Pushpa Basnet: Pride of Nepal

Every year CNN Heroes is organised to honour individuals who make extraordinary contributions to humanitarian aid. In 2010, Anuradha Koirala not only got nominated for this prestigious award but won the award for her contribution to rescuing victims of girl trafficking in Nepal. This made every Nepali, around the world, proud.

Now in 2012, Nepal can be proud again for another extraordinary and selfless person. Pushpa Basnet, has been nominated for this award.

When I started to write this article, I read many interviews of Pushpa Basnet and after reading what CNN had put together after working with Pushpa Basnet for 3 months, I thought I would just share that as I couldn’t do a better job for sure.

So here is the story from the website.

 

Pushpa Basnet doesn’t need an alarm clock. Every morning, the sounds of 40 children wake her up in the two-story home she shares with them. As she helps the children dress for school, Basnet might appear to be a housemother of sorts. But the real story is more complicated.All of these children once lived in Nepal‘s prisons. This 28-year-old woman has saved every one of them from a life behind bars.

 Nepal is one of the poorest countries in the world — according to UNICEF, 55% of the population lives below the international poverty line — so it lacks the social safety net that exists in most Western nations. Space is extremely limited in the few children’s homes affiliated with the government.So when no local guardian is available, an arrested parent often must choose between bringing their children to jail with them or letting them live on the streets. Nepal‘s Department of Prison Management estimates 80 children live in the nation’s prisons.

 

“It’s not fair for (these) children to live in the prison because they haven’t done anything wrong,” said Basnet, who started a nongovernmental organization to help. “My mission is to make sure no child grows up behind prison walls.” Basnet is one of several in Nepal who have started groups to get children out of prison. Since 2005, she has assisted more than 100 children of incarcerated parents. She runs a day care program for children under 6 and a residential home where mostly older children receive education, food, medical care and a chance to live a more normal life.

Since 2005, Pushpa Basnet has assisted more than 100 children of incarcerated parents.”I had a very fortunate life, with a good education,” Basnet said. “I should give it to somebody else.” Basnet was just 21 when she discovered her calling, she said. While her family ran a successful business, she was studying social work in college. As part of her studies, she visited a women’s prison and was appalled by the dire conditions. She also was shocked to discover children living behind bars.One baby girl grabbed Basnet’s shawl and gave her a big smile.

“I felt she was calling me,” Basnet said. “I went back home and told my parents about it. They told me it was a normal thing and that in a couple of days I’d forget it. But I couldn’t forget.” Basnet decided to start a day care to get incarcerated children out from behind the prison walls. While her parents were against the idea at first — she had no job or way to sustain it financially — eventually they helped support her. But prison officials, government workers and even some of the imprisoned mothers she approached doubted that someone her age could handle such a project. 

“When I started, nobody believed in me,” Basnet said. “People thought I was crazy. They laughed at me.” But Basnet was undaunted. She got friends to donate money, and she rented a building in Kathmandu to house her new organization, the Early Childhood Development Center. She furnished it largely by convincing her parents that they needed a new refrigerator or kitchen table; when her parents’ replacement would arrive, she’d whisk the old one to her center. 

Just two months after she first visited the prison, Basnet began to care for five children. She picked them up at the prison every weekday morning, brought them to her center and then returned them in the afternoon. Basnet’s program was the first of its kind in Kathmandu; when she started, some of the children in her care had never been outside a prison. 

Two years later, Basnet established the Butterfly Home, a children’s home where she herself has lived for the past five years. While she now has a few staff members who help her, Basnet is still very hands on.”We do cooking, washing, shopping,” she said. “It’s amazing, I never get tired. (The children) give me the energy. … The smiles of my children keep me motivated.” 

Coordinating all of this is no easy task. But at the Butterfly Home, the older kids help care for the younger ones and everyone pitches in with household chores. The atmosphere feels like an extremely large family, a feeling that’s fostered by Basnet, who smothers the children with love. The children reciprocate by calling her “Mamu,” which means “Mommy.” “I don’t ever get a day off, but if I [didn’t] have the children around me, it would be hard,” she said. “When I’m with them, I’m happy.” 

All the children are at the Butterfly Home with the consent of the imprisoned parent. When Basnet hears about an imprisoned child, she’ll visit the prison — even in remote areas of the country — and tell the parent what she can provide. If the parent agrees, Basnet brings the child back.She is still eager, however, for the children to maintain relationships with their parents. During school holidays, she sends the younger children to the prisons to visit, and she brings them food, clothing and fresh water during their stay. Ultimately, Basnet wants the families to reunite outside prison, and 60 of her children have been able to do just that. 

