Monthly Archives: August 2013

Our Story : Apart again – Part 16

This is a continuation of my previous post. Please read the previous posts here, Part 1, Part 2, Part 3, Part 4, Part 5 , Part 6 , Part 7 ,Part 8 ,Part 9 , Part 10 , Part 11 , Part 12 ,Part 13 , Part 14. and Part 15

It felt like our relation had more time with us being apart than together.

After the engagement ceremony, we had only a few days before I was packing my bag to go back to Sydney. I had a job interview in a few days once I landed.

The day I was to leave for Sydney, my mum gave me Sagun and my parents along with my aunts, uncles, cousins and AS came to drop me to the airport. Well, what can I say; airports can be so exciting, yet so sad. Just a month before, I was outside Trivbhuvan International airport and was so excited when AS was coming out of those gates and then it was that day I was outside the same airport and I was so sad.

It was so hard for me to leave the country this time as I felt I hadn’t spent enough time with my parents and AS. There were so many things incomplete on my list but I had no choice but to leave.

It was such a sad day when I left Kathmandu. I lingered outside the airport longer than usual talking to my parents and AS. I looked into AS’s eyes and I could see that he was sad as well because we didn’t have enough time together. We wanted to but the circumstances were not on our side. When I entered the airport door for departure, my heart was very heavy. I didn’t turn around and look back because I knew my mum would have tears on her eyes and it would be very hard for me to control my emotions.

The long walk to the check-in counter, the look in their eyes, my feelings, their feelings, so many things combined, then, the moment of truth… saying good-bye one last time through the glass doors before taking the escalator to go to upper level.

Lots of feelings, emotions, and thoughts came to my mind.Questions like what next? When I am going to see AS again? What’s gonna happen with the job? Etc. I had to remind myself that it is not going to be for 10 years this time.

By the time I reached Singapore airport, I was tried and couldn’t wait to find a Wi-Fi hotspot so I could talk to my parents and AS. First I called my parents to tell them that I had reached Singapore safely and would talk to them soon after I land in Sydney. Then I called AS and he came on Skype.

Me: I miss you already

AS: I know baby but we will be together soon.

Me: I am not sure if I made the right decision coming back to Sydney so soon.

AS: I am sure you did love. We will be fine.

Me: Ohoo I hope so. I better get that job …

AS: You will. I am sure

Me: I am not so sure but hope you are right. I love you AS

AS:I love you too baby. Now cheer up. You will do great

Despite AS’s assurance, I had my doubts.

Anyway we talked for a while until it was time for me to board the plane. I was glad he was there during the transit so I was not lonely.

The flight from Singapore to Sydney was long and tiring. Normally I don’t mind flying but I was not in a very high spirit. I tried to watch as many movies as possible and not to think at all.

Once I was back in Sydney, life was back to normal again with Skype keeping us together. Now it was harder to be apart as the relation was new and we both wanted to spend more time together. We tried our best to talk as much as possible as AS was on holiday, it helped a lot. I have to admit he woke up early or stayed awake just to talk to me for a few minutes sometimes. As I was back to work, he managed according to my timetable and I am very grateful for his understanding.

Finally, the day for my job interview came. I was a bit nervous about it but made sure I dressed well for the first impression. They hadn’t seen me yet as my first interview was over the phone.

I wore a white shirt, black skirt with black shoes. I bought a new jacket and made sure I looked professional. When I reached the office, there were 3 people in the interview panel.

I think I was there for 20 minutes and they all asked different questions. I answered best to my knowledge and I thought the interview went well. It took a week for them to get back with the result and I was so glad that I finally got the job. I was to start the next month.

Getting the job definitively made it worth for me to travel back to Sydney but that also meant that I won’t be able to go back to Nepal for 6 months or more. My parents and AS were happy that the outcome was positive and all was good at the end.

Now I had to finalised my old job and get ready for the new one. I made sure there were few weeks off in between so I could rest and start fresh.

In the meantime, AS finished his holiday in Nepal and left for India to continue working there. As we didn’t have a definitive plan, he thought it was a good idea for him to keep working but he decided not to go to US yet. All these uncertainties meant we might be apart for a few months or a whole year; who knew at that time.

While Skyping one day, I came up with a brilliant idea to meet again. It would be 2 months by then that I had seen AS so I suggested we should take a holiday together in Thailand. AS was on board with the idea so we booked our tickets and hotels. I am sure it might have need some convincing in AS’s job for him to take another holiday so soon but it was going to be for 10 days long only.

I was excited again because I knew that I was going to see him soon. In the meantime AS decided to move to Australia to be with me instead of going back to the US. I told him that if things didn’t work out here then I would be happy to move to US in the future. Also as I got a new job it seemed liked a good solution.

So the visa process to come to Sydney was started while I was day dreaming and counting days to meet him in Bangkok.

