Monthly Archives: April 2014

My Life Lesson No 2: Forgive, forget and move on

I know it is easier said than done but forgiving, forgetting and moving on definitely makes you a happier person.

Normally when an incident occurs and you are thinking over and over about it for days, who is suffering the most? YOU. No matter what pain the other person has caused, in most cases they might not be aware, they don’t care about you so they are hurting you or they just simply too ignorant to see you are hurt. No matter what the situation is most likely the other person who has caused you pain and grief has moved on in their life so why are you holding a grudge.

First of all, you are stressed out. OK I understand you are hurt but eventually you have to let go and move on with your life. Make a decision what you are going to do about the relation you have with that person. There are few choices

  • Never see them again if the pain is too much but forgive so you can move on.
  • Let them know that you are hurt but forgive them so you can continue the relationship
  • Do nothing and hope it will never happen again.

Whichever option you choose, it is in your best interest to make that decision sooner than later so your blood pressure is not high for long. When you experience hurt or harm from someone’s actions or words, whether this is intended or not, you may begin experiencing negative feelings such as anger, confusion or sadness, especially when it’s someone close to you.

These feelings may start out small. But if you don’t deal with them quickly, they can grow into something even bigger. They may even begin to crowd out positive feelings. Grudges filled with resentment, vengeance and hostility take root when you keep thinking about hurtful events or situations, replaying them in your mind over and over again.

As soon as you forgive you will realise that you have lower blood pressure, less stress and improved life.

I know it is hard and sometime I find it takes longer than I like to forgive but if there is someone in your life, you have trouble forgiving, work on it and soon you will find it easier to forgive them. Once you forgive, you will find that peace you have always wanted.

If you find it difficult to forgive, put yourself in the person’s shoes and remember that there are two sides to every story. You may feel like the victim, but you might have hurt the person, too. Also if you have long relationship with the person, think of all of the good things the person did for you which will help you in your judgment as well.

Once you cross the bridge of forgiveness, you will realise that it is easy to forget and move on with your life. They say, “Everything happens in life for a reason.” See if there’s a lesson that can be learned. May be you are trusting people too easily or maybe you are too gullible. Also If you accept that there’s a lesson to be learned, then you’ll be less likely to resent the person for hurting you.

Then use all the energy you have towards something positive. Write a blog post :), go for a run, plan your next holiday. Do whatever you want as it is limitless and at the end of the day you win, because you are happy again.

Take care everyone :),

M from nepaliaustralian

XOXO

Easter long weekend break

It sounds crazy but we, Aussies get excited about long weekends. It doesn’t happen often but every time when a long weekend is on the way, most of us have plans for it. One of them was last weekend for Easter.

Normally, I plan months in advance for the break but this time I was too tired to even think about it. Having come back from Nepal just a few weeks ago, I needed to rest but of course, it was not going to happen.

Hunter Valley (2)

My cousins are visiting from the US and they were planning a trip away so we did a last minute planning. We were lucky that we managed to get accommodation for seven adults and three kids. Of course, it was expensive but still we managed to plan the trip and left Friday morning for the Hunter Valley.

Hunter Valley

We had been to Hunter Valley multiple times before but we still enjoyed the Hunter Valley Gardens with the kids again and also the wine tasting. The kids were having a blast and we just loved it  🙂

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Nelson Bay and Toboggan Hill Park

Nelson bay is a big area and even though we had been there before, it was still a great place to be. We swam in One-mile beach and went for a walk in Nelson Bay wharf.

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We also went to Toboggan Hill Park, which is set amongst natural bush just off Salamander Way at Nelson Bay. We had so much fun with the kids tobogganing. The 1km track starts with an automatic uphill tow of 300 metres.

From the top station, we can control the speed of our toboggan as we commence the exhilarating descent.  The track winds down through 11 bends before we reach the bottom. With practice, speeds of up to 45 – 50km/hour are possible. All the little ones rode with their mum/dad and they enjoyed it a lot too.

Toobagan Hill

The Entrance

Surrounded by lagoons, lakes and beaches, The Entrance is a beautiful town. When we arrived in The Entrance, they were having markets and carnival for Easter. We just walked around and enjoyed the view.

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At 3.30 pm they had pelican feeding and that is what we wanted to observe. The pelican feeding in The Entrance Memorial Park is a highlight of the place. By 3:00 pm there were so many people gathered in the park. We also waited patiently as we knew the feed went ahead in all weather and is sponsored by local businesses.

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According to the official info, the pelican feeding started by accident over twenty years ago when staff from a local fish and chip shop would throw out scraps. It became such a ritual that whenever the staff were late in throwing their scraps out, the pelicans would cross the road and come up to the shop to be fed. The Pelicans start coming in group to the waterfront around 3.00, approaching the platform slowly and jump into the platform just before 3.30 pm when the staff are ready to feed them with the fish.

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It was a great to watch them as they eat the fish and go back to the water. It’s not all fun and games, though.  The volunteers use the daily contact to keep an eye on the welfare of the pelicans, which are prone to injury from plastic bags, fishing line and hooks.

