What better way to wake up in the morning than this. Breakfast in bed. Thank you my darling for everything and esp for roses. :-). Love you so much…
The title says it all. I have a brother but I always wanted a sister as well. I wish I had one even more for the last few years.
As I grew older, I always loved my brother and never thought not having a sister as any disadvantage at all. But for the last few years, I realised that a sister can be your best friend that you can have no matter what happens in life.
Most of the times friends come and go but if I had a sister I would have had her for my life time.
One of the reasons that triggered this thought was because everyone around me had a sister. All my cousins have their own sister and I can see that they are closer now than when they were kids. They share their happiness and sorrow and they know they have this one person in life they can rely on no matter what. I wish I had the same as well.
I felt the pain even more when I went to Nepal to get married. One of my cousins got married before me. She had her sister’s help in every step of her plan till the day she got married. She was her shopping partner and planning partner. They went everywhere together and were always there when she needed a hand. It was so great to see that she was never too stressed as she knew that there was someone she could count on.
After four months of her wedding I went to Nepal to get married. Unfortunately for me as I have no sister, I ended up doing everything for the wedding on my own. And you know from my posts that Nepalese wedding is not a small affair. I didn’t want to bother my parents so I used to be out of the house everyday doing one thing or another. It is not easy in Nepal like it is here. You can’t do things online or over the phone so you have to meet people for every little thing. That time I so wished I had a sister so I would have gotten some help.
I had a few friends who helped me but I couldn’t expect them to take time off from their work to be with me. If I’d had a sister I am sure she would have done that. Thank god everything went as planned and I am really happy that my parents are so happy with me as well.
After a year of my wedding another of my cousins got married. She lives in US but got married in Nepal. Lucky for her, she has a sister as well so everything was perfectly done when she came to Nepal for wedding. She just came a day before the first day of her wedding and everything was all set.
I guess some people are just plain lucky that they get everything in their life so easily while others have to work hard to get anything in life.
I am not even sure what I want to convey with this post but sometimes when I am alone and have a moment for myself, I wonder and think if I had my own sisters like others do, would my life have been better in some aspect.
I have to be thankful that my life is perfectly fine. I am healthy with loving parents and husband. My work is going fine and I am achieving lot of my dreams. But then there are some areas of life that I feel lack something. I feel like I just want to rant sometimes and today it ended up as a blog.
Tagged home, love, relationships, sisterly love, sisters, Wedding
You know how I was telling about me being accident prone in my last post and worried that things might get worse. So, I was extra careful all these days taking advice from all of you (Thanks everyone BTW). But then I can’t help it when someone else makes a mistake.
Yesterday, I was booked to get a massage at 6.00pm. So I left home at 4.30pm as I had to go through peak hour traffic. The time to travel to this place is normally 40 to 45 minutes from home but I thought I better leave early just in case. And unfortunately, the traffic was so bad that it was 5.25pm and I was still on the highway. I was going so slow like 10km/hr that my GPS asked me twice if I want to switched to pedestrian mode. I was just hoping that I would be able to make it on time. I was looking at so many cars in front of me and hundreds behind me as well. There was no escape. As I was scanning the road and crawling through the traffic I looked at my rear view mirror. I saw the driver behind me and he was talking to someone in another car on the next lane while his car was still rolling. I knew even before he hit me that he was going to hit me but I couldn’t do anything. There was hardly any room in front of me to move. I felt so helpless. Then I just heard a BANG.
For a few second I was just shocked and I couldn’t do anything. My hands were shaking. I haven’t had an accident for a long time (touch wood). The only one I was in was a while back and I had to write off my car then.
For a while I was in a confused state but then I gained my composure, took my mobile and went out to see the damage. It was a bit dark already and the other driver was still in his car. I am not too sure what he was expecting or maybe he was in shock as well.
I was so proud of myself when I realised that I needed to take the photo of the other car and its rego if he decided to do a runner (the traffic was so bad even he wanted to, he couldn’t but I have heard about it so many times that I need to be smart). So I took the photo of the registration of the car first (thanks to smart phones these days). Also on the back of my mind I knew I was running late for my appointment for the massage which I might I have to cancel. Anyway I started assessing the damage on my car and to my surprise I couldn’t see even a scratch. It was a bit dark so I was not sure what to do and we were on the middle lane in the highway. We were holding up the already crawling traffic.
Finally the other driver came out of his car. He checked what had happened and apologised blaming the other driver who was distracting him for the accident. He was relieved that there was no damage.
Just to be safe in case I wasn’t seeing anything due to darkness, I asked if I can have his licence number or phone number. He was a bit hesitant. I told him I would not call him if things are ok but I just wanted to be sure nothing falls off while I drive home. He said, “You can see nothing has happened” and tried not to provide his details. I told him I won’t contact him if there was no problems. I am sure he thought I was such a pain in the a** for asking his details when clearly he could see that no damage was done. I just wanted to be safe than sorry later so didn’t really care that he was annoyed. Anyway I pushed him harder and said I can wait for the cops to come or he can give me his details and we can go our own ways. So finally he gave me his mobile number.
While I was typing his number on my phone I decided to call the number right then to make sure he had given me the right number. I was glad when his phone started ringing. Finally we both got back to our car and were on our way. I am so glad there was so much traffic that we were literally crawling on the highway that even though the car hit mine, I was fine and so was my car.