Will write more soon. Please come back for more.

Till then, take care.


M from nepaliaustralian

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Chocolate self-saucing pudding


  • 1 cup self-rising flour
  • 2 tablespoons cocoa powder
  • 1/2 cup brown sugar
  • 80g butter, melted
  • 1/2 cup milk
  • 1 egg


  • 1 cup brown sugar
  • 1 tablespoon cocoa powder
  • 1 3/4 cup boiling water


  • Preheat oven to 180°C.
  • Grease 4 ovenproof ramekins.
  • Sift flour and cocoa into a large bowl. Stir in sugar.
  • Combine butter, milk and egg.
  • Slowly add to flour mixture, whisking until well combined and smooth.

Chocolate self-saucing pudding

  • Spoon equally into the 4 ramekins.

Chocolate self-saucing pudding (2)


  • Combine sugar and cocoa
  • Sprinkle mixture over pudding.

Chocolate self-saucing pudding (3)

  • Pour boiling water over pudding as evenly as possible.

Chocolate self-saucing pudding (4)

  • Bake for 35 to 40 minutes or until pudding bounces back when pressed gently in centre.

Chocolate self-saucing pudding (5) Chocolate self-saucing pudding (6)

  • Server with cream or ice-cream.

Chocolate self-saucing pudding (1)

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What Makes You Beautiful?

I was at my brother’s place and they have Foxtel which also have lots of Indian channels. According to Indian channels only “Fair is beautiful”. In a half hour of watching the TV, I saw more than a dozen fairness cream ads not only for the face but for the body as well and it is not limited to woman alone. They have special fair and handsome cream for men as well.

I do remember watching some of these ads while in Nepal and it seems like they don’t consider anyone with brown or black skin beautiful.

According to an article by Shantanu Guha Ray, sales are outstripping both Coca Cola and tea. Products with names like ‘Fair and Lovely’ and ‘White Perfect’ are selling by the millions, and men are increasingly getting involved. Only fair is beautiful in India. In a society obsessed with ‘white skin’, fairness is a benchmark for beauty, particularly in the case of women.

Look at some of the ads below and you will understand what I mean.

And it’s not just India, in Nepal as well as other Asian country have similar concept and fair skin is consider beautiful.

Most Nepali people consider lighter brown skin more attractive. If you’re a young Nepali girl running around outside you usually have an aunt, grandmother or an older family friend yelling at you to get inside “before you get too dark.” And if you do tan somebody is going to make a comment about it and note: it’s never positive.

Some ads from around Asia for whitening cream and lotions.

While talking about skin, one of my Chinese friends told me that the Chinese are obsessed with white skin as well. She said that skin colour is directly connected to class in China.

If your skin is dark it is like you work in the fields and working in the fields means you are poor. So a woman should always have fair skin otherwise people will think you’re a peasant

I am brown skinned and I have somewhat felt uncomfortable about my skin while I used to live in Nepal; especially when someone commented on it or compared me with my fairer cousins.

But it all changed when I came to Australia. Here everyone loves my brown skin. I get so many compliments on my brown skin that I am happy to be brown. It seems ironic given that many fair-skinned Americans and Europeans use tanning salons and fake tan cream to darken their skin; it’s a whole different world.

When I went to Nepal for my wedding, I received many suggestions from relatives to bleach the skin to look beautiful as a bride but I refused. I am comfortable in my skin and I don’t want to use chemicals on my skin.

I am happy with who I am and beauty is not just what you can see. I believe that you are truly beautiful if you are beautiful inside as well as outside.

There are many people like Waris Dirie, Naomi Campbell, Halle Berry, Gisele Bundchen who don’t have fair skin but are very beautiful.

So for the people from Nepal, India and China and other Asian countries where fair is beautiful, are the people I just mentioned considered not beautiful?

So why are people so concerned about their skin colour? Have your say.

Take care everyone and have a great weekend,

M from nepaliaustralia


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What is life?

Today I received a very sad email from a former colleague. She used to work with us but had to quit job as her cancer was spreading and she needed to rest. That was 2 years ago. She used to come to work from time to time and we’d go for lunch.

She is one of the happiest persons I know. Despite of her illness, she is always cheerful and had a positive outlook toward life. She is on my Facebook and I am amazed and inspired by her view in life. She always has many good things on her time line. One of the best was

“Just because you can’t see the air, doesn’t mean you stop breathing.

Just because you can’t see God, doesn’t mean you stop believing.”

But unfortunately, in the last 2 months, her health got worse. She was in hospital for a week and now she has decided to leave Australia to be with her family.

Here is a part of her email we received

Hello all,

First of all, my apologies for I haven’t been in touch for long as you might know about my illness. Things happened so fast in the last two months. I have been in the hospital with critical heath conditions. Unfortunately, the CT Scan did show a bad sign of widely spread cancer. So what the oncologist can do was only try to fix the critical problems. Then the only option will be chemotherapy but there is no guarantee, So I decided not to undergo chemo but flying back home to be with my family instead.

