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Our Story : Meeting the Parents – Part 13

This is a continuation of my previous post. Please read the previous posts here, Part 1, Part 2, Part 3, Part 4, Part 5 , Part 6 , Part 7 ,Part 8 ,Part 9 , Part 10 , Part 11 and Part 12.

Once we left the café, we headed towards my home. I told AS not to worry at all as my parents were very cool but I knew that AS and I both were bit nervous. I kind of knew my parents will like him but at the same time I wanted them to love him as well.

It was as a huge milestone in our relationship and it was exciting and promising. After all, it indicated to me that AS felt positive about the future of our relationship together. I knew that it had not been very long ago that we started our relationship but we didn’t have lots of time as both of us were leaving the country in a month’s time.

When we reached home, dad was busy with someone downstairs and mum was in the kitchen, I asked him to wait for them in our living room and went to the kitchen to fetch my mother. Both my parents are not very talkative people so I was a bit worried how the meeting would be.

My mum came to the room and I introduced them. He did Namaste and then they talked for a few minutes. Then my dad arrived as well and my mum left to go to the kitchen as there was a feast being readied for AS. My dad and AS seemed to be getting on well so I was relived. You always want your parents to like your partner as it makes it easy for you to deal with both of them. As I saw AS was comfortable with my dad , I left them for a moment to go to the kitchen and see what my mum was up to.

When I got to the kitchen I saw that she was busy preparing lunch. I told her that we are very full and there is no need for lunch, may be just tea and snacks but she said that it was AS’s first visit so he has to eat some nice food. I knew I was not going to win in this instance so I just gave in.

I asked my mum how she liked AS and she told me that he looked like a nice guy. I took the tea and some snack with me to serve AS and my dad. By then I am sure both of them were feeling comfortable with each other.

AS ate some snacks and had his tea. Then my mum told everyone that lunch was ready so we went upstairs to eat. I couldn’t believe that my mum cooked so many different dishes and AS’s plate seemed to have heaps of every one of them. I felt a bit sorry for AS as I knew both of us were full form our lunch together. So I went and tried to take some things off his plate but my mum caught me in the act and didn’t let me.

My dad and AS sat down for lunch but I decline to eat. My tummy had no room for food and I was bit nervous as well.

To my surprise by the end of lunch AS had finished every item on his plate. And no wonder my mum was so pleased. He even praised my mum’s cooking. But it was not over yet. My mum also served some sweets and knowing AS and his love for sweets, he ate them too.

After lunch, AS stayed for a while and then he had to leave as he had plans at home for the evening. I told him I was sorry that he had to eat so much but he said that he loved it and enjoyed his meal. I accompanied him till the gate of our house and then came back upstairs to hear what my parents thought.

Both my parents were extremely pleased with him and my mum was super happy that her future “jwain” (son in law) was so easy to feed unlike me and my brother. They told me to that they were happy with my choice.

I was over the moon when I heard that as I really wanted my family’s approval to take our relation further. That night I slept well but the next day was a different story.

The next morning I woke up, had breakfast and got ready to meet AS’s parents.

I never knew that meeting your partner’s parents could also be so intimidating.  I was wondering what was in store for the future of your relationship together if his parents didn’t like me.  I had so many conflicting thoughts and emotions that were running through my mind. But I tried to put all negative thoughts behind me and started concentrating on the day.

I know first impressions are often lasting impressions, and I absolutely wanted to dress to impress his parents on the big day of introduction. I wanted to look attractive, presentable, and fashionable so I put on my best Kurta suruwal, did my makeup and hair and waited for AS to pick me up. The plan was to meet his parents and then we would leave to do some shopping in the city. I was really scared to spend a very long time with them in case I stuffed things up. It had sounded like a good idea at the time we had decided to meet each other’s parents but in real life most plans don’t work out as expected so I was a little bit nervous.

When I reached AS’s place, I met his mum and dad. Both or his brothers were not home. Both my future in laws made me feel at ease and talked to me as if they had known me forever but I was nervous in answering them. They asked me some basic questions about where I work or what I studied and what are my plans for the future. AS’s mum talked most of the time while his dad listened and made some comments in between. From time to time, I looked at AS when answering question but he was just there smiling at me. I really wanted things to go well that day. While we were talking, suddenly they had some unexpected visitor, AS’s uncle (his dad’s elder brother) and aunt.

I was now more nervous about what to do and say as it was not in our plan. AS’s mum introduced me to them and they started talking to me too. As they had some other plans, they didn’t stay long.

