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My little helper

Posted on March 24, 2016 | 3 comments

Chhori started walking independently a couple of weeks ago. It only took her a few days to go from a few steps to nearly running now. We love to watch her walk as it is so cute.

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The fun part these days is when I return home from work. When she sees me entering the door, she leaves whatever she is doing and comes running towards me saying “Hi” and hugs me. I love these moments even though they happen every day.

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Since she started crawling, we taught her to get stuff and give it to us. When she does we say “Good girl” and pat her head. It is fun to play with her like that and now that she has started walking it is even more fun as she happily goes and bring stuffs and once she puts that on our hand, she pats herself on the head doing the “Good girl” action.

The other day I was in the balcony putting the clothes on the line to dry. She came outside and started passing me the clothes from the bucket. I couldn’t feel more happier. She has started to become my little helper.

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Long before I had kids, I used to think one day I will have kids and they will help me in the kitchen doing baking or cooking or any other house chores and now it has started. I know most kids hate to do chores when they grow up but I will enjoy these moments for as long as they last :). I hope we can raise her so that she will enjoy the chores and accept it as part of her life. If nothing works, I plan to bribe her but these days she just does it happily.

Hope she will stay like this forever as I am enjoying every minute of being a mum to such a cutie pie.

Do your kids help you out around the house? Do you give them something in return? Is there a trick to getting them to help you?

Take care everyone,

M from nepaliaustralian

XOXO

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Is it OK for adults to wear children’s clothes?

Posted on February 26, 2016 | 10 comments

I am sure I am not alone in the boat where you admire kids’ clothes and you want to wear them.

When I first came to Australia, I was really skinny so when shopping adult clothes, they didn’t fit me. It was a really disappointing experience but then went to the kids cloth store and bought dresses in large sizes. Believe me if I don’t tell anyone about it, no one will know that it is kids’ clothes.

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Mind you, if you go to the larger sizes for kids, they are the same size as small in adult clothing which is what I wear so I see no problem. Not all the styles are adult appropriate but there are heaps you could get away with.

These days, Sydney has got lots of brands and they make size 6 clothes for most brands which fits me and I am very happy about it.

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Anyway, after coming back to work from maternity leave, I felt like I needed to buy a few dresses so I started to look around. Funnily enough I found a few girls’ dresses so pretty and they were perfect as work cloth. I tried a few of them and I couldn’t let go so I bought them. I haven’t worn them to work yet but I am planning to. I guess I should keep my mouth shut and not tell anyone that they are kids’ clothing but I think it should be acceptable to wear them as long as it look good on me .

The dresses are high neck and knee length which is perfect for work. I prefer the colours and these materials are nice too.

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I am thinking, in a few years Chhori and I can go shopping to the same store, won’t it be cool! :).

What do you think about it? Have you ever worn children’s clothes? Should I keep my mouth shut? 🙂

Take care everyone,

M from nepaliaustralian

XOXO

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White skin and blonde hair

Posted on September 23, 2015 | 32 comments

As I am 0n maternity leave these days, I try to fill my days visiting friends and family. Chhori loves it when we go out and meet people. It keeps her happy and makes my days pass quicker.

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On one of these visits, I decided to visit one of my friends as I hadn’t seen her for a while. She and her husband are both from Nepal and have two daughters, 4 years and 2 years so it was a perfect play time for Chhori. We planned to catch up at her place so I drove there with Chhori.

I was having a great day with the girls as they were excited to play with Chhori and they had a million questions about her, which was too cute. I was seeing Chhori’s future in them. Both the girls were happy to share their toys and food with Chhori.

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As it was afternoon, the younger of the girls was sleepy so my friend took her inside for nap. I was left with her 4 years old and Chhori and we were playing and talking when the following conversation stopped my heart for a while. Let me call the 4 year old Maiya for this post.

Me: “I love your long hair, so pretty, who braided it?” (I was just trying to make small talk)

Maiya: “I don’t like my black hair and I don’t like my skin either. I love Rosie and she is my best friend because she has white skin and blonde hair.”

Thinking it was just a conversation, I continued,

Me: “I actually like your skin, so soft and nice and also like your hair too as it is black and long like mine, your mums and Chhori’s too. Look at us we all look so similar because of our black hair.”

Maiya: “No aunty, blonde hair and white skin are beautiful and I am going to have them too. I want to be a beautiful princess.“

Me: “You are already beautiful my darling and you are a princess.“

Maiya: “But all my favourite princesses have blonde hair and white skin. Also all my favourite people in the world have them too like Rosie, S aunty (her mum’s SIL who is Swedish).”

I really had no reply her comments because she seemed to have them deeply carved in her mind. We live in Sydney where there are lots of white folks with blonde hair, we give her toys with similar features and she also watches cartoons and reads book where most of the time beautiful princess are white with blonde hair.

Later I spoke to my friend and she said that is her normal conversation. Maiya loves white skin so much that she asks her mum every day when she will be white like Rosie. She is not even dark, she is fair with big beautiful eyes and long black hair. But for her, beauty is not in black hair or brown skin.

I am sure I will be facing similar situations once Chhori grows up and I don’t know how to deal with it. I am sure all of you out there have faced similar situations with your own kids, please share how you deal with it. At times I am scared of the future when we have to deal with so many questions from Chhori and we will be lost for answers.

