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2013 in retrospect

I meant to do this post a bit earlier but suddenly realised that it is the second week of January now. Indeed, time flies. In the blink of an eye, the curtain comes down on the year 2013 and 2014 is already here. So It is now time to look back and reflect on the year 2013.

I am always amazed when I look back a year in my life, sometimes it seemed to go so slow and others seemed too fast.

I started 2013 with my family in Kathmandu and it was a great start of my year. It was so much fun in Nepal spending time with my parents, in laws and traveling the country.

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For the first time in my life, I did paragliding and loved it. I will do it again if I get a chance. The whole January was just awesome with the celebration of my nephew’s pasni. That reminds me; he is one and half years now. It seems like just yesterday when I announced in this blog about his arrival.

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Coming back to Sydney after an amazing time in Kathmandu was hard but then I really do love living in Sydney. It is such an amazing place and with AS beside me, life has been great.

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I started writing about Our Story and I promise I will continue about it soon. Thank you so much for all the comments and support from all of you. If you haven’t read it, please click here.

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I had an awesome time going around Australia from Forster, Coffs Harbour, Nelson Bay and Port Stephens to Ulladulla and Batesman Bay. Holidays are always fun and anywhere in Australia, we have so many nice beaches that it makes it even better.

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In 2013, I got to see one of my all-time favorite singers Bryan Adams in concert and it was one of the greatest feeling I have had. I just love all his songs and him too.

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I also got lucky this year and got a chance to wear a dress designed by my favourite designer Prabal Gurung. Even though it was not from the expensive line he does, I got to wear something which he had designed and took time to create. I hope in the coming years, I will be wearing one of his expensive collections too.

Prabal Gurung Dresses

My blog was nominated for the Best Australian Blog 2013 People’s Choice award and it was a great honor. Even though I didn’t win, I was happy to have the honor to be nominated.

I discovered the Game of Thrones series (thank god for internet) this year and I am eagerly waiting for season 4 to come out. If you haven’t already watched it, please do so and I guarantee you, you will be hooked like me.

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Unfortunately, I had my car accident in May but I am glad that it was just the car which was damaged; I am fit, fine, and perfectly normal and I thank god for that every day.

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We celebrated our second wedding anniversary this year and seems like life is going to be awesome with my dear hubby who I love so much. I still feel like I got married just yesterday, is it normal?

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The biggest achievements for us in 2013 is definitely buying our own place and calling it our home; which we achieved with hard work. I am very happy that even so far away from Nepal we managed to do all the puja and rituals and make our home a safe place to live in. I am over the moon that I got my own walk in wardrobe and it is still the heart of the house for me. The wardrobe has been updated from the last post and it looks great.

walk in robe

I also started a Guest post for my blog and thank you everyone who contributed. I will be very happy to post your work so if you are interested please click here so my readers can read your experience and opinions.

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I also I tried and tested lots of recipes last year and you can always click here to get some inspiration if you are running out of dinner ideas for tonight.

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I am also more into healthy food and exercise and hope I can continue this throughout winter this year to make sure I keep fit.

with my dashing hubby

with my dashing hubby

If you haven’t heard enough of my hubby yet, please click here to read more about his witty sense of humour and mischievous behaviours.

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Our Dashain and Tihar were great as every year and please read more about Nepali festivals here.

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On top of writing for +977 magazine, I started to write for Dreams online magazine and you can read all of my published articles here.

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The end of year was crazy busy for us but it was all worth it when AS surprised me with a great gift for my birthday. Thank you baby!

I have to say cruising is one of the best ways to holiday and I will definitely do that any day again. It was a great pleasure to discover New Caledonia this way. How often can you say that you celebrated your hubby’s birthday or Christmas in the middle of Pacific Ocean?

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Of course, I started NEPALIAUSTRALIAN’s Blog Award and I am so glad that so many people supported it. Once again a big congratulation to all the winners and I plan to do that for 2014 as well.

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Looking back, it was one hell of a year and I am ready and pumped to welcome 2014 with big a smile. Yes bring in 2014. I am going to make this a better and more memorable year and wish all the best to all of you for 2014 as well.

Thank you each of you for making my life better.Hope to have your company in 2014 as well.

Take care everyone,

M from nepaliaustralian

XOXO

Never drink and drive!!!

A while ago, my brother shared this cute picture of my nephew and I just loved it so sharing with you all.

my nephew

Our cutie is 16 months old now 🙂

Superstition and my belief

Superstition is a pejorative term for belief in supernatural causality: that one event leads to the cause of another without any natural process linking the two events, such as astrology, religion, omens, witchcraft, etc., that contradicts natural science.

I am not highly superstitious but out of habit I am sure I do somethings that can be classified as superstitious like crossing my fingers for good luck or knocking on wood .

