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Dashain

Dashain is the 15 day Hindu festival celebrated in Nepal. It is the longest Hindu festival and it falls around September – October, starting from the bright lunar fortnight and ending on the day of full moon. Dashain is also popularly referred to as Bada Dasain, Dashera, Vijaya Dashami etc.

This year Dashain starts today, 16 October which is Ghatasthapana (Literally pot establishing). Ghatasthapana is the first day of Dashain and it is the day in which Jamara is planted on a pot or Kalash. The other important days for the festivals are Day 7 called Fulpati (21 October), Day 8 called Maha Asthami (22 October), Day 9 called Maha Nawami (23 October) and Day 10 called Dashami (24 October). The festival ends the 15th day with Purnima, full moon.

Every year Nepalis, remember the message “Good always wins over the evil”, with the celebration of the great festival of Bada Dashain.

Legend behind Dashain

King Ram Chandra, whose wife Sita was kidnapped by King Rawan, with the help of hanuman and its military, conquered Rawan on the tenth day, after regular worship of Durga Bhawani for 9 days. The 10th day is the victory day. We put tika on our forehead as prasad of the victory.

Another legend goes like this.

Demons, or Asuras, became very powerful and ambitious and continually tried to defeat the Devas, or Gods, and capture Heaven. One Asura, Mahishasur, in the form of a bull, grew very powerful and created havoc on the earth. Asuras started defeating the Devas and chasing them away from the heaven. The world was crushed under Mahishasura’s cruelty; the Devas put their energy together and form Shakti, a single mass of incandescent energy, to kill Mahishasur.

A very powerful band of lightning emerged from the mouths of Brahma, Vishnu and Shiva and a young, beautiful female virgin with ten hands appeared. All the Gods gave their powers and special weapons to her. This Shakti blended to form the goddess Durga. Riding on a lion, Durga Bhawanu fought Mahishasur. The battle raged for nine days and nights. Finally on the tenth day of Ashvin shukla paksha, Mahishasur was defeated and killed by Durga. This is the day of celebration.

Day 1: Ghatasthapana

Ghatasthapana marks the beginning of Dashain. It literally means installing a pot which symbolizes Goddess Shakti. In this day, Jamara is planted establishing the holy Kalash vessel, which represents the goddess Durga. Goddess Shakti is believed to reside in the Kalash vessel during the Dashain.

Today, everyone in Nepal will plant Jamara to mark the start of Dashain. Normally, Jamara is planted in Puja ghar (prayer room). Jamara pot is kept away from direct sunlight, and holy water is offered to it every day, so that by the tenth day of the festival the seed will have grown to five or six inches long yellow grass. This sacred grass is known as Jamara.

Today, before coming to work, I planted my Jamara as well :). It is the second time I have planted Jamara and I am hoping like last year, it will be a good one so I can use this for puja and tika .

How to plant Jamara

  • Soak barley seeds overnight. I used a Jamara mix (barley, corn, wheat) from Nepali grocery shop.

  • Get a deep bowl or container with a flat bottom. I am using a clay flower pot this year. Fill it with a layer of sand about 2 inches thick.

  • Sprinkle a layer of soaked Jamara mix into the container.

  • Make sure it is only one layer of the seeds so they have enough room to sprout.

  • Cover the seeds with a thin layer of sand.

  •  Sprinkle some water in the container. The sand should be moist, but not soggy.

  • Cover the container and put it in a dark corner, away from the sun.

  • Check the container daily to make sure that the sand is moist.

  • Your Jamara should be is ready for Tika.

Click here to see how Jamara looks like from my last year’s post.

If you are in Nepal, you will see lots of signs of Dashani which will remind you that the festival season is on.

Lots of kites in the sky

Flying kites has been a very important part of celebrating Dashain in the country as it is considered to be one way of reminding god not to send rain anymore. When I was a kid, we used to gather on the rooftop of the house and take turns flying kites. My brothers and his friends would be there and I would be there trying to learn how to fly kite. They used to teach me but most of the time I dropped the kite too low when I was taking control and one of them would jump in and take over  before someone could cut it in the sky, with so many kites fighting already.

When you cut someone else’s kite, you shout ‘Changa Chet‘ literally meaning Kite, cut! If we had a big group of friends we even used to take metal plates or metal buckets with metal spoons and bang them to make a loud noise to celebrate the Changa Chet. I know it might sound weird but it was lots of fun.

Ohoo, how I miss my childhood Dashain.

Kites are not only for kids but adults get into the spirit and have some fun too.

Everyone playing cards

Gambling is illegal in the Nepal but it is usually permitted in public places during this festival. While children are busy flying kites during Dashain, the older members of the family pass their time by getting together and playing cards with each other for money and fun all day long.