As I am leaving this coming week, I would like to take this opportunity to say Thanks and Good Bye to all of you. I had such a very good time in the past 6 years working with everyone, not just like a colleague but as friends. I was so lucky to get to know you guys and had the best friendship ever. Thanks for everything you have done for me. I don’t think if I can find any words to tell how much appreciated I am to be surrounding by good people like you all.

God brought me here to get to know you so I believe this won’t be forever Good Bye but just temporary leaving for good and get myself back on track again. God will working out thing and will walk with me to get thru this tough time, then he will bring me back to see everyone again. Hope and Faith in God bring me the miracle blossom in this moment. I will never give up life and will battling with my spiritual. Thanks God for his loving and blessing. Thanks God for giving me such a very good friends like you guys. I will be back I promise.

I would love to say Bye to everyone myself but unfortunately I am not be able to do that. I will miss you all heaps and will always think of you. You all will always in my prayer.

God Bless you all

Love and Thanks from the bottom of my heart,

Reading the email, I couldn’t stop crying. It is so sad to read her email. I wished I was in touch with her more in past but I really didn’t know what to say. I did keep in touch but may be not enough. And now she will be very far from here and I know I am going to miss her.

In life, we work for money, live for money and fight for money but without health, money is nothing. We refuse to forgive for tiny mistakes and we hold grudges for a long time. When something like this happens to someone near to us, we realise the value of good health and family.

But what is life without a good health? Why do we need to fight when there is enough in this world to share with everyone? Why do we bitch, gossip and dominate when one day all of us will leave this world empty handed?

I just want to request all of you to pray for my friend and for her good health. I hope with all our prayers she will be better soon and will live a normal life. I hope to see the beautiful smile on her face again and very soon.

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Dark chocolate health benefits

When I was growing up in Kathmandu, Nepal I used to love chocolate like every other child, especially Milky Bar, Cadbury Dairy Milk and Kit Kat. The bigger chocolate blocks were very expensive so it was a a big deal when anyone bought me those big sized chocolates. So every time I used to get one, I would eat only a little and save some for the next day. Normally, I would take a week to finish a block even after sharing some with my brother.

So when I landed in Sydney and discovered that chocolates were so cheap here, I consumed so much in the first few months that I got over chocolate after that. So for the last 10 years I stopped buying and eating chocolates apart from the few times when someone has given me some.

But when AS moved to Sydney with me, he got me into dark chocolates. I used to hate it initially because it was so bitter. So I resist for almost a year but after a while, I started enjoying it. Also AS’s constant reminder that dark chocolate is good for us helped me jump the fence.

Now I loved dark chocolate and have a piece now and then.

As with all the food, over consummation is definitely not good but for all the sweet toothed people out there, here are 7 reasons you should eat dark chocolate.

Studies show that dark chocolate (not the sugary crap) can improve health and lower the risk of heart disease.

1. Dark Chocolate is Very Nutritious

If you buy quality dark chocolate with a high cocoa content, then it is actually quite nutritious.It contains a decent amount of soluble fiber and is loaded with minerals.

A 100 gram bar of dark chocolate with 70-85% cocoa contains :

    11 grams of fiber.

    67% of the RDA for Iron.

    58% of the RDA for Magnesium.

    89% of the RDA for Copper.

    98% of the RDA for Manganese.

    It also has plenty of potassium, phosphorus, zinc and selenium.

Of course, 100 grams (3.5 ounces) is a fairly large amount and not something you should be consuming daily. All these nutrients also come with 600 calories and moderate amounts of sugar.

For this reason, dark chocolate is best consumed in moderation. The fatty acid profile of cocoa and dark chocolate is excellent. The fats are mostly saturated and monounsaturated, with small amounts of polyunsaturates. It also contains stimulants like caffeine and theobromine, but is unlikely to keep you awake at night as the amount of caffeine is very small compared to coffee.

Bottom Line: Quality dark chocolate is rich in Fiber, Iron, Magnesium, Copper, Manganese and a few other minerals.

2. Dark Chocolate is a Powerful Source of Antioxidants

Have you ever heard of a measure called ORAC? ORAC stands for Oxygen Radical Absorbance Capacity. It is a measure of the antioxidant activity of foods. Basically, researchers pit a bunch of free radicals (bad) against a sample of food and see how well the antioxidants in the food can “disarm” them.

The biological relevance of this metric is questioned, because it’s done in a test tube and may not have the same effect in the body. However, I think it is worth mentioning that raw, unprocessed cocoa beans are among the highest scoring foods that have been tested. Dark chocolate is loaded with organic compounds that are biologically active and function as antioxidants. These include polyphenols, flavanols, catechins, among others.

