, Part 1 and Part 2.

AS was really nice and I was glad for his company during the 12 hours at LA airport. Without his company, 12 hours in LA would have been hell. I really don’t know what I had been thinking while booking that flight. But my friend in Florida had told me to book an early flight to LA just in case there were some changes in my domestic flight schedule since, he said that it was normal for domestic flights to get cancelled or delayed and he didn’t want me to miss my flight to Sydney. So AS being there at the airport was a blessing for me (in more ways than I knew at that time) and it was great to catch up with an old friend.

It was a really long flight back to Sydney. I was so tired that I think I slept for more than 10 hours out of 16 hours flight time. During my stay in US, I flew and travelled between different states so many times that I hadn’t had a proper night of sleep for weeks. Staying in new places every few days didn’t help either. So resting during the flight back to Sydney seemed like the best idea.

I woke up a few times during the flight for food and to go to the loo, other than that I just rested. It didn’t feel like I was in a plane for 16 hours when the pilot announced to fasten the seat belts for landing.

Finally when I landed in Sydney airport, I felt like I was home again. It is always nice to be back in familiar surroundings after a long holiday. It was Monday 8 am Sydney time, a winter morning. I was sure my body was still on US time making me sleepy and tired. But I had promised my boss that I would be back at work the same day. I used to teach in a University those days and it was important that I didn’t miss the classes. I really don’t know what I was thinking. I thought I would enjoy as much time as possible in US so booked the last flight out of the country. Anyway I caught a cab home, had a shower, changed into a fresh outfit and went to work.

I was still very tired but I made through the day. I don’t remember much but I was glad when I finished for the day. When I returned home that night, I just slept like a baby for the next 12 hours. I went to work the next day as well. I was still tired but started showing symptoms of flu. It was summer in US and when I came back to Sydney, it was winter. My body was having a hard time adjusting. I am sure my holiday in US had been really hectic. I fell really sick by Wednesday that I couldn’t go to work.

It really scared me when I started sneezing and coughing really bad and had high fever. I wished my mum was there to look after me. I felt so alone and lonely. It is what happens when you stay so far away from your parents that they can’t be there when you need them the most. My brother and SIL were there but in the afternoon they had to go to work leaving me alone at home.

Around that time Swine flu was spreading around the world and US was one of the major places where it was reported.

Sydney airport had thermal imaging to check for flu fevers (heat) installed so it was definitely very serious.

When my fever didn’t go down even after 2 days I went and saw the doctor and following conversation occurred.

Doctor: What’s wrong with you?

Me: I have flu, cough and high fever.

Doctor: From when you started feeling sick.

Me: It started from last 3 days but I have to tell you that I have just come back from USA. I am really scared that it might be Swine flu as I have all the symptoms.

Doctor: I will ignore what you said last because if I determine that it is Swine flu, I have to inform Department of Health. Then they will take you away for quarantine and you may be under their observation for months. So we will treat this as normal flu. Let’s see how we go.

I was really scared after hearing that from the doctor. I bought all the medicines he prescribed and went back home.

I still had high fever and was so tired that I was in bed for a whole week. First few days, I couldn’t do much so I was not using internet at all. But on the 4th day when I opened my laptop finally, I saw a friend request from AS in my Facebook. I couldn’t believe my eyes that he had also sent me an email. It was definitely something I was not expecting but felt good to read his email.

Here is the email.

Subject: Shree Ganesh

Hey M,

That was just a profile pic in Facebook to let people know that I’m still alive 🙂

Enjoy being back in Sydney and teaching to the poor poor students. I really pity them. I can distinctly imagine you standing with a stick in your hand, the specs on your eyes teaching those kids… 😀 ha ha ha

and I’m still waiting on the pictures from you…

Truly,

AS

Hindus normally pray to God Ganesh before starting something new. So it was a humours way of AS to have a subject as Shree Ganesh after he opened a Facebook account. He definitely made me laugh. And I was glad that he created a Facebook account so we could keep in touch more.

He had sent that email two days ago so I replied him straight away.

hey

here are the pics u r waiting for

We didn’t take many pics but still gud memories with few pics. Thanks you once again for your company. It was fun.

For now I am still adjusting my life here and fixing my new place. Bit sick for last few days.

anyway nice to see u active and social in fb and email

keep it up and take care

M

I went and checked his Facebook and it had one photo on it. It was a close up shot of him in dark blue t-shirt smiling at the camera.

After this exchange of emails, I didn’t hear from him for a couple of months (no surprise). I got better and thanked god it was not Swine flu. The job was hectic so was my social life which kept me busy. When I had free time, I went through my photos from US. It was nice to remember a great holiday I had in US.I selected a few and uploaded them in Facebook to share with my friends and family. I uploaded a few pictures I had with AS and tagged him. I hoped he checked his Facebook. He was MIA again. I never saw him online in Facebook or messenger and he never had any activities in his Facebook either.

The post is getting long so I will write more in the next post. Hope you will come back and read more 🙂

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Our Story : The Beginning – Part 1

Posted on March 12, 2013 | 26 comments

Life is funny isn’t it? You live your days as it comes, not caring about the world. Then suddenly one day you meet this person and you can’t imagine your life without him/her. People normally say, “The moment I laid my eyes on you, I knew you were for me”. I am sure this is how most of your story starts. But for me and AS it was a bit different.

