A saying as goes “You can’t please everyone” and I know that but there are times when you have to make a decision to please other people or do what you like. The way I think is if I can make a small sacrifice and make someone happy, I don’t mind but when there are big things then I really have to think about it.
There are so many times in our life when we have to choose who to please and make happy. Normally within the family, I choose to please them like AS, my parents, my brother or my in-law. They are my priority in life so if I need to make a small sacrifice, I think it is worth it. With my parents and in laws, we are so far away that I don’t want to do anything that will make them upset. Both of our parents are open-minded so I didn’t have to do a lot till date to please them but still there are times when I make small sacrifices to see a smile on their face.
When it comes to friends, pleasing them and sacrifices comes in different forms. If he/she is a good friend and the person has been there for you I am happy to sacrifice do stuffs when in need but if he/she is not a very good friend, I make my decision according to the situation. In some situations, I do what they expect me to while others I don’t.
But sometimes when I think about life we spend so much time and energy pleasing people around us. When we are small we try to please our parents and try to do everything they expect, when we grow up we do that for teachers, friends then boyfriends, then husband and in laws and finally your children.
Is it the normal way of life or I am thinking too much. As I get older and with company of AS, I am getting much better not stressing in situations which I can’t control but still there are times when I worry about others, wondering if I could help in any way.
Is it normal to make changes in your plan just to please others? Is it normal to feel guilty when you don’t do what is expected from you? At what stage should we stop thinking about others and make ME a priority?
How do you deal with situations when you have to make a decision to please others? Please share.
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