After they left AS’s mum asked me to stay for lunch (morning Bhat dal). I told her that I am full from breakfast but she said that she was not letting me go without eating something as it was my first time to their home. Seriously every mum seemed to have the same agenda, to feed everyone that they can get their hands on. It was sweet of her but it was not going to be an easy time for me.

First of all, I was full from breakfast and second of all I didn’t prefer eating dal bhat in the morning. But I sat down with AS and his dad while mum served us food. The food was yummy but it took a long time to finish what I had on my plate. AS’s mum wanted me to eat more but I kindly refused. I was just glad when I finished what I had on my plate. I really didn’t want to be rude and not finish my meal.

Finally once we finished, AS got ready and we left. I said my good byes and we were off to the city.

Once we were on our own, I asked how he thought I was. He said I looked so nervous that he felt it was funny. I am a talkative person but I lost all my words when I was in his house.

Later AS told me that his parents were happy to meet me and wanted to meet my parents next.

So after a few days, our parents talked on the phone and decided to meet. AS’s parents came over to our place for dinner. We made sure many varieties were prepared and they had a great time with my parents.

After the meeting, both of us were happy as we had taken the next step in our relationship.

We thought the tough time had passed but there was more to come. I will tell you next time. Till then take care.

Please share your Meeting the Parents story. Were you scared?

XOXO

M from nepaliaustralian

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I didn’t get married because I am weak

A while back when I was talking to one of my friends, she told me that people get married because they are weak. She said women who are weak and need someone to look after them get married and if you are not weak, there is no need for you to get married.

I have known this friend for over a decade and I have never seen her in a relationship and I realised why that day. But I disagree with her because I am not a weak woman. I didn’t get married because I need help; I am quite capable of looking after myself. I was living life my way for a long time. I got married because I fell in love with this amazing person, the one who understands me and loves me for who I am.

I am not an expert on love or marriage and I am not going to say he is my soul mate blah blah blah but I love him from my heart and that is all that matters to me right now. When we decided to get married, it seemed like the right thing to do as we were living in two different continents before that. But even if he had already been in Australia and we had to decide on marriage, I would not have decided against it.

I really believe that I and my husband are a perfect couple. We are like any other couple who have disagreement, who loves, who discuss, who argues but at the end makes up. We are like opposite poles as individuals but together are just perfect. We respect each other and enjoy each other’s company. He is not just my husband but my best friend first.

I would never be this happy if I was thinking like my friends and never gave relationships a chance to prove that it is worth our effort.

And my husband proved to me that believing in him and our relation was the right thing again when he took me for a dinner and movie date for my birthday.

Another birthday celebration

First, he bought me this awesome sapphire necklace that goes perfectly with my sapphire ring he bought last year. I think he is getting better at spoiling me as the years go by :). I am so happy that he does lots of thing to make me happy.

Then we had a lovely dinner. We went to the Vietnamese restaurant near our place . We started with Special Entree Plater which had Spring rolls, Fresh spring rolls, Pork patties skewer, Chicken skewer and fish cake. Forgot to take the photos as we were too hungry :).

It was followed by main. I had Cari Ga – Chicken Curry with rice and my hubby tried Pho noodle soup with chicken. The food was nice and filling. By that time both of us were so stuffed that we decided not to order dessert.

It was followed by a movie that I had been meaning to watch for a while, Taken 2.

Taken 2 movie review

Taken 2 was an ok movie only. Definitely it was nothing like the first one where you had no expectations and it made a surprise $225 million worldwide. The first one was really great as it had some griping elements.

In Taken 2, Liam Neeson looked good despite his age and the movie was good but I think we always expect so much from the sequel that it is easy to get disappointed. I was not bored during the movie but most of it was predictable. I was a bit disappointed as I had high hopes for this movie.

Going back to my original topic, I’ll admit it. I am very romantic at heart and I like the flowers, the chocolates, the walks on the beach, the sweeping off your feet gestures but that doesn’t make me weak. I am a strong woman who knows what she wants and is lucky enough to have a partner who respects me and understands me enough to have a relationship that makes both of us happy. Where I am weak, he has strengths and the opposite is true of my strengths where he is not. We balance each other nicely. I don’t wish to dominate my partner, nor do I want to be dominated.

What is your opinion? Do you agree with my friend or me? 

And the celebrations for birthday continues…

Have I told you before that people around me are so nice ? I had two cakes for my birthday already; one, my favourite lemon tart and another at my party but I got two more still. I normally get more than one cake; I remember 3 in the last year. But this year the count went up to four 🙂

I know I get excited like a kid when these things happen but it really makes me happy that there are so many people around me who care about me.