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Hope all of you had great Easter too.

This week is very short week for us (Tuesday, Wednesday, Thursday) as from this Friday we are having Anzac long weekend so looking forward to another long weekend.

Take care, everyone.

M from nepaliaustralian

XOXO

Lapsi ko achar (Nepali hog plum pickle)

Every time we go to Nepal, my MIL makes sure that we have enough laspsi ko achar for our entire stay. This time while we were there, she made the second batch and I helped her. Sharing the recipe with all of you here.

lapsi

Normally, lapsi ko achar is a bit sweeter than I like so when we make it at home, we tend to use less sugar. Feel free to add more sugar if you like very sweet lapsi ko achar.

Ingredients

  • 1 kg Lapsi
  • ½ teaspoon cumin Seeds
  • 2 teaspoons chilli powder
  • 1 teaspoon turmeric powder
  • ½ teaspoon fenugreek seed
  • 2 teaspoons mustard oil
  • 1 cup sugar
  • Salt to taste
  • Some raisins
  • 1 cup Water

Method

  • In a pressure cooker, add lapsi and water enough to cover all the lapsi and cook for 5 to 8 whistle.
  • Take out the lapsi from the pressure cooker and check if it is cooked well and its skin comes off easily.

bolied lapsi

  • Peel off the skin and set aside. Put the rest of the laspi in a bowl.

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  • In a big pan, heat oil and add fenugreek seed until it is dark brown in colour.
  • Turn off the heat and add turmeric powder. Let it fry for a few seconds.
  • Now add all the lapsi to the pan.
  • Add sugar, chill, salt, mix well and cook on low heat.
  • Once the mixture become a bit thick, let it cool down.
  • Now add raisins and the achar is ready.
  • The lapsi ko achar can be eaten for several days. If it lasts that long 🙂

Lapsi ko achar

My Life Lesson No 1: Say what you are thinking

I was reading the title of this post again and again. I couldn’t believe I was going to write about life lessons but I guess I could now as I have some life experience. I definitely want to write about what I have learned in my not very long life and share it here hoping it might be helpful to someone.

Having a husband like AS, who can be your therapist and psychiatrist is a great plus point in life. He has always helped me a lot ,especially when I am in pain or in my weakness. There are lots of things he has taught me and one of the thing he has always encouraged me is to tell people what I feel and what is in my head.

I used to be a people person, trying hard to be friends, hard to be responsible in every relation I have like a daughter, sister, friend, cousin, SIL, DIL etc. However, most of the time, no one really saw my sacrifice to please them; actually in most case it went unnoticed. I didn’t even get a simple thank you instead I was taken for granted by the vary people who I was trying to please so hard.

The way I used to deal with it in the past was to just get sad and upset but never in front of the people who said or did something to get me upset. It used to make me feel down to the point I used to cry and make me doubt my every move. I even fought with AS when he tried his best to get me out of my emotion whirlpool.

It took hours and in some cases days to recover from those messes. On the other hand, the person who hurt me had no clue that I was upset let along care that they caused me pain.

So recently I adapted the rule “Say what you are thinking”.

Funny enough it worked so well for me because now I just let them know in kinder words that their action/word had hurt me. In most cases, they seemed to be surprise and say sorry. In others, they didn’t have a better come back so they just ignored it, but still getting my feeling out there was a big relief.

For me it was the best as I spent less time thinking about it as it is already resolved from my side and now I can use the same energy in something better and I am a happier person. I know it may not work every time but I am sticking to it as it has definitely lessen my pain and anguish.

Let me know if you agree with my views?

P.S. We are in Central coast for our easter break. Hope everyone is having a great Easter too. HAPPY EASTER !!!

Pau Kwa (Nepali hog plum – Choerospondias axillaris)

While I was in Nepal, my mum made pau (Pau Kwa – a hot and sour drink) for me. I forgot to take photos of every step but here is easy recipe that she followed.

lapsi

Unfortunately, I can’t make it here as I can’t find lapsi here but if you want to try it, please follow these steps.

Ingredients:

  • ½ kg lapsi
  • 1 tea spoon fenugreek seed
  • 2 teaspoons black salt (Birae Nun)
  • 2 teaspoons chili powder
  • 3 teaspoons vegetable oil
  • Chopped coriander to garnish
  • Salt to taste
  • Water

 Procedure

  • In a pressure cooker, add lapsi and water enough to cover all the lapsi and cook until 5 – 8 whistles.
  • Take out lapsi from the pressure cooker and check if the lapsi cooked well and its skin comes off easily.

bolied lapsi

  • Take out the skin and seed and mash the remaining lapsi pulp (pau) with 2 cups of water . Use hand or whisker to mix the pau so you get the right thickness. Add water until you get the thickness you like. I normally like mine thin, like the consistency of orange juice.
  • Add black salt, salt, and chilli powder and mix well.
  • In a pan, heat the oil.
  • Now add the fenugreek seed and fry it until it turns dark brown.
  • Add this to the pau.
  • Garnish with chopped coriander and pau kwa is ready.

paau