As a kid, I remember playing cards using 1 shuka (a quarter /25 paisa) and trying to win more money. It was so much fun to team up with the cousins and play it as a group. That is the only time we didn’t get scolding from our elder for playing cards.

 Everyone busy shopping for new clothes

I would never have thought as a kid I would ever own 100s of dresses or shoes in my lifetime. As a kid, Dashain was especially exciting as I got to buy new clothes along with a new pair of shoes which I could wear during the festivals. All of my friends used to gather during Dashain and show off our new dress and shoes 🙂

Buying and wearing new clothes is an important part of the festival. As many people are living in the villages below the poverty line and for them it is often the case that new clothes come only with Dashain. Almost all the shops in the country have festival offers and discounts. This makes shopping even more attractive to people. Clothes have the highest sales during the festival.

To get into the Spirit of Dashain, we went shopping last weekend and I bought two dresses and a pair of shoes. My husband bought a jacket and a few t-shirts :). I am wearing my new dress today so Dashain has already made an impact in our lives.

Swings everywhere

During Dashain, bamboo swings are constructed a week before Ghatasthapana in many parts of the country as a way of celebration. These bamboo swings are called ‘ping’ in Nepali. These kinds of swings present the best of local culture, tradition, community spirit and fun.

These swings are constructed with the help of community members using traditional methods which make the use of ropes made from tough grass, bamboo poles and wood etc. Theses swings are dismantled only after the festival of Tihar which is 2 weeks after Dashain.

The heights of some swings exceed twenty feet and one can swing really high. One can see people of all ages enjoying the swing. It is especially famous with the children.

I used to love these swings. It goes so high that the adrenaline kicks in. I used be a bit scared to get on at first but once you are on it, it is a great feeling. I am sure these kinds of swings won’t be allowed in western countries as it will be consider a health hazard as it doesn’t have any safety harness 🙂

Dashain Fairs everywhere

Different kinds of fairs are also organized during the festival. Usually small fairs are organized in the villages with the Ferris wheels for children and other items of entertainment for the adults. However, in the city it is the commercial fairs and celebration events that are usually organized.

My memories of Dashain fairs are of Bhrikuti Mandap Dashain Mela. My parents used to take my brother and me there and we were allowed to buy treats. They had concerts, dance shows, magic shows, family games, Band competitions, games, food, and a lot more. They also had stalls with goats, chickens, ducks etc. and great for people who want to buy animals to sacrifice for Nawami.

Also these days they organise lots of musical concerts during these festivities.

In Sydney, during Dashain there are lots of musical concerts with Nepali artists visiting down under to celebrate the festivals. Dashain festival and dance parties are also organised here to make merry and have a get together.

Animals slaughtered

This is probably the worst part of Dashain for me that thousands of animals such as buffaloes, ducks, goats, etc. are slaughtered during Dashain every year.

It is considered an important ritual since it is believed that the goddesses are appeased by such sacrifices. Almost all the temples, especially the temples of Goddess Durga and Kali  around the country are offered with thousands of sacrifices.

Asthami and Nawami are the days when the sacrifices reach their peak. While thousands of animals are sacrificed to appease the goddesses, people also slaughter animals for the purpose of feasts. Since a large number of feasts and gatherings are organized throughout the fifteen days of the festival, the demand for meat goes up considerably. Hence to meet the demands the slaughtering of animals becomes considerably high during the festival.

However, for the past few years the animal rights activists in the country have been continuously opposing these acts of slaughtering of animals in such a manner. They have been requesting people to stop such inhuman acts of killing the innocent animals and instead have suggested them to offer fruits and vegetables to the Goddesses since they believe that it is mentioned nowhere in the Hindu religious books that such sacrifices appease the gods and goddesses.

I do know that we need meat from animals but I still think it doesn’t need to be cruel killing of animals for the meat. I am sure there can be less violent way of killing animals for their meat.

As I am not into killing animals and also I can’t do that in Australia so I will be using coconut instead to mark Nawami. I will keep you posted about Dashain for the next 15 days.

A relaxed mind, a peaceful soul, a joyful spirit, a healthy body; be a heart full of love, may you have all these every day. Happy Dashain everyone!!!

Missing my parents

People who have family close to them don’t often realise how lucky they are.I have seen my friends getting annoyed by the frequent calls from their mother. I have also seen lots of the children complaining a lot when their parents want to get involved in their life. They want to make their own decisions and don’t like their parents asking any questions about their decisions.

I work with lots of mums who feel hurt when they find out some major events of their kids’ life from someone else or at the last-minute. It makes them feel that their kids don’t care much about them. So while making their decision the kids didn’t even bother to call them to share the news or events.