Parents like Kum Maya Tamang are grateful for Basnet’s efforts. Tamang has spent the last seven years in a women’s prison in Kathmandu. When she was convicted on drug charges, she had no other options for child care, so she brought her two daughters to jail with her. When she heard about Basnet’s program, she decided to let them go live with her. “If Pushpa wasn’t around, (they) could have never gotten an education … (they) would have probably had to live on the streets,” she said. “I feel she treats (them) the way I would.” Tamang’s oldest daughter, Laxmi, said she can’t imagine life without Basnet.”My life would have been dark without her,” said Laxmi, 14. “I would’ve probably always had a sad life. But now I won’t, because of Pushpa.” 

In 2009, Basnet started a program to teach the parents how to make handicrafts, which she sells to raise money for the children’s care. Both mothers and fathers participate. It not only gives them skills that might help them support themselves when they’re released, but it also helps them feel connected to their children. “Often, they think that they’re useless because they’re in prison,” Basnet said. “I want to make them feel that they are contributing back to us.”Making ends meet is always a struggle, though. The children help by making greeting cards that Basnet sells as part of her handicraft business. In the past, she has sold her own jewelry and possessions to keep the center going. 

Her biggest concern is trying to find ways to do more to give the children a better future. She recently set up a bank account to save for their higher educations, and one day she hopes to buy or build a house so they’ll always have a place to call home. Their happiness is always foremost in her thoughts.”This is what I want to do with my life,” she said. “It makes me feel (good) when I see that they are happy, but it makes me want to work harder. … I want to fulfill all their dreams.”

What an amazing woman. Please vote for her and help her win the CNN Heroes award and support a great cause.

The Hunger game

There aren’t that many movies that I eagerly wait to watch these days because I have been disappointed by many movies in the past. I believe that when you have expectations about these movies, it feels bad when they don’t meet your expectations. So I made a rule not to expect too much from the movies beforehand and now I just watch movies that have good reviews but Hunger Game was a different story.

From the time I knew the movie was going to be made, I kind of knew that it was going to be great. For those of you who don’t know Hunger Games, it is a first of three movies based on a novel of the same name by Suzanne Collins. The second one is called Catching Fire and the third one is called Mockingjay.

So on Tuesday night, we went and watched the movie. I was really excited and I was not disappointed with it at all.

The movie started with an introduction on what “Hunger Games” is. It is a concept like ‘Big Brother’, ‘Survivor’ or similar reality show where your every move is watched and they have to survive until one man/woman is standing. Unfortunately unlike these shows, it is not voluntary.  The contestants are chosen from different Districts of the country and then they are sent to a jungle where they have to fight each other to survive and win. It is a televised tournament for the whole country to watch.

The graphics were done brilliantly and the story line is perfect. I liked the way producers of the game try to control the game by sending some beasts from the control room to make the game more exciting which is very similar to the reality show on our TVs everyday. At least the movie didn’t try to hide the fact that money, power and influence makes a big difference in who wins the game.

I love the movement, colour, passion, grit and, most importantly of all, the substance of this movie.  I loved everyone who started in the movie from  Jennifer Lawrence, Josh Hutcherson, Liam Hemsworth, Woody Harrelson, Willow Shields, Paula Malcomson, Elizabeth Banks, Donald Sutherland, Wes Bentley, Stanley Tucci, Isabelle Fuhrman, Alexander Ludwig, Lenny Kravitz, and Toby Jones. I am sure Jennifer Lawrence going to be a big name by the time this trilogy is completed.

Even though the movie was 142 minutes long, I never felt bored or felt that it dragged at any point. In fact, I wanted the movie to keep going as I was really getting into it and didn’t want to come back to our reality.

Anyway this is my experience about the movie. Some of my friends didn’t like the movie but for me this was one of the best movies I have ever watched. Now I am eagerly waiting for ‘Catching Fire’ to hit the cinemas. I am sure it is going to be one hell of a movie as well.

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Yumcha

Living in Sydney, we get access to all type of the food from around the world. It feels really good to choose from hundreds of options when we decide to go out for lunch or dinner.

Last weekend, it was very wet and windy so we decided to go for some nice and warm Yumcha lunch at Dragon Boat Restaurant in Darling harbour.

Yum cha also know as Ban ming  is a Chinese style morning or afternoon tea, which involves drinking Chinese tea and eating dim sum dishes. Yum cha in Cantonese literally means “drink tea”, while ban ming is a more poetic “tasting of tea”.