I got a surprised cake at AS’s cousin‘s house. We had invited them for my party but as they had a prior engagement they couldn’t make it.  So when I went to their place for Dashain tika, they surprised me with a cake. It was a chocolate mousse and it just melted in the mouth. It was really nice of them. I also got a card with it.

They also wanted me to have a puppy as well but we can’t keep one as we live in an apartment. Their german shepard had 9 pups recently so I was so tempted when they asked me if I wanted one but we couldn’t. How sad. :(. I took a photo with the pup instead.

Like every year, I got a cake at work as well but this year was extra special as my manager decided to make it a Halloween themed one. It was so much fun as we decorated our office. I also added some decorations that I had from last year birthday party and went with the flow. We had spider webs, scary skeleton, lots of spiders, balloons and much more.

Even the food was really special as my manager baked Halloween themed cupcakes. It was really nice of her.

For the birthday cake, we got profiterole cake and it is one of my favourite cakes too.

Everyone even posed for the camera wearing some silly gear and we had a great time.

Along with the morning tea, we also had Italian lunch where everyone cooked a dish and we shared it all around. As usual, we over catered but all the food were just yummy. Sharing some photos with you all.

 Happy Halloween everyone!!!

My BBQ Pool Birthday Bash

I guess I am getting too old to celebrate birthdays as I feel really tired after the weekend.

Since I was young, I have loved celebrating birthdays with friends and family. Birthday  was always special to me. After coming to Australia, I kept the tradition and celebrated my birthday with my friends here at first and now I have my family as well.

Many of my friends feel that they are too old to throw a birthday party but I think I will never be old to have some fun in the party. It is all about getting together with loved ones and having some fun.

I always wanted to have a fairy-tale big celebration but until I win lotto, it is not possible so I try my best to make a small celebration with friends and family to make me happy :).

Last year I had a Halloween themed party and it was really fun. To have some fun in the sun, this year we decided to throw a BBQ Pool party. Our apartment has a pool and BBQ area so we decided to make use of it.

I sent my invite more than a month ago and was looking forward for the day. Lots of the people RSVPed but they picked MAYBE as the option. First of all I think Facebook shouldn’t have MAYBE as an option in the invitations as RSVP means YES or NO but some of my friends didn’t even RSVP. So I needed to call them to confirm how many of us were going to be there on the day as I had to shop according to that. But everything went as planned at the end.

The planning had started a month ago. I and AS along with my cousin K didi and her husband sat down and planned things; including food and decorations. I was really excited but as the day can closer it went from exciting to scary. There was shopping to do, decorations to finalise, food to be prepared, and entertainment to be arranged

And unfortunately, I had to work late on Thursday so my BIL and husband went shopping instead. When I got home, most of the shopping was done but there was still preparation to do, so we went to bed late and it was the same story on Friday. So I was bit tired on the big day.

I had invited people from 12 noon so we had to get everything ready really early. I am so glad that I had my cousins and my brother and a friend helping us. Without them, I and my husband couldn’t have accomplished everything.

So some of us tackled the decoration and the rest were busy preparing the food. The entrée was BBQ chicken wings with corn cobs, chips, green salad and Methi (Fenugreek) salad.  It was followed by main which was hot dog, pasta salad, BBQ prawns, and Greek salad. There was beer and soft drinks as well.

It took a while to do the decoration, especially to setup the gazebo, get the banners and balloons up.

Anyway, the decoration was done by 10am and food was prepared by noon. So we waited for the guest to arrive.

The first guest arrived around 1pm and the party began.

The day was not too hot so only a few people went for a swim; the water was cold but it was fun to take a dip.

As the guest arrived, we served them entrée with drinks. When there were enough people, we start the games.

The first was Egg and Spoon Relay but instead of an egg we used table tennis ball. Participants had to carry a ball on a plastic spoon, held between their teeth, across the yard and transport the ball safely across the finish line without dropping it.

I could see how competitive my family and friends were during the game. Some of them were using blue tack and sticky tape to stick the ball to the spoon to win the game but it was a great one to start off the party.

We had competition between boys and then girls.

Then we played bingo which was a long game. Egg and Spoon Relay is a game of probability in which players mark off numbers on cards as the numbers are drawn randomly by a caller, the winner being the first person to mark off all their numbers. Please click here if you want to know the details.