When I see and hear this, I want to shake the kids and ask them to appreciate what they have. They are so lucky to see their parents so frequently and have them so close to them.

I left Nepal when I was a teenager so I missed out on spending lots of time with my parents. I was not there when they needed me and they were always far when I needed them. I always talked to them at least once a week but still those few hours of talk seems so less if you think about it . And I only saw them once a year or not even that sometimes.

I love them a lot and want them to be close to me. We even talked about them coming to Australia to live here. But they didn’t want to come as they have their own life in Nepal. They are independent and do what they want when they live there. Also they work there and that keeps them busy. I tried my best to visit them often but due to work and financial constraints I couldn’t go as often as I liked.

I tried my best to be there for my parents in every way possible. I know they are proud of me and everyone around them tells me how much they miss me and how much they love me. Actually, I know that without having to hear it from anyone. They have sacrificed a lot for me and I will be forever indebted to them. I always tried my best to make them happy in whatever way I can even when I am far away from them.

Every time I go to Nepal, I take them on a holiday and we spend all the time together. That is one of the best times of my life as both my parents are close to me. During these holidays our talks have bonded us a lot closer as we talked and shared lots of thing. If we don’t go on a holiday, both of them would go to work so we wouldn’t have much time to spend with each other.

Being selfish, I miss my mum a lot every time I get sick. I can’t tell exactly what but having her around when I am sick really calmed me down. My poor husband doesn’t know what to do when I get sick as I keep on telling him I want my mum.

I also miss my parents a lot when I go to the shopping malls, or to in the city when I see people with their parents. Father’s day and mother’s days are the worst as it reminds me how far we are. I feel like I am missing big part of my life and have always thought of going to Nepal and spending a year or so with them. I tried to do that in 2009. I went home and told them I will be there for at least 6 months before I go back to Australia.

Don’t know fortunately or unfortunately, I got a job offer for a job I wanted after 4 weeks of me being there. They wanted to set up an interview but as I was in Nepal, I email them back saying I can’t come for the interview. They emailed me offering to conduct a phone interview. The phone interview went ok and the company wanted to do a 2nd interview in person. I was not mentally ready to come back for an interview for a job which I may or may not get so I was reluctant to make the decision. My parents convinced me to go and give the interview saying I can come back again and stay longer if I did not get the job. So I was back in Sydney for the interview. I got the job and I am happy about it but I feel like I missed the chance of staying with my parents.

Now I am married, so every time I go back to Nepal I need to divide my time between my parents’ home and my husband’s home and I am a bit sad about it. I like my new family but I miss my parents so much that I want to spend more time with them. I really want to be a good child for my parents and look after them but staying so far away from them, it is not always possible for me to be there for them when they need me the most.

My parents are doing well so far but slowly as they get older, they will need their children be around them more. I hope when that day comes, I can be near them to look after them.

Someone wise once said ‘Do what you can when someone is alive because after they die, you can’t do anything.’

Being far away from ones family has huge disadvantages. Recently, 3 of my friends had to deal with the loss of their mum or dad. They died all of a sudden (one in an accident) and my friends could do nothing. They didn’t even have proper a goodbye. Then, they had to travel by plane for 23 hours (including transit) before reaching home. That must be the worst 23 hours of their lives. Among those friends, one was already going to Nepal to get married and had her flight booked and everything. Just 2 days before she was supposed to leave, she got bad news of her mom’s death.

If your parents are near you, you are really lucky so do visit them often. If they are far away, at least call them often and tell them you love them. As they get older, they will cherish the time they spend with you. One day we will be parents ourselves and at that time we will want our kids to be around and visit us when possible. So we need to do our share and show our kids family values. Never forget that they had sacrificed a lot in their lives to make sure you could achieve your dreams so keep them close physically and closer in your heart.

2011 SAFF Championship

2011 South Asian Football Federation Cup is underway right now in New Delhi, India. It is so nice to see so many of my friends following the game even though they are not in Nepal. My Facebook wall is flooded with game updates right now and I am happy to see so much enthusiasm. Nepal has always had lots of soccer fans and now I can see how passionate they are as well.

After the game, most of my friends had status that said :” Proud of Nepali soccer team. Semi finals now”. Also when I updated my status about the game, there were lots of likes and comments.

There are eight teams in this championship, namely Afghanistan, Bangladesh, Bhutan, India, Maldives, Nepal, Pakistan and Sri Lanka.

They are divided into two groups as below.

Nepal is doing well so far. One of the best goal from Nepal was by Sagar Thapa against Bangladesh . 

 

 That goal was the winning goal for Nepal which helped Nepal reach Semi final now after the  match with Pakistan was a draw yesterday.

So far the tally looks like below.  