Thanks everyone in advance and see you soon with another post.

Take care,
M from nepaliaustralian
XOXO

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Rush to Emergency

Posted on June 22, 2015 | 29 comments

I had read somewhere that bad moments don’t make bad mammas but now I have my doubts.

As a new mum, I doubt myself lots of times; I am not sure whether I am the doing right things; whether I am taking care of my baby properly, whether my way of feeding is correct, whether I am changing her correctly and similarly there are many more doubts in my head when I am looking after my daughter. I worry that what I am doing will affect her later in her life.

Most of the time when Chhori smiles or holds onto me it makes me feel great and I forget about all the doubts. But then something happens that breaks that momentary illusion and make me again thing that I’m not as good a mum as I should be and that is one of the worst feelings to have.

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A few weeks ago, I was home with my mum as usual. We were in our living room, mum was watching a movie and I was checking something on the laptop and Chhori was just lying on the ottoman. This was typical of my afternoons. The ottoman was next to me and from time to time I was talking to and playing with Chhori.

Then suddenly from the corner of my eyes I saw Chhori sliding off the ottoman and she fell on the carpeted floor even as I rushed to pick her up. It felt as if my heart leapt out of my body at that moment. The next second she started crying loudly like never before.

That was the first time Chhori rolled onto her side and we were not expecting it at all. I didn’t know what to do. I just tried to console her and checked her to make sure she was not hurt. I was almost crying myself and my mum was trying to help me calm Chhori down.

To make sure that she calmed down I fed her for a few minutes until she stopped crying. After that my mum took Chhori from me and felt her head, hands, legs to see if Chhori would cry when any specific part of the body was felt. Thankfully Chhori did not cry and we hoped that nothing was injured  In that mean time I called our local GP to take her there but as it was Friday and our normal GP was fully booked and suggested I take the baby to emergency instead.

I called AS and told him what happened. I assured him that there was no injury so he wouldn’t freak out.  But I still asked him to meet me at the hospital just in case.

My mother and I took Chhori to the emergency and waited for the doctor. By then Chhori was already her normal self, smiling and looking about with interest. I was kind of sure she was alright but still wanted to be 100% sure.

After a few minutes wait, it was our turn. The doctor did some normal check and told us that she was OK. He also told me that it is normal for kids to fall and they have many cases like that every day. He assured me that I am a good mum and accidents do happen sometimes so not to feel as if I let Chhori down.

He still wanted us to remain at the hospital for 4 hours for observation. He wanted to make sure that there was no brain injury from the fall. It was the longest 4 hours of my life as I was worried. I was praying that everything was OK with Chhori. She looked happy and was playing with her daddy and grandma.

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Finally the 4 hours were over and Chhori was officially fine. She got the all clear from the doctor. We were all so relieved.

It was one of the scariest experiences I have had after having Chhori. I hope not to have to visit the emergency department ever with Chhori.

I am sure I am not the only mum who has been in such situations so please share your story and make me feel a bit better.

Hope you had a great weekend and take care, everyone.

 M from nepaliaustralian

XOXO

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What next?

Posted on January 13, 2014 | 19 comments

I and hubby were talking about life in general. I am glad that we were both in similar space in our life right now. We said we both are happy with our life and where we are in life right now. We both are doing what we planned with our life.

10 years ago both of us had one goal, which was to finish our study and get a job. Then we had aim and we both worked toward that and it was a great when we finally reached there. Then it was a phase where we looked for a partner and with god’s blessing found each other. At that phase as well we had an aim and goal and we were working towards it. We reached the goal, got married and now are living happily together.

Last few years have been great together trying to fulfill our dreams like traveling the world and buying our dream home. Traveling will never be done for us as I still want to see Africa, South America and heaps of countries that are still on our list but still we are happy the way we have traveled so much. The house is here to stay so no more thinking about it now. We are mortgage owners now and hope one day soon we will be home owners as well but we can’t do a lot about it right now.

That made us think – “What next?” Life has been kind of same with job and home lately. Every time we talk about this with anyone, the only answer seems to be a BABY. As we were talking we also realised that it does seem to be the logical answer to our question. To have little people in our life who will be a part of us.

As I have mentioned many times before I love babies and my cute nephew is 18 months now and is as cute as ever but still I have doubts about myself if I can handle a child.

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I know when I have a baby, the baby will be a part of us and naturally I will love him/ her will all my hearts. But when do you really decided if you are going to have a baby. Is it normal to have a phase in every couple’s life where having a baby seems like the natural next step in life. Is it normal to have so many questions regarding the baby before even planning it?

To all of you with a child, I would love to know what made you decide to have a baby when you had yours.

For me, it seems like a scary decision to bring another human being into this world when you are so confused about it. I know almost all my friends have a baby now and they seemed to love it. Everyone I see has this motherly gene in them and they seem so natural with kids. Will I be the same or will I struggle?

As you guys know, both our parents are very far from us in Kathmandu, Nepal. They both will do their best to be with us when we have baby but for some reason, if they are not here, will that be very hard to manage on our own? I have heard so many mums going into depression when they are left alone with the baby for long, how to avoid it?

I know for some people these questions might look silly but definitely I want answers to this question before AS and I sit down to talk about our baby plan. Any suggestions will be surely of great help.

Thanks everyone.

M from nepaliaustralian

XOXO

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