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My parents are leaving

6 months ago I was so happy and I wrote a post that my parents are coming to stay with us for 6 months. At that time 6 months seemed like a long time but now the time has passed and my parents are leaving this weekend.

Yes, it has been six months since their arrival. After their arrival, they organised my Dahi Chiura ceremony. They were here when we welcomed Chhori into this world and they were here for every small developments with Chhori till now.

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We did manage to visit many places around Sydney with them. My mum loved Madame Tussad as well as other attraction like Sydney Sea life, Sydney tower, Featherdale National Park, Manly Sea Life, Sealife Sydney and many other places.

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We celebrated Chhori’s Chhathi, Nawaran and Pasni, my mum’s birthday, dad’s birthday, their anniversary, our anniversary , Mother’s day and my nephew’s birthday while they were here.

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I have got so used to having them around. It has been the longest time we have been together since I left Nepal to come here. As I was not working after the birth of Chhori, I got to spend heaps of time with them, I feel so lucky to have them around and see them enjoying their grandchildren.

I loved my mum’s cooking, conversation with my dad and spoiling them with small things. It felt so good to buy them things and see them happy.

Wedding Ceremony

But in few a days, all of these are coming to an end for now. I am not sure how I will manage without them.

Not only I but Chhori and my nephew will also miss them badly as they are so used to seeing and playing with their grandma and granddad.

Happy 35th Anniversary Dad & Mum (11)

For me it will be a nightmare as it will be the first time I will be left with Chhori on my own for a long period. As AS will be working it will be Chhori and I alone the whole day. Chhori is growing so fast and has started to roll over which means I can’t even seem to blink my eyes or look away from her and she starts to roll over. I am sure I will cry the first few days.

If things work out as planned, they promise to come back again in 6 months’ time. I am hoping it will happen but in the meantime, it will be all alone with my little on.

I know I am extremely lucky to have them here even for a short period as not everyone is as lucky to have their parents here to help them after child birth but even imagining their not being here makes me so sad.

Wish me luck that I will not go crazy. Any tips on how to look after a baby on my own will be highly appreciated. I hope to share the happy news about their arrival again soon.

Until my next post, take care everyone,

M from nepaliaustralian

XOXO

Getting back to a healthier happier me

I am not sure if it is normal or not but I normally look at my old photos and realise that I had a better body pre-pregnancy.

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During pregnancy I put on 18 kilos in total which was 3 kg more than the recommended weight. I have to admit that most of the weight was around my tummy. My weight gain was normal for the first 6 months but  I was hungry a lot during the last few months of the pregnancy and I was munching on lots of junk food too.

my pregnancy

I continued with my walking and swimming routine but still managed to put on a good amount of weight. The last month was the worst with swollen hands and legs. Summer heat of Sydney didn’t help at all.

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Then my beautiful angle arrived on this earth; healthy and happy which made everything I did seem worth it.

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I thought my tummy would go down straight after the birth of Chhori but I looked like I was still 5 months pregnant when I came home from the hospital.

The weight kept dropping every day after that as I was breastfeeding. Even though  the doctor gave me an all clear to exercise after 6 weeks, I didn’t do much for the first 3 months as I was too busy looking after Chhori and catching up on sleep whenever I had any spare time.

Traditionally in Nepal new mums are given 3-4 meals of rice with jwano ko jhol, minced chicken, lots of ghee (clarified butter) and chaku (molasses). So my mum had similar ideas in her mind for me. For the first month, I was eating everything my mum cooked minus chaku (molasses) without complaining. I was eating rices 2-3 times a day and also consuming chocolate muffins and other junk food.

But after a month I reduced my intake of rice and slowly tried to go back to my normal pre-pregnancy diet but it was a bit difficult at times. I felt so hungry due to breast feeding that it was hard not to eat junk lying around.

I have lost 13 kg so far and so have 5 kg remaining. In order to help me lose the rest and regain my exercise routine, I joined a gym as soon as Chhori turned 3 months.

The first few sessions almost seemed to kill me with the pains and aches but things are getting better now. I am going twice a week these days which should get me into my normal routine slowly and I hope to lose those remaining kilos too.