So for Semi final game, Nepal will play the winner of Group A on 9th December. I will be watching and supporting them. Most likely they will be playing against India, a very strong team so wishing Nepali team all the luck. Hope they can pass this point and get into the Final.

  Go Nepal!!!! 

What the hell wrong with the drivers on road?

When I started this blog I though I will never rant on it, I will just share my experience from my life but I will not be a normal woman if I don’t rant so here it is.

What the hell wrong with the drivers on road?

 I have driven in Australia, Nepal and New Zealand only so I won’t know about the rest of the world.But seriously I have seen one after another crazy driver on the road for the past few weeks.

I never understood why people have to talk on the phone while driving. Don’t you know it is illegal? And I am seeing this increasing number of people wearing a head phone while driving. Aren’t you supposed to be aware of your environment while you drive, so how the hell can you hear an ambulance when you have headphone on both yours ears.

And what’s with the people who try so hard to get into your lane. You think it is ok to let them go so you slow down or stop but they don’t even have the courtesy to wave a Thank You. They drive like they deserve that pass. Hello! I was just being nice and if I knew you would not even acknowledge my kindness then I would have never let you in. 

And there are other kinds of drivers who feel that they need to race me. Even if they break the speed limit to overtake me. Anyway most of the time I catch up with them at next traffic light so what is the use of risking getting fined just to overtake and beat me by a few seconds. 

And don’t even get me started on the bike and cycle riders. Motorbike riders always think they have to be at the front of the line when there is a red light so they will try to squeeze into any small space they can find to be in the front. 

I know bicycle is environment friendly but I don’t live 2km away so I can ride to work. I need to drive so don’t give me that attitude. The worst part of a bicycle rider is, in peak hours they will take up the whole left lane and all the cars have to change lanes to pass him. Then when there is a red light, they will just jump on to the footpath and cross the light with the pedestrians and then again go back to riding on the road. I don’t know why there is no stricter rule against this. Seriously, if cyclists need to use the road, they must follow the entire road rule as any other motorist. And if they can ride on the footpath then they shouldn’t be riding on the road. 

And in the morning traffic, you get to see all kinds of drivers. There was a woman painting her toe nails on a red light while a man in the next car was shaving with an electric shaver. Seriously are we so busy that we don’t have time to do all this at home. Then there was this woman who was applying make up. At one light, one eye liner and at next light another eye liner, then lipstick and powder and a few more that I had no idea what she was applying. 

I am sure they understand that doing other things while you drive will distract you and can cause accidents. But they still think they can multi task and because of their stupidity other people will be affected as well. 

If you are a good driver it doesn’t mean that some bad driver won’t come and hit you from the back, front, left or right. So to avoid accidents everyone on the road must be a good driver. 

I don’t understand what is the rush with everyone on the road. How can people be so impatient that they are willing risk their lives to avoid being late. Look at this video and see for yourself if it is really worth getting distracted while driving.

 

Drive safe everyone and thanks for reading my ranting.

Prabal Gurung : A Fashion designer from Nepal

It is always so good to see anyone from Nepal doing well in an international level and I am so glad to see Prabal Gurung in the international fashion arena.

I saw his designs on Michelle Obama, Demi Moore, Zoe Saldana and Oprah Winfrey. I just love him and his creations.

Here is the excerpt from his website introducing him.

 “Gurung was born in Singapore and raised in Kathmandu,Nepal. It was in New Delhi,India that his design career truly began. While studying at New Delhi’s National Institute of Fashion Technology, Gurung freelanced at several production and fashion houses and apprenticed with Manish Arora. His travels took him to Melbourne and London, where he assisted stylists for various fashion shows and editorials at international publications. In 1999, Gurung moved to New York City. He began his career in New York interning for Donna Karan while attending Parsons School of Design. In his first year, he was awarded the “Best Designer” title at the annual Parsons /FITdesign competition.

After Parsons, Gurung spent two years with Cynthia Rowley’s design and production team, which allowed him to gain even more invaluable experience within the fashion industry. Soon after, he was appointed design director at the iconic Bill Blass. After five successful years, Gurung left his post at Blass to launch his own collection, PRABAL GURUNG.”

Look at his collection from Spring 2012 collect here . They are so amazing and beautiful. No wonder so many celebrities loves his collection.

 

Sarah Jessica Parker  was in Australia recently and she wore Prabal Gurung. It was just beautiful.

 He is also the goodwill ambassador for Maiti Nepal .  This is what he told ekantipur about his association, “A society free from human trafficking is possible and we must realise that it is our responsibility to make this world a better place for all mankind. By simply stating our desire, we sow the seeds of great change,”

 Best wishes for all the good work.

 Sources

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