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Over the moon to get the Prabal Gurung parcel

I have to start this blog first by thanking Tincup, Kalibird and my dearest friend SD. Because without them my dream of owning my own Prabal Gurung dress would have been just a dream.

Anyway, I am sure you know from my post here and here that Prabal Gurung collection for Target was out recently. And I am sure you know how disappointed I was when I realised that Target in Australia was not going to have his collection.

But thanks to dear friends, who I met via my blog, Tincup and Kalibird and my good friend SD, I now have 3 dresses, a shoe and a bag by Prabal Gurung 🙂

Let me give you the whole story from the start. When I realised that Target here were not getting these dresses, I thought it was still going to be ok. I will buy all the stuff I wanted online and then get it shipped here. Even though  I was not sure about the sizes I decided on size 4 and mentally prepared what I wanted and how much I was going to spend. So on the day these dresses came online, I went to target US site. But unfortunately, most of the dresses I wanted were not available online. Out of everything I wanted I would only be able to get a bag so I decided not to get anything at all. I was very disappointed, annoyed, sad, and so depressed that day that my husband was doing his best to console me. And to top it off, all my friends in the US were uploading their PG dresses on Facebook.

I didn’t want to bother anyone in the US at first as I knew it would be a hassle for them to go shopping for me. But I had no choice and so emailed my friend SD. She didn’t get back to me in a few hours so I didn’t know what to do. It was really nice of Tincup and Kalibaird to offer to help me after reading my blog. And I am really grateful that they trusted me and offered to buy me stuff even they have never met me and know me only through the blog.

As I didn’t see any other way to get those dresses, I emailed them back and asked them to check a few things for me. I was kind of sure it would be very hard to get them as I was reading online how most of the dresses were out of stock in the first few hours. But it must be my good luck that Kalibird was able to get me a dress and shoes that I wanted. Thanks a lot girl, you made my day.

In the meantime my friend SD called from US and I told her what I wanted. I also told her that I already got a dress and  shoes. So she went shopping for me and sent me a few photos of dresses and bags which were available in the Target store that she went to. I so wished I was there to be able to try those dresses but I had no choice but to hope for the best and asked here to pick the dresses in size 4. I asked her to pick up ruffle dress in lime (I really wanted this dress in red) and a clutch.

Prabal Gurung Dresses

All of them offered to look for more but I told them not to. I knew most of the items I wanted were gone anyway and it would be a waste of their time. And I ready had two dresses, shoes and a bag.

But SD being the great friend she is, kept looking and was able to get another dress, the one with Meet the Parents Print.

Kalibird shipped the stuff she bought to SD and SD shipped everything to me.

Finally all the stuffs are here and I am over the moon. I was so excited when I opened the parcel.

Prabal Gurung Dresses

I was like a child opening a birthday present. Loved all of them and feel blessed to have so many nice people round me who went to extra length to make my dream come true Thank you everyone. I love you all.

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Our Story: Finding a perfect life partner – Part 5

This is continuation of my previous post. Please read the previous posts here, Part 1, Part 2, Part 3 and Part 4.

Not surprisingly after my last email, most of my friends emailed me back except AS. They let me know that none of them were planning to come to Kathmandu as their circumstance was not good to take a holiday. I was a bit disheartened as I thought I might be lonely in Kathmandu. The friends who were already there would be very busy with their work and family. So the best person to give company will be someone on holiday just like me.

My last hope was AS and was hoping at least we would have a week or so together before I left Kathmandu.

In Kathmandu, my parents and family were busy searching for a guy for me. They were scared that I would change my mind again so they were sending information including photo of prospective husbands. I trusted my parents’ choices to find a guy from a reputable family which matched our caste and status but it was me who had to live with this guy for ever. Every time, they sent me a photo, I couldn’t see HUSBAND material in any of them. I started to question myself on what I really wanted from a husband. I was so unsure.

I never talked to any of these guys because I didn’t think I should be the one initiating the communication. When my parents would say “Add him in Facebook or email the guy”, I would tell them if he is really interested, he should add me. I am not taking the first step.

I think in a month, I heard about at least 10 guys and saw photos of a few of them as well. Now the conservation with my parents was more on what they were looking for in a guy and what I wanted. I used to tell them, you guys know better about what to look for as I didn’t have any specific list. The only think I told them was that I needed him to come to Australia after the wedding.

As the days pass by, my parents became less excited about finding a guy as I kept on saying I didn’t like any of them. They though it would be better if I met few guys when I was in Nepal in December. So they stopped sending me the photos and details.

I have to say AS always managed to communicate on the right time. On one weekend after talking to my parents about wedding and marriage, I was just surfing net when he messaged me on Facebook

AS: Hello

Me: hey, how are you?

AS; Doing gud. How are you?

Me: Why didn’t u reply my mail? U r annoying

AS: hahahaha. I was about to mail u

Me: Ya rite. Anyway just got off the phone with my parents. They are asking me what kind of man I want to get married to. They don’t know what to look for anymore as I kept on saying NO to everyone they showed me.

AS: Just trust them and say YES

Me: I am too scared to just say yes. I don’t even know these people. How can I marry anyone?

AS; I have asked my mum to look for bride for me as well. I really don’t care. If they find someone good I will marry her.

Me: Are you serious? Aren’t you worried that you won’t get along together and that will be a big problem in future.

AS: It works both ways so I am cool. But it is funny, they haven’t found anyone yet.

Me: So what kind of bride you looking for?

AS: Don’t know.

Me: Come on, just give me a hint.

AS: Someone who is educated, around my age and from Newar caste so my family will be happy. If it has to be arranged better make sure my family is happy.

Me: So why couldn’t they find anyone yet then.

AS: Don’t know. Let me know if you know someone 🙂

Me: In fact I have a very good friend who is looking for guy as well. I think you will like her. The only problem is she is slightly older than you. (I am sure my friend will kill me if she ever found about this). But I am sure you will be good together.

AS: I am OK with someone older but I am sure my family will not be OK with that.

Me: Ohoo, that is sad. You guys would have been perfect. Anyway looks like we will be getting married soon. Imagine in few years if we meet again, with our partners and kids. God, life will be so different.

AS; I thought u were already married before. Anyway what are you looking for in a groom.

Me: I know it was fun to fool you :).  I really don’t know. I am very confused.

AS: Why?

Me: Coz I have never been married before hahaha..Seriously I am not sure if I am really ready to get married.

AS: I think no one is ever ready but you will be fine.

Me: What happens if I don’t get along with my husband?

AS: You will be fine.

Me: I am not sure what I want from life let alone have someone else with me to make it even more complicated. God why do we even have to get married?

AS: So this world and the human race can go on. Imagine, if no one wanted to get married and have babies, what would happen. You are a nice gal so you will be OK don’t stress out a lot.

Me: Ya right. Are you coming to Kathmandu in December?

AS: Not sure yet. Have to check if I can get time off from work. Also I plan to travel to some more places in the US before coming to Kathmandu so let’s see.

Me: Looks like we will miss each other in Kathmandu like always. 😦

AS: Will let you know the details once everything is fixed.

Me: I am sure we won’t meet as always. Seriously I will be so bored in Kathmandu.

AS: You have so many friends there and you know so many people.

Me: Ya but they all will be busy in their work and family. It was the case last visit.

AS: Time to go for lunch. Keep you posted.

Me: Ok talk to you later. Enjoy lunch.

After that conversation I met AS more on Facebook chat as well as Gmail chat. We used to talk about everything from our future plans to our future partners but we were still friends and just happy to be in touch. Life was going on as normal. I was really excited that my holiday was coming soon and was looking forward to that.

In the meantime, AS decided that he would come to Nepal in January as well after his holiday to the east coast. That meant we might meet in Kathmandu depending on the flight he was able to book. But he was having problems booking a flight as it was holiday season and most flights were booked out. I was still very skeptical about our meeting.

Finally it was December 9 and I was super excited to go home. I hadn’t been to Kathmandu for over 18 months. It was a change I was looking forward to. Also I kept my mind open about marriage and prospective groom.

Before I headed to airport, I checked my mail for the last time and there I had an email from AS.

Hey M,

I have been bg these days. Well 4.5 hrs of sleep is all I got, got up at 7.30

You must be all packed and ready to go. I had hoped to catch you before you left for the airport but work came in between… ke garne… saw your email too late…

Aba ta yahi sochdaichuki Kathmandu chandai jana paun taki (Now I am thinking to come to Kathmandu soon)  I get to spend more time with you…… well tyas pachi shayad ya ta chat ma bhet hola nabhaye Kathmndu ma (Hope we meet in chat or else in Kathmandu)

Airport ma wifi bhaye… yo mail padheu bhane online aaunu ra chat garaunla… Gharma padhdaichau bhane… aba tyasai bela chat garaunla…(Hope there is wifi in the airport so you can read this email and come online otherwise you will be reading this from home in Kathmandu so talk to you then)

You have a safe journey now, Bon Voyage! Have fun! We will meet when we meet!

Always,

AS

I didn’t feel like replying to the email at the last minute so I closed my laptop and made sure everything was in order before I left for the airport.

I took a cab, checked in and cleared immigration. This time I was flying Singapore airlines. I waited outside the boarding gate. I wished I was not traveling alone especially of the 9 hours transit time I had in Singapore before I flew to Kathmandu. But I tried my best to think about my plans in Kathmandu.

I had a holiday planned with my parents to Mirik, Pashupathi Nagar, Illam, Jhapa. Itahari, Kakarvita in Nepal and Sikkim, Changu Lake and Darjeeling in India. I knew it would be one of the best holidays as I would be spending lots of time with my parents. The only topic I needed to remember to avoid was marriage 🙂

The post is getting long so I will write more in next post. Hope you will come back and read more

Go to Part 6

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Our Story: Good friends again – Part 4

This is a continuation of my previous post. Please read the previous post here, Part 1, Part 2 and Part 3.

Normally I used to send emails to my friends from time to time just to say hi and keep in touch. So I sent the following email to AS one day. I didn’t expect a reply from him at that point. I already knew that it was normal not to hear from him for quite some time.

hey

How are u doing?

Just dropped in to say hi. So have you made you plans about the future there?

Also what time u are online these days.

anyway just keep in touch and gud luck for future

BTW when r u going to Nepal?

hope to see u there

M

It took him another 3 weeks to email back as expected.

Hey M,

How’r u doing?

Things have been a little crazy here so haven’t been online.

I will be here till December or Jan then may go to Nepal.

I haven’t been online much lately but will be till 1 or 2 in the night here PST. The timing between Australia and USA is so messed up and I can’t access messenger at work so I don’t know how to meet u online… gotta think of some way.

Anyways… I’ll only go to Nepal when I finish here. Been too long. And hopefully it’ll be the same time as u. so when’re u going btw? Ok do write to this infrequent correspondent 🙂 even though u may want to bash me.

Chow,

AS

It took me 2 weeks to write back to him because there was a lot going in my life then. I was thinking to go to US on a working holiday visa. My parents wanted me to come to Nepal and decide on getting married. I was looking for another job in Sydney.

So I decided not to go to US as the economy there was not doing great. Instead I decided to go to Nepal and visit my family. Also one of my good friends was in Hawaii so decided I will visit her and then go to Nepal.I was also applying for new jobs, making me very busy. Finally I decided to reply to AS with my plan.

hi

finally really gud hear from u

 I am still undecided on US for now

Anyway I am sure things will work out best for both of us

I am thinking if I have chance I will go to Hawaii for a week before going to Nepal in Dec.

Do let me know if u can come too. I have my frd there and also AH is there.

I think it will be fun if we can manage otherwise it will b so gud to c u in Nepal

These days there is hardly anyone in Nepal so having company for few days will be great

gud luck for everything

Do keep in touch

 M

Around that time I was keen on finding a better job and it was really making me frustrated. I did look around a lot but there were not many jobs that I wanted on the market.

One of the weekends, I was home online doing different things like looking for jobs, checking Facebook and so on. I had plans with my friends, brother and SIL to go clubbing that night. It was evening already so I started getting ready.

While I was getting ready, I heard a “tring”, a message in my Facebook chat. When I finished what I was doing I went and check what it was. SUPRISE SURPRISE. It was AS saying hello in Facebook chat.

I was about to go out in 30 mins so I did not know if I should response or not. I decided to say a quick hi.

Me: hello, how are you?

AS: Hey. am good. How r u?

Me: I am sorry but I am about to go out so can’t chat as I am getting ready.

AS: it’s ok

Me: if you have Skype add me. My id is XXXXXXXX . I can talk and get ready if you have time.

He sent me the request and I added him. Now we were voice Skyping while I was getting ready to go out.

I am not sure what we talked about but it was time for me to go so I was saying my goodbye. At the end of the conversation this is what we end up talking

AS: Do you have camera in your laptop.

Me: Of course. Here you go, I started the video chat. Hellooo, can you see me?

He had his video on as well.

AS: I can see you. Ok enjoy your night.

Me: Of course I will. We are going clubbing. Dancing always makes me happy.

AS: la la mooj gara (ok enjoy). You are looking good. (I remember I was wearing a blue one shoulder dress with big flower earrings. I smiled as it is always nice to get a compliment.)

me

Me: Thank you. Ok time for me to go now. Take care and nice talking to you.Bye

AS: Bye

I shut down the laptop and went out. I had a great night with my brother, SIL and my friends. We went to city and it was beautiful weather. As usual we had our dinner and danced till late. It was Saturday night so we had lots of fun.

My life was moving as normal. I had decided that I was definitely going to Nepal in December as I desperately needed a break from everything in Sydney. One of the reason I had been delaying my trip home was because my parents really wanted me to think about marriage. As I was far away it was easy for me to ignore them but when I would be in Kathmandu I knew that I would be forced to take a definite step.

Till then I was telling my parents I was too young and not ready. That month one of my cousins who was just a few months older than me got married. After the wedding ceremony was over, the only topic my parents could think of when I called was about my marriage.

What I thought of marriage 🙂

To get them off my back I told them to start looking for a guy for me. I had no intention of getting married soon but if my parents were happy to look for someone for me, I thought I will let them do that. I can always say no to anyone they showed me anyway. I know it sounds so evil but that is what I did.

After making those decisions I wrote to AS and a few of my other friends letting them know that I was going to Kathmandu in December.

Hello,

Hope u are doing well.

Just want to let you know that I will be going to Nepal this 10 December for 4 weeks. Just bought the ticket so it is final now 🙂

Let me know if any of u are coming to Kathmandu the same. If possible try to come so it can be reunion for all of us.

GTG.Take care

M

The post is getting long so I will write more in next post. Hope you will come back and read more

Go to Part 5

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Our Story: Back to Sydney – Part 3

This is continuation of my previous post. Please read the previous post here, Part 1 and Part 2.

AS was really nice and I was glad for his company during the 12 hours at LA airport. Without his company, 12 hours in LA would have been hell. I really don’t know what I had been thinking while booking that flight. But my friend in Florida had told me to book an early flight to LA just in case there were some changes in my domestic flight schedule since, he said that it was normal for domestic flights to get cancelled or delayed and he didn’t want me to miss my flight to Sydney. So AS being there at the airport was a blessing for me (in more ways than I knew at that time) and it was great to catch up with an old friend.