I checked my car again in day light today and nothing was damaged . I am so glad that I don’t have to chase anyone up to fix my car. Also I made the appointment for my massage. I was in front of the shop by 6.05pm where my hubby was waiting for me. It was so great to get the massage after the whole ordeal and my 14km run on Sunday. I am just happy that it turned out to be an incident only, not an ACCIDENT. I thank God for looking after me.
Posted in Personal
Tagged car accident in sydney, cars, rear view mirror, transportation
As my Facebook is filled with pictures of babies and functions related to them right now, while Skyping with my MIL yesterday, we ended up talking about babies as well. She was telling us that I and my husband are in the golden time of our life as we don’t have a baby yet so we can plan what we want. We are in the stage of our life where we don’t have family responsibilities so we should enjoy as much as we can now. Once a baby comes into the picture then we will need to plan our life around the baby. She was very supportive of our decision to go on holiday and enjoy our life. She is really understanding and practical.
Anyway during the conversation she asked if we have heard a sorry about an author of an epic. We hadn’t so she told us the story and I am sharing it with all of you.
The story begins like this.
There was a girl who was bought up by her parents in a way that she never felt she was a girl. She used do everything she loved and hung out mostly with male friends. There was no stopping her in life as she was involved in many sports and was very out going. She dressed like a boy and loved doing all the crazy things in life, she was enjoying life in full speed. As she grew up, she did well in school and college as well. She had a big social circle and she made many friends. She was active in charities as well as her social scene.
One day she fell in love with a man. After going out for some years, they decided to get married. As she was not used to cooking and cleaning, they decided to hire a maid so she could continue her life as before. Now she had her husband on her side to support her but she was still living her life as she wanted. She felt that her life was perfect and she was the happiest person in this world.
(While she was telling me this, for a moment I thought she was telling me a part of my life story in some way.)
Then one day she got pregnant. She was well and fine in the beginning but as her tummy grew bigger, she couldn’t go out as often so she was socialising less and less. One day one of her friends called her and asked “What’s going on with your life, where are you nowadays, I don’t see you at any charity functions or any parties? You seem to have dropped off the end of the world!”. She replied, ”I am busy writing an Epic so I haven’t been able to go anywhere”. Then her friend asked her what is that about. So she replied, “I am making a baby into a man and that is the biggest epic in the world.’
I too believe this. I salute every mum in this world who goes through so much to be able to have a baby and makes sure every thing is provided for them so that they grow to be capable individuals. Definitely, motherhood is one of the most fantastic journeys whose experience is beyond comparison but it is also one of the toughest ones. Mothers do sacrifice a lot to make sure their kids are happy, healthy and thriving in life.
My biggest thanks to my mum who made so many sacrifices in her life to make sure I got the good things in life. Missing her so much. Also a big thanks to my MIL for being so great and understanding,
Hope all the mums out there had the best Mother’s day yesterday. Please do share your Mother’s day story.
Posted in Personal, Social Issue
Tagged golden time, loving mum, missing mum, Mother's Day, motherhood, mum is the world, time of our life
I know that I am talking about a touchy subject, weight. But I need to talk about it. Just letting you know that I am sharing my personal experience and you may not agree with it.
As you all know, I got married in June 2011 (God, it has been 10 months already), and I realise that I have put on some weight. I really watch what I eat and exercise regularly but this weight gain has shocked me. I keep telling my husband about it but he keeps on telling me that a few kilo is nothing and I look good anyway. But for me, every time I step on the scales, I get disappointed when I see that I have put on weight.
The funny thing is I am saying NO to all the junk food while AS is enjoying chocolate biscuits and other indulgence. We go to the gym together and he still manages to lose weight easily and I don’t. Some days it makes me so frustrated. I do know that women’s metabolism is lower than men’s but I am not eating as much as him anyway.
We used to have snacks every evening after work and I thought that had contributed on my weight gain so I stopped having my tea and biscuits but still my weight seems to stay put.
I know I am not fat but I am not as skinny as I was before marriage either. I know that because some of my dresses are a bit tight for me now. Ohoo, I can’t even dream of giving all my cloths away if I ever put on weight. Also my husband won’t be happy either as I will have to go on a shopping spree to compensate for that.
The other day, I was watching a show on TV call THE DOCTORS and it opened my eyes as to why it has been so hard for me to lose weight even after I realised I had put on a few kilo and was trying my best to lose it. They explained that man has more muscles compare to women so when they exercise, it is easy for them to lose the weight quickly than women. I think it is not fair but I guess I just have to work harder.
While doing my research, I also found out that women don’t need to eat as much as men but when one gets married or starts living together, because of the love, ones husband will ask the wife to share food with him every time he snacks on any food (so true in my case) and I am sure that is not helping me right now to lose weight either.
The third and last factor I found out is age. As we get older, our metabolism rate decrease so we need to cut down on our energy intake otherwise there is no stopping the weight gain.
I know I haven’t let myself go after the wedding. I am still health conscious and want to keep my weight in check. My dream is to be a sexy hot grand ma in my 70’s. 🙂
Anyway, once I realised the factors I listed above, I have been doing well and have lost 3 kgs. My aim is to lose 2 more kilos before the start of our next holiday.
I know my husband loves me but I told him not to share his snacks with me. I am also watching what I eat. So if you are having a similar problem as I did, this is what I did and it helps.
Here are some healthy eating tips found on zenhabits (http://zenhabits.net)
Posted in Personal
Tagged drink plenty of water, health, healthy eating, healthy-living, personal experience, weight gain, weight lose, weight-loss