One study showed that cocoa and dark chocolate contained more antioxidant activity, polyphenols and flavanols than other fruits they tested, which included blueberries and Acai berries .

Bottom Line: Cocoa and dark chocolate have a wide variety of powerful antioxidants, way more than most other foods.

3. Dark Chocolate May Improve Blood Flow and Lower Blood Pressure

The flavanols in dark chocolate can stimulate the endothelium, the lining of arteries, to produce Nitric Oxide (NO), which is a gas. One of the functions of NO is to send signals to the articles to relax, which lowers resistance to blood flow and therefore reduces blood pressure.

There are many controlled trials showing that cocoa and dark chocolate can improve blood flow and lower blood pressure, but the effects are usually mild . However, there is also one study in people with elevated blood pressure that showed no effect, so take all this with a grain of salt (8).

Bottom Line: The bioactive compounds in cocoa can improve blood flow in the arteries and cause a small but statistically significant decrease in blood pressure.

4. Dark Chocolate Raises HDL and Protects LDL Against Oxidation

Consuming dark chocolate can improve several important risk factors for heart disease.  In a controlled trial, cocoa powder was found to significantly decrease oxidized LDL cholesterol in men. It also increased HDL and lowered total LDL in men with elevated cholesterol . Oxidized LDL means that the LDL (“bad” cholesterol) has reacted with free radicals. This makes the LDL particle itself reactive and capable of damaging other tissues… such as the lining of the arteries in your heart.

It makes perfect sense that cocoa lowers oxidized LDL. It contains an abundance of powerful antioxidants that do make it into the bloodstream and protect lipoproteins against oxidative damage. Dark chocolate can also reduce insulin resistance, which is another common risk factor for many diseases like heart disease and diabetes.

Bottom Line: Dark chocolate improves several important risk factors for disease. It lowers the susceptibility of LDL to oxidative damage while increasing HDL and improving insulin sensitivity.

5. Dark Chocolate May Lower The Risk of Cardiovascular Disease

The compounds in dark chocolate appear to be highly protective against the oxidation of LDL. In the long term, this should cause much less cholesterol to lodge in the arteries and we should see a lower risk of heart disease over the long term. It turns out that we have several long-term observational studies that show a fairly drastic improvement.

In a study of 470 elderly men, cocoa was found to reduce the risk of cardiovascular death by a whopping 50% over a 15 year period . Another study revealed that eating chocolate 2 or more times per week lowered the risk of having calcified plaque in the arteries by 32%. Eating chocolate less frequently had no effect . Yet another study showed that chocolate 5+ times per week lowered the risk of cardiovascular disease by 57% .

Of course, these 3 studies are so-called observational studies that can not prove that it was the chocolate that caused the reduction in risk.

However, given that we have a biological mechanism (lower blood pressure and oxidized LDL) then I find it plausible that regular consumption of dark chocolate can in fact reduce the risk of heart disease.

 Bottom Line: Observational studies show a drastic reduction in heart disease risk for the people who consume the most chocolate.

6. Dark Chocolate May Protect Your Skin Against The Sun

The bioactive compounds in dark chocolate may also be great for your skin. The flavonols can protect against sun-induced damage, improve blood flow to the skin and increase skin density and hydration .The minimal erythemal dose (MED) is the minimum amount of UVB rays required to cause redness in the skin, 24 hours after exposure.

In one study of 30 people, the MED more than doubled after consuming dark chocolate high in flavanols for 12 weeks .

If you’re planning on a beach vacation, consider loading up on dark chocolate in the prior weeks and months.

Bottom Line: Studies show that the flavanols from cocoa can improve blood flow to the skin and protect it against sun-induced damage.

7. Dark Chocolate May Improve Brain Function

The good news isn’t over yet. Dark chocolate may also improve the function of the brain.

One study of healthy volunteers showed that 5 days of consuming high-flavanol cocoa improved blood flow to the brain . Cocoa may also significantly improve cognitive function in elderly people with mental impairment. It also improves verbal fluency and several risk factors for disease .

Cocoa also contains stimulant substances like caffeine and theobromine, which may be a key reason cocoa can improve brain function in the short term .

There is considerable evidence that cocoa can provide powerful health benefits, being especially protective against cardiovascular disease. But of course, this doesn’t mean people should go all out and consume lots of chocolate every day. It is still loaded with calories and easy to overeat on. Maybe have a square or two after dinner and try to really savor them.

Be aware that a lot of the chocolate on the market is crap. You need to choose quality stuff… organic, dark chocolate with 70% or higher cocoa content. Dark chocolates often contain some sugar, but the amounts are usually small and the darker the chocolate, the less sugar it will contain.

So go now and indulge in some dark chocolate  🙂

Do you like dark chocolates?

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