I know science is the key to the modern world but the fact remains that one can’t be free from superstitions. At times, even not believing in superstition could be based on superstition. I have talked about superstitions like Friday the 13th before in my post and we from time to time hear some weird superstition people believe in but today I would like to talk about the extremes people go to believing in these superstitions, that it is not healthy or logical to follow them.

In today’s scientific world, it is necessary that we do not blindly follow all the superstitions that were handed down to us by our ancestors. We are modern, both in our outlook and the age we are in. Therefore we should have a judicious look for some logical reason behind every superstition before accepting it. In Nepal there are many superstitions, which I believe had logic behind them in olden days.

No umbrellas inside

If you open, an umbrella inside you could poke someone’s eye out. If the umbrella is wet, then you are making mess inside.

Don’t sweep the house after sun set

It is logical as well as in olden days, they don’t have electricity so sweeping the house after sunset, you may not see the valuables on the floor and you may throw them out.

Women with period can’t do housework

In olden days, they didn’t have sanitary pads so women with period were considered dirty. Also women’s body is considerably weak during these time so it makes sense for them not to do too many things around the house due to hygienic reasons as well as so they can rest.

But there are many superstitions I don’t believe in like Bird Droppings on Your Head will bring you a good luck. No way, it will ruin my hair and I need a shower and that can’t be good luck in any form. A cat crossing one’s path will bring bad luck. In Sydney, many people have cats as pets that there will be some cats crossing your road every now and then so we can’t avoid it

There are many other Nepalese superstition that I don’t find logic in like:

  • The sound of a crow near the surroundings or on somebody’s home forecasts the arriving of guests.
  • A dog wailing nearby a sick person’s region forecasts his death or poor fate.
  • There are a lot of beliefs related with beginning a travel. Sneezing or words of dissuasion suchlike “stop, do not go”, or “Why are you going? or “You shouldn’t go” used by chance by somebody at this important time are ominous things and a person should begin later if this befalls.
  • Every day living is also regulated by do’s and don’ts for different days in a week.
    • Monday – shouldn’t buy new clothes
    • Tuesday – if you’re going out of town on Tuesday, you shouldn’t come back on Saturday
    • Wednesday – you shouldn’t buy cooking oil
    • Thursday – if you are a woman who’s not a widow, you shouldn’t wash your hair
    • Friday – you shouldn’t eat meat
    • Saturday – if you went out of town on Tuesday, you shouldn’t come back on Saturday
    • Sunday – if you leave the house together as a trio, you shouldn’t be going your separate ways to separate places
    • Any day – if you are going on a travel, do not clean, shower, do the laundry, or take stuff out to not bring it back
  • Whenever there is itchiness in the palm of the right hand, it signifies luck and coming of money and the inverse holds for the left hand. This refers simply to the clean (right) and dirty (left) portions of the body.
  • Ironically, quivering of the right eye lid is believed to be unfortunate and the blinking of the left eyelid is considered to be fortunate.
  • If you have a bad dream, don’t mention it to anyone. Instead, when you go to the restroom, say whatever you saw in the dream out loud and it will be flushed off too.
  • Seeing your teeth falling in your dreams is a bad omen.
  • If you see someone dying in your dreams, that person will have a long life.
  • If you give someone a handkerchief, you will be separated from that person.
  • Ladies with small feet are thought to bring good luck wherever they go. (‘Lachhin’)
  • If you see slippers or shoes turned upside down, it’s bad luck so you should right it immediately.
  • If a crow crows near your window, you will hear bad news soon.
  • Don’t play with fire or you’ll urinate in bed while sleeping.
  • If you touch your neck with your fingers, you have to blow a puff of air on your fingers or else you’ll get a throat disease.
  • If you unknowingly wear your clothes inside out, it brings good luck.
  • Don’t lick cooking and serving spoons otherwise it will rain during your wedding. Either I or AS must have done it as it rained heavily during our wedding 🙂

I think people should believe in some logical superstition but as the times change, we should change as well like Don’t sweep the house after sun set would not be logical now as we have electricity. I am talking about all this because I know many educated people around me who follow this superstition and I wonder what they are thinking. Here are some examples.

  • Someone I know broke up a relationship because a priest told him that if he marries that girl (his girlfriend of 3 years), he will die soon.
  • Someone I know didn’t apply for a job for 2 weeks because a priest gave he a date and time to start applying for jobs. For me, it sounds so stupid because the later he applies the later he will get response and it will delay the whole process.
  • Someone I know always asks the priest for auspicious time to do everything that he even asked him what time he should leave home to go to the airport to board an international flight. The priest gave him the time that was only 2 hours before his flight. Normally, it is a bit late because if you are caught in traffic, say goodbye to the flight but this person still followed the instruction.
  • Someone I know didn’t buy his dream home just because the door was not facing the direction the priest had told him it should.
  • I know someone who eats yogurt (believed to be auspicious) before starting any good things like going for job interview or going for exam. My question is if I don’t study for any exam and I just eat yogurt before the exam then will I pass?
  • I know someone who never directly gives a knife or raw chilli to a person’s hand. She believes that it will bring bad luck in their relationship.