I better start from our history to give you a clear picture.

I first met AS in high school. To be frank, I can’t remember the first time I saw him or talked to him. We had 52 students in the class and he was one of them. It took me a while to remember everyone’s name.

Over time, I started hanging out with a few friends all the time and he was in this group. We got to know each other slowly but always in a group. Our school used to organise hikes every few months. Most of us would go and so did me and AS. Also our group used to go to the library, restaurants and tuition as well spending lots of time together.

We rarely spent any time alone but I remember walking with him back form the library a few times. We went to each other’s houses as well along with other friends. I remember having lunch at his place once, which was cooked by his mum. At my place he now teases me that I served him under cooked Wai Wai (instant noodles) for lunch.

At that point of my life I was a tomboy; M who loved the company of boys more than girls. It’s not that I hated girls but I had only 4 female friends and I had many male friends. I liked him as a friend but never in a million years had I thought of him more than a friend.

There are few reasons why  it never crossed my mind that AS could be anything more than a friend. He was a nice guy who studied really hard and did well in class. He was always there when I needed some help and I used to like his smile. But he was a soft spoken shy guy which is the opposite of loud voiced me. I was extrovert and he was introvert to sum up the difference. But I really liked his smile. Years after school, if someone talked about him, I could still remember his smile.

So our high school ended and we went our different ways. I came to Australia for further studies and AS went to India for his engineering. We used to email each other may be twice a year and most likely that email would be initiated by me. I liked to keep in touch so I would email a few friends just to say hello. In most cases, he wouldn’t reply for more than 6 months. Then suddenly he would pop out of nowhere with a few line in an email. Then when I reply to that email, he would disappear again. I used to get really annoyed by his behaviour but I accepted him the way he was.

Every time I used to go to Nepal for vacation from Australia, I used to email my friends about my plans to check if any of them were coming to Nepal during the same that so we could catch up. In most occasions either AS will just have left Kathmandu when I got there or would arrive just few days after my departure from Kathmandu. So I didn’t meet him at all for a long time.

I am not sure if you remember Hi5 which was popular before Facebook. I had an account there and had invited all my friends to join me. Many of my friends did and to my surprise AS did as well. But even though he had an account; he never updated it so it was kind of useless.

Our life was going on as normal 1000 miles apart. I basically had no ideas what he was doing but he had some ideas as he later told me he used to check my Hi5 account from time to time.

After my graduation, I started traveling whenever I could. One of the trips I made was to the USA. When I decided to go on holiday to USA, I planned my holiday so I could meet as many friends as I possible there. By this time AS was in LA. So once I booked my flight, which was 6 months before the travel date, I emailed all my friends there telling them the dates of my flight. I asked them if they were free during my stay in USA so I could plan accordingly. Many friends emailed me back and I start making my plans according to that. But as you may have predicted, AS didn’t reply back. I was really annoyed as I considered him a good friend; it would have been good to catch up with him.

The day before my flight, I was checking my email and to my surprise, I saw one from him. Seriously, after more than 5 months, he was replying to me.

His email was something like this

“Hello,

Looks like I caught you right on time,

I am in LA these days and here is my number XXXXXXX. Please call me when you get here.

Have a safe flight.

AS”

I was really annoyed with the email as I could imagine his smiley face typing those words. Anyway I saved his number on my phone and waited for my holiday to start.

It was a long flight to the US but I was really excited as it was my first big trip. I had a friend picking me up in LA and I was staying with him and his aunt. He and his aunt had made many plans for me so when I landed in the US, I didn’t call AS straight away. There were so many things to do and see that the time flew so two days before I was to leave LA I called him to check if he had anytime to meet me before I flew out. We couldn’t work out a time that suited both of us so I flew to Baltimore without meeting him. From there I did my planned trips to Pennsylvania, Niagara Fall, Toronto, NY and Florida.

DC

DC

Niagara Falls

Niagara Falls

Disney world

Disney world

NYC Bull

NYC Bull

NYPD

NYPD

I didn’t have any hope of meeting AS because on my way back to Australia, I had only 12 hours in LA which I was planning to spend in the airport. I didn’t want to complicate things by by going out.

Around the end of my holiday, AS called me up and asked my schedule in LA on my way back. I told him my plan. I was a bit annoyed with him that he hadn’t met me. I told him if he really has time, he can come to the airport as I won’t be able to travel to where he is. I was half expecting him to say he was busy but he said he would come. I was glad to have some company during my stopover.

After having an awesome time with my friends and family, finally I landed in LA. While walking out from the terminal, I was thinking that I didn’t have a mobile phone so if AS didn’t show up (which was quite possible) as we had planned I would be alone for more than 12 hours in the airport. I had my laptop with me so I planned to surf the internet to kill time. I came out and went to collect my baggage. I saw my bags coming out and was about to take the bags from the carousel and those bags were super heavy. I had done so much shopping that I was having a hard time lifting my suitcase. Then there he was. YES, AS actually made it to the airport to meet me. And he was there helping me lift my bags onto a trolley.

The post is getting long so I will write more in next post. Hope you will come back and read more  🙂

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