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I have started to fit into most of my clothes now and hope to fit into everything soon.

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Wish me luck everyone, I will keep you posted on how I go.

Have a great week.

from nepaliaustralian

XOXO

Experience of 3 months old mum

They say time flies when you are having fun and it is fun at times being a mum apart from being busy feeding, cleaning and entertaining the baby. Chhori is over 3 months old now and so here are a few things I have learnt as a new mum.

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  • Having the baby is one of the best things you can do in life, you will never love anyone more that your baby.
  • Breastfeeding is an art which takes a while to master.
  • I had no idea that such a small baby poos so much, 15-20 nappy changes in 24 hours is normal.
  • Be careful if you use baby wipes on a newborn as they can easily get rashes and it breaks your heart when they cry with pain
  • I am still figuring out the difference between a hunger cry, change nappy cry and pain cry.
  • Breastfeeding makes you very hungry and thirsty.
  • Baby do grow very fast, my Choori has already put on a few kilos and a few centimetres. I really don’t want her to grow up so fast.
  • Talking about growing, Choori has already outgrown 0000 and 000 clothes and is now into 00 which means she won’t be able to wear a lot of cute dresses/outfits the she got as gifts.
  • The best gift a new mum /baby can get is nappies so if you are going to visit a newborn take a box of nappies instead of flowers.
  • Listen to everyone but do what you believe in regarding your baby. Always remember happy mum means happy baby.
  • Babies always seem to cry when you are about to eat so learn to break the world record as the fastest eater.

Chhori

  • If you are the only one looking after the baby, you need to even have a plan to go to the toilet and the when and how long depends on the baby.
  • Sometimes I spend an hour getting the baby to sleep and then I wake her up two minutes later just to make sure she is still breathing.

Chhori (2)I am sure there are a lot more to learn in the coming days and I will definitely share them with you.

Do share your tips for a new mum and any magic you have to get the baby settled quickly and to make her go to sleep.

Take care everyone till next post.

from nepaliaustralian

XOXO

My early birthday gift

I am not a very big fan of yellow gold so when we were getting married I wanted a white gold ring but as we were getting married in Nepal, it was not possible. In Nepal, if you wear white gold, people think it is sliver so both our families didn’t like the idea.(I love my wedding ring now).

During our wedding, I received lots of jewellery from my family and AS’s family. I also received some jewellery from my and AS’s relatives. Most of them were of yellow gold .When I was coming here my mum and MIL told me to take a few of them with me. I didn’t want to but still I brought a few rings, a white gold diamond necklace set,  few ear rings, a small necklace, a ruby necklace and a few gold bangles. I left the rest of my jewellery with my MIL.

I never thought I would miss my jewellery but when we returned to Sydney, we had a wedding reception for our friends and family here who couldn’t come to Nepal. I had to dress up as a bride again and that day I missed my jewellery for the first time. I so wished I had my long gold necklace.

After that I had to attend few Nepalese functions where I wore a sari. I missed my jewellery then and of course when it was Dashain where everyone wore their best gold jewellery, I missed mine again.

I was a bit surprised that my preference for gold had changed. I still loved white gold and diamonds but I don’t mind yellow gold any more. Is this only happening because I am married now?

   

Anyway, I was telling my mum about this while I was Skyping the other day. A friend of mine has just returned to Sydney from Kathmandu recently. I met with him yesterday and to my surprise, my mum sent me a golden necklace with 9 stones (Nav Ratna) with matching bangles as my birthday gift. Oho I just loved it.

Even though my birthday is still 2 weeks away, I received my first birthday gift for this year. Thank you mum!

Our Honeymoon trip to Vietnam which almost didn’t happen

When we were planning our honeymoon, me and AS had different ideas on where we want to go. I always wanted to go to Greek Islands(Santorini) but AS wanted to go to Hawaii. But as AS couldn’t take more than a month off from work and our wedding took so many days, we couldn’t go to either of the places.

AS assured me, that we will do our Greek Islands honeymoon next year but for me it didn’t make sense. I wanted something right after the wedding so it is our honeymoon rather than just a holiday.