It was a really long flight back to Sydney. I was so tired that I think I slept for more than 10 hours out of 16 hours flight time. During my stay in US, I flew and travelled between different states so many times that I hadn’t had a proper night of sleep for weeks. Staying in new places every few days didn’t help either. So resting during the flight back to Sydney seemed like the best idea.

I woke up a few times during the flight for food and to go to the loo, other than that I just rested. It didn’t feel like I was in a plane for 16 hours when the pilot announced to fasten the seat belts for landing.

Finally when I landed in Sydney airport, I felt like I was home again. It is always nice to be back in familiar surroundings after a long holiday. It was Monday 8 am Sydney time, a winter morning. I was sure my body was still on US time making me sleepy and tired. But I had promised my boss that I would be back at work the same day. I used to teach in a University those days and it was important that I didn’t miss the classes. I really don’t know what I was thinking. I thought I would enjoy as much time as possible in US so booked the last flight out of the country. Anyway I caught a cab home, had a shower, changed into a fresh outfit and went to work.

I was still very tired but I made through the day. I don’t remember much but I was glad when I finished for the day. When I returned home that night, I just slept like a baby for the next 12 hours. I went to work the next day as well. I was still tired but started showing symptoms of flu. It was summer in US and when I came back to Sydney, it was winter. My body was having a hard time adjusting. I am sure my holiday in US had been really hectic. I fell really sick by Wednesday that I couldn’t go to work.

It really scared me when I started sneezing and coughing really bad and had high fever. I wished my mum was there to look after me. I felt so alone and lonely. It is what happens when you stay so far away from your parents that they can’t be there when you need them the most. My brother and SIL were there but in the afternoon they had to go to work leaving me alone at home.

Around that time Swine flu was spreading around the world and US was one of the major places where it was reported.

Sydney airport had thermal imaging to check for flu fevers (heat) installed so it was definitely very serious.

When my fever didn’t go down even after 2 days I went and saw the doctor and following conversation occurred.

Doctor: What’s wrong with you?

Me: I have flu, cough and high fever.

Doctor: From when you started feeling sick.

Me: It started from last 3 days but I have to tell you that I have just come back from USA. I am really scared that it might be Swine flu as I have all the symptoms.

Doctor: I will ignore what you said last because if I determine that it is Swine flu, I have to inform Department of Health. Then they will take you away for quarantine and you may be under their observation for months. So we will treat this as normal flu. Let’s see how we go.

I was really scared after hearing that from the doctor. I bought all the medicines he prescribed and went back home.

I still had high fever and was so tired that I was in bed for a whole week. First few days, I couldn’t do much so I was not using internet at all. But on the 4th day when I opened my laptop finally, I saw a friend request from AS in my Facebook. I couldn’t believe my eyes that he had also sent me an email. It was definitely something I was not expecting but felt good to read his email.

Here is the email.

Subject: Shree Ganesh

Hey M,

That was just a profile pic in Facebook to let people know that I’m still alive 🙂

Enjoy being back in Sydney and teaching to the poor poor students. I really pity them. I can distinctly imagine you standing with a stick in your hand, the specs on your eyes teaching those kids… 😀 ha ha ha

and I’m still waiting on the pictures from you…

Truly,

AS

Hindus normally pray to God Ganesh before starting something new. So it was a humours way of AS to have a subject as Shree Ganesh after he opened a Facebook account. He definitely made me laugh. And I was glad that he created a Facebook account so we could keep in touch more.

He had sent that email two days ago so I replied him straight away.

hey

here are the pics u r waiting for

We didn’t take many pics but still gud memories with few pics. Thanks you once again for your company. It was fun.

For now I am still adjusting my life here and fixing my new place. Bit sick for last few days.

anyway nice to see u active and social in fb and email

keep it up and take care

M

I went and checked his Facebook and it had one photo on it. It was a close up shot of him in dark blue t-shirt smiling at the camera.