I personally believe that some of the superstitions are important and necessary but a majority of them are unwanted and are based on useless stuffs. One can believe and practice superstitions but excess of anything is harmful.

Do you believe in any superstition? Please share your experience.

P.S: Do not forget to nominate  your favorite blog .

Nominations open for NEPALIAUSTRALIAN’s Blog Award 2013

Have you ever hidden something so well that you couldn’t find it later?

A friend of mine was complaining that he hid some cash a few week s ago in his house and now he can’t remember where he hid it. He thought carrying around lots of money was unsafe so he decided to hide what he was carrying and now he has lost $500.

I am sure he will find it one day but it has been 3 weeks. More than once I have hidden something carefully and I cannot for the life of me recall where I put it. Normally it will be something valuable like a piece of jewellery or camera or something similar.

The other day a button from my jacket came out. It was a unique button so I decided to keep it safe as I knew that if I lose it, I may not find another one like it. Yesterday, I wanted to fix the button but I can’t remember where I put it. I looked everywhere I could think of but I hid it so well that I can’t find it.

Normally if we are going away for a holiday, I think I should hide my valuables in weird places so no one will look for it even if we are broken into. I do that happily thinking I am so careful. Then we go on holiday, have a good time and come back home.

Then one day, my husband will need some of the things I have hidden.  He will come and ask me where I have put that and I have to think so hard and look at least 10 different places to locate item. Thank god, I found all of them eventually but you have to see his reaction in the meantime :).

I also realise that things seem to appear in the same spot where I have already looked. This happens to me so often. Normally I find things in a drawer/ cupboard I had looked in probably 50 times.

These days for valuable stuffs, I tell AS where I have hidden it so if I forget, he will remember. But it has happened that both of us have forgotten and we have to search for it for quite a while before we find it.

Have you ever hidden something so well that you couldn’t find it again? Do share your story here.

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What Makes You Beautiful?

I was at my brother’s place and they have Foxtel which also have lots of Indian channels. According to Indian channels only “Fair is beautiful”. In a half hour of watching the TV, I saw more than a dozen fairness cream ads not only for the face but for the body as well and it is not limited to woman alone. They have special fair and handsome cream for men as well.

I do remember watching some of these ads while in Nepal and it seems like they don’t consider anyone with brown or black skin beautiful.

According to an article by Shantanu Guha Ray, sales are outstripping both Coca Cola and tea. Products with names like ‘Fair and Lovely’ and ‘White Perfect’ are selling by the millions, and men are increasingly getting involved. Only fair is beautiful in India. In a society obsessed with ‘white skin’, fairness is a benchmark for beauty, particularly in the case of women.

Look at some of the ads below and you will understand what I mean.

And it’s not just India, in Nepal as well as other Asian country have similar concept and fair skin is consider beautiful.

Most Nepali people consider lighter brown skin more attractive. If you’re a young Nepali girl running around outside you usually have an aunt, grandmother or an older family friend yelling at you to get inside “before you get too dark.” And if you do tan somebody is going to make a comment about it and note: it’s never positive.

Some ads from around Asia for whitening cream and lotions.

While talking about skin, one of my Chinese friends told me that the Chinese are obsessed with white skin as well. She said that skin colour is directly connected to class in China.

If your skin is dark it is like you work in the fields and working in the fields means you are poor. So a woman should always have fair skin otherwise people will think you’re a peasant

I am brown skinned and I have somewhat felt uncomfortable about my skin while I used to live in Nepal; especially when someone commented on it or compared me with my fairer cousins.

But it all changed when I came to Australia. Here everyone loves my brown skin. I get so many compliments on my brown skin that I am happy to be brown. It seems ironic given that many fair-skinned Americans and Europeans use tanning salons and fake tan cream to darken their skin; it’s a whole different world.

When I went to Nepal for my wedding, I received many suggestions from relatives to bleach the skin to look beautiful as a bride but I refused. I am comfortable in my skin and I don’t want to use chemicals on my skin.

I am happy with who I am and beauty is not just what you can see. I believe that you are truly beautiful if you are beautiful inside as well as outside.

There are many people like Waris Dirie, Naomi Campbell, Halle Berry, Gisele Bundchen who don’t have fair skin but are very beautiful.

So for the people from Nepal, India and China and other Asian countries where fair is beautiful, are the people I just mentioned considered not beautiful?

So why are people so concerned about their skin colour? Have your say.

Take care everyone and have a great weekend,

M from nepaliaustralia

XOXO

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