Anyway after a few discussions we decided on Vietnam as it would be on our way back from Nepal.

After the wedding, we had a few days to spend with the family. Then we were off to Vietnam via Bangkok and then to Sydney.

Our family in Kathmandu Airport

When we depart from Nepal that was the first time I didn’t have tears in my eyes. Every time when I return to Australia, my family would come to drop me to the airport. When it was time for me to depart, my mum would be teary and that always made me sad. I was always teary when I board the plane.

This time both mine and AS’s family were there to see us off.  I was surprised my mum didn’t cry when we entered the departure gate. She was talking to my MIL and waving us good-bye. And I was not crying either. I think as AS was with me, I felt better. I guess that is one of the perks of being married.

We were to go to Bangkok and then take an Air Asia flight to Ho Chin Minh. We were excited but as soon as we reached Bangkok our excitement turned into disappointment.

We found out only after we reached Bangkok that Air Asia flights depart from the domestic terminal.  When we bought our tickets, there was no mention of this so we never had the idea that we needed visa for Thailand to board our flights. The problem was, with Nepali passport they didn’t give visa on the spot so they didn’t allow AS to go out of the international terminal to go to the domestic airport. We were inside Bangkok international airport and our flight was departing from a few kilometres away. We tried to explain the situation to immigration officer, they just ignored us. Half the time, they didn’t speak good English and other half they didn’t care. I was really pissed with them but I couldn’t do anything.

What was supposed to be our great day was turning out to be a nightmare.

We talk to a few other people but they couldn’t help either. Finally a guy in the Thai airways counter was able to understand our situation (Thank God). He said as we can’t go out, it is best if we take another flight that departs from the international airport to Ho chin Min. So we did. We paid for Thai airways ticket to go to Vietnam(there went my shopping money) but did not fly untill the next morning. So we spent 12 hours in the airport. And the ticket was very expensive as we were buying them at the last-minute. But I was thankful that at least there was a solution, even if it was an expensive one.

Next morning we boarded our flight and we were off to Vietnam. Both Me and AS wanted the whole Air Asia thing behind us and enjoy our stay there. While we were in Nepal, lots of people told us their bad experience in Vietnam so I was really worried. I was even thinking all those problems were an Omen telling us not to go to Vietnam.

When we got off in Ho Chin Min airport it was very hot and humid. We took a taxi and went to our hotel. Thankfully there were no problems and we went to our room.

The room was nicely decorated and we had a buffet breakfast every day. They had lots of things to choose from like toast and cheese or rice, Pho, noodles, variety of eggs, salads, yogurt and all kinds of pastries.

Mingling with locals

We booked trips that took us around city and we went to churches, Presidential palace, museums. We also took a trip to the Mekong Delta, Cu Chi tunnel, Cai Dao temple. The trips were fantastic. Once we were out of the city, there was more greenery and less traffic. There were acres of rice fields with lots of people with Vietnamese hats. I really loved it.

The shopping was great as well. We bought lots of souvenirs and I bought some dresses too. We couldn’t buy much as we already had lots of stuff from Nepal. I loved the food too.

But the best part of the trip was the massage. It was very affordable and it was so good. We went for a massage every day. It cost us aroundAUD$15 for a whole body massage with aromatic oil and hot stones for over an hour. Ohoo, one of the best massages I ever had.

Vietnamese 100,000 dong

The next best thing was that we felt like millionaires anywhere we went. We booked a private tour so we had the diver and the guide to ourselves all the time. The car they got for us had leather interior with air con. AUD $200 is equivalent to a million Vietnamese Dong so you are always paying in hundred thousands or millions.

I found the people friendly and the staff of the hotel very helpful. Like most of the Asian countries I have visited, they always had a smile on their face.

On one of the lunch trip, we even ran into one of the famous Vietnamese actors (our guide told us that but I don’t know his name.) There were people queuing up to get a photo with him.

We spent all the time in South Vietnam so I will have to go back again to go to North Vietnam.

One item crossed from my bucket list for now.

More photos here.