To start of with, the place has an amazing view of the Darling harbour. It is one of the most happening places in Sydney so even on a wet day, the atmosphere was great. As we had gone there around mid day, the place was not busy but as the lunch time had started the place filled up quickly and most of the people were having warm food, probably due to the weather.

The place was excellently furnished with Chinese red wood furniture and we had an amazing view as we were given a window seat.

The place was a bit pricy for Yumcha compared to other places but we loved the Peking duck. We also had meat spring roll, Pancake, prawn dim sim, mixed fried dumpling, chicken leg, fried prawns and pork belly. I was very disappointed by dumplings and the worst part was, the waiters are so unfriendly. They try not to look at you as much as possible. We had to wait a long time for a glass of water.

Apart from that,I had a great time with my husband.I was happy to enjoy good company with nice food. I still love my Yumcha and will go back again but may be to a different restaurant.

How honest are you?

Yesterday I and my husband went to a bookshop where we bought a few items. He paid for the books in cash and as we were walking out, he suddenly turned around and went back into the shop. I didn’t know what happened but when he was back out he said “They gave me too much change”. I was so glad to see my husband honest and I’m proud to be married to him.

This made me wonder, how honest are we?

NAB bank here has a ad right now which shows some experiment that they conducted to test how honest Australians are? They tested people randomly in different cities. The tests they conducted were as follows.

  1. They had a barista which intentionally gave customers more change than they were owed, and waited for people to return the difference.
  2. They had someone drop cash filled wallets on a street in Sydney and waited for it to be returned.
  3. They had a man drop some money in the street and checked how many people returned the cash.

Have a look at the videos below.

The result was:

  1. For the change test, 91% of the people returned the change.
  2. For wallet test, 88% of the wallets were returned.
  3. For dropped money test, 95% people stopped, picked up the money and gave it to the man.

 I am really happy that there are so many honest people around. All of us like to think that we are honest but in our hearts we also know that there are times we tell fibs and also we engage in a little dishonesty too from time to time.

If you were Pinocchio, how long would your nose be now?

  • Normal nose length
  • Just your arms length
  • So long that you couldn’t properly see it’s tip right now.

No, No, No, be honest about your dishonesty now! This is an honesty test and you are lying about this as well?!!! (Just kidding :))

According to a research, the average person tells around 11,000 lies during their life, which means we tell 2 to 3 lies a week. If we really break it down like that it does look like a lot.

What about white lies? I read somewhere, “If you tell a lie that doesn’t hurt anyone in anyway, you can get away with that”. Do you agree?

I will give you some examples, the obvious ones.

The girlfriend buys jeans and tries it in front of the mirror and asks her boyfriend, “How do I look.”. It is too tight and colour is red so basically she looks awful. What should he say? As you know this is a situation where you don’t want to hurt the other person’s feelings and at the same time want to be honest.

I believe lying is a habit and if you start it, you will, most likely, continue lying, be they white lies or not. Remember when we were kids, they teach us, honesty is the best policy, believe it and practice it. So the best practice is not to lie in first place. This saves having to come up with lies to cover more lies.

Tell me your story?

Ghoda Jatra

As always, no month passes in Nepal without a festival and today it is Ghoda Jatra (Festival of horses).

On this day there is a grand parade in Tundikhel, a large open ground in the middle of the city. It is believed that this festival began after the Kathmandu people buried a demon under the soil of Tundikhel show grounds. They say that he may rise again and cause terror in the world if he is not trampled on by horses each year. So every spring, this victory over evil is celebrated by organizing processions and grand display of show jumping, motorcycling feats, parachuting, aerobatics, bicycle races and gymnastics. The president, prime minister, ministers and other official along with, the Living Goddess Kumari, and thousands of people from all over the country observe this Jatra.

After this great function of horse ridding in Kathmandu, there is the Khat Jatra of the eight sister goddesses. The Newars of Kathmandu city observe this day as a family get together or ‘Pachare’. The chariot of Goddesses Lutidevi, Swetakali, Kankeshwori and Bhadrakali is brought to Ason, and the family get together of eight sister goddesses also takes place, as legend says.

At Bal Kumari area, in Patan during Ghode Jatra festival, a horse is intoxicated with spirit and an equally drunk person in a traditional Newari attire rides it and the townspeople chase the intoxicated animal through the streets amidst much cheering and clapping. This race is thought to have been commenced in the olden times by a certain king of Patan to give a better show in comparison to Tundikhel’s parade, as in those days no one from Patan could attend the show in Kathmandu as it was a rival kingdom, a time when Kathmandu valley was divided into three kingdoms of Kathmandu, Patan and Bhaktapur.