It was fun to call out numbers and my friend DB and my nephew and niece helped me. Everyone was excited to win the game but funny enough out of 6 wins, there were only 4 winners, 2 winning 2 games each.

By then the sun had set and it started getting a bit chilly so we moved the rest of the party upstairs to our apartment.

There we served the mains and we had our usual chitchat. The evening concluded with cake and me getting lots of gifts.

My niece and nephew were more excited than me to blow the candles in the cake so they helped me :).

I am so happy to receive so many wonderful gifts from my family and friends. I was spoiled indeed.

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While looking for games for my own party, I found a few interesting games that can be played during BBQ. Here are some of them.

Clothespin Tag

For those that want physical activity in their picnic game, try a little game of “Clothespin Tag.” Supplies include people (the more the merrier!) and a bag of clothespins. For this picnic game, the clothespins are available at any local variety store. Simply clip 2 or 3 clothespins at various spots on picnic attendee’s shirts. Then yell “GO!” The one with the most clothespins at the end of this picnic game wins!

Chair Balance

Tired, take a seat with this picnic game, “Chair Balance.” See how long you can sit…without a chair! This is a fun activity you can do with your buddies. You’ll need at least six people: four for each chair, one person to remove the chairs, and one person to spot the people on the chairs.

Set four chairs with the front of each chair touching the right side of each chair, making a square. Have your four friends sit on them so each person can lean back and rest his head on another person’s lap. When all four people are lying on each other and their feet are firmly on the ground, take away the chairs. See how long everybody can stay balanced using only your legs.

What in the world are YOU doing?

For those that would enjoy more mental exercise for their picnic game, try this variation on charades, called “What in the world are YOU doing?” To play this picnic game, the first player pretends to do something, like drink water. The next player asks “What in the world are YOU doing?” The first player answers, saying something other than what they were doing. In our example for this game, the first player, who was pretending to drink water might say, “I was driving my car.” Then the second player has to pretend they are driving a car, the third player then goes through the process again. This picnic game is best played fast, and if someone messes up and says what they were actually doing, they are out.

Memory

For some more mental exercise, try a picnic game of “Memory”. Here’s a clue: to your memory be true. To play this game you’ll need a tray full of lots of different objects, a towel, a watch to time the game, and a good memory. Everyone who’s playing gets 15 seconds to stare at the tray with all the objects. Use a watch to keep time. Then cover all the objects on the tray with a towel. Each player has 20 seconds to write down every object she can remember. All the players compare their lists. If anyone has the same objects on their lists, those objects get crossed off. Whoever has the most items not crossed off wins this fun picnic game!

Hot Dog Eating Contest

Seat participants behind a long buffet table or around a circular table and tie each players hands behind their back with a scarf or piece of fabric. Assign a couple people to supervise and assist in the competition. Set a time frame such as 10 minutes to see how many hot dogs each player can consume without using his hands. Include hot dog buns, ketchup, relish and mustard to make the competition more difficult. The supervisors will need to be in charge of distributing the hot dogs to the participants.

Egg and Spoon Relay

If boiled eggs are on the menu, use a few for a relay race. Participants must carry an egg on a wooden spoon across the yard and transport the egg safely to the next racer, who waits with his own spoon. You can use raw eggs for this too, but boiled eggs are less messy, and you can eat the leftovers provided they haven’t smashed on the ground.

Three-legged Race

Pair young and old players in a race across the yard to a finish line. Use bandanas to tie players together by one leg. You can have heats with players of different ages or heights. If you want to make the competition tougher, make an obstacle course. Players have to race around the unlit grill, around picnic tables, etc. to reach the finish line.

Wheel barrow races

 Remember this one? I rocked it as a kid and I am hoping to win today. It is like a supported plank in motion. You might want to warm up a little before this one!

Musical chairs

It is a game played by a group of people (usually children), often in an informal setting purely for entertainment such as a birthday party. The game starts with any number of players and a number of chairs one fewer than the number of players; the chairs are arranged in a circle (or other closed figure if space is constrained; a double line is sometimes used) facing outward, with the people standing in a circle just outside of that. A non-playing individual plays recorded music or a musical instrument. While the music is playing, the players in the circle walk in unison around the chairs. When the music player suddenly stops the music, everyone must race to sit down in one of the chairs. The player who is left without a chair is eliminated from the game, and one chair is also removed to ensure that there will always be one fewer chair than there are players. The music resumes and the cycle repeats until there is only one player left in the game, who is the winner. When down to the last two players the chair may be moved as long as the music has stopped before the chair has been touched.