After this exchange of emails, I didn’t hear from him for a couple of months (no surprise). I got better and thanked god it was not Swine flu. The job was hectic so was my social life which kept me busy. When I had free time, I went through my photos from US. It was nice to remember a great holiday I had in US.I selected a few and uploaded them in Facebook to share with my friends and family. I uploaded a few pictures I had with AS and tagged him. I hoped he checked his Facebook. He was MIA again. I never saw him online in Facebook or messenger and he never had any activities in his Facebook either.

The post is getting long so I will write more in the next post. Hope you will come back and read more 🙂

Go to Part 4

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Slave of Smartphone and Instant messaging

This article was published in +977 (a Nepalese Lifestyle Magazine in Australia) in Nov 2012 issue. 

“Tring!!!” mobile phone rings. Within a second, everyone in the restaurant takes their phone out and checks for call/sms/mms/Facebook alert or Tweets.

That is a common scenario I see everywhere. Today, when you walk into a restaurant, you will notice that almost everyone has his or her phone out, and they’re texting, emailing, tweeting, or updating a Facebook status. Even though we are socialising and having a great time, a ring from our mobile phone will stop what we are doing and we start checking our phones.

There was a time when visiting a restaurant with a friend/family meant enjoying a tasty meal together, having an engaging conversation and updating each other about one’s life. These days with smartphone in our hands checking Facebook while having a conversation, tweeting a photo of a dish during the meal and taking a call seems to be accepted behaviour.

If you travel using public transport, look around and I am sure you will see almost every single person staring at their phone. The worst and dangerous ones are the ones who drive while talking or texting on a phone.

Also what about those who talk on the phone while someone is trying to serve them, completely ignoring the person.

Don’t get me wrong, I am just as attached to my smartphone as anyone. I love gadgets and technology in general. But lately I have realised that the first thing I do when I wake up in the morning is check my phone for emails, messages, Facebook alerts and Tweets. Like many people, I have become so addicted to my smartphone that it is hard for me to go an hour without checking my e-mail, Twitter or Facebook alerts. It is with me, 24 hours a day and 7 days a week.

I am sure I have been doing it for a while but I only realised what I was doing when I saw my husband reading his eBook on his smartphone all the time.  After a long day work when we come back home, we were sitting in the same room but often, he is reading his book while I am watching TV or using my phone to Facebook, Tweet or just surf internet. We were in the same room but we were not really talking. That moment, I realized that I wanted to get out of the slavery of phone.

Another habit that I realised I had was that I tend to look for my phone every time a pop alert for email, Facebook, Twitter rings so my smartphone was constantly demanding a significant part of my attention taking away my attention from just about anything instantly and consistently.

I realised that rather than me using a phone, I was the slave of it and its instant messaging. The ability to instantly connect with anyone has its advantages but it comes with a price. We pay the price in terms of the time which we feel we have so less of in this busy world.

I have also read about a research which proved the following.

Those who are constantly breaking away from tasks to react to email or text messages suffer similar effects on the mind equivalent to losing a night’s sleep.”

So lately I have changed the way I use my smart phone. In other words I have stopped being used by my smartphone but start using it again.

  • I know all the emails and messages I check in my phone can wait and people can always call if things are important, so I check them a couple of times in a day rather than as soon as a message lands in my inbox.
  • I turned off all the alert sound from Facebook and Twitter so it doesn’t pop on while I am in the middle of something urging me to check it instantly.
  • I make sure I put my phone inside my bag or pocket when I am meeting people.
  • At home, phones stay in the table so no need to check every 5 minutes.
  • I turn the internet off on the mobile before going to bed.

I am sure lots of you might have similar habit like mine so go ahead and try not to use for phone for an hour. See if you get more things done without getting distracted. Turn off all the alerts and have a quiet